i have a gal fren,and she is serious abt me,she want to marry me but my parents are not ready for it,i told her everything abt the situation,i cant hurt my parents n marry her as i am the only Son,she is now emotionaly blackmailing me that she will end her life if i dont marry her,what shoud i do.....plz guide me ....
2007-02-09 23:25:10 · 22 answers · asked by dreamboy_4_u0072002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
y don't ur g/f n ur parents meat 4 tea or lunch
2007-02-09 23:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being backed into a corner and you really can't marry her. She has some serious issues alright. Too serious! You can't marry her and it's not because of any family matters. For her to dump this on you is just plain wrong. She's emotionally unstable. If you married her you would be forever dodging her emotional tirades. Like you say. This is blackmail and entrapment. Not the sort of foundation for a marriage. She needs psychological intervention. Is this a fatal attraction? You could call her bluff. Then again...What if? If she is serious about ending her life then it will be necessary for her to be forced into getting the help she is desperate to receive. If she is looking for attention, this is a sure way to get it. Whether you know it or not, there are mental hygiene statutes; laws that are there to prevent this sort of thing from happening. There are people are out there who take this sort of threat very seriously. So tell her that you are not going to be coerced and manipulated. If she goes off the deep end then make the call and have her put in the hospital. But under no circumstances should you commit yourself to marrying her. This may sound harsh but it's nowhere near as what she is trying to do.
2007-02-10 08:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention weather you are wanting to be married or not?
Your parents don't need to be ready for you getting married, that is totally your discission not theirs. I do think it is great that you do consider your parents feeling, you are a good son for doing that. However don't let your parents not being ready be the controlling factor of your getting married or not, they may never be ready to see that happen. And this girl isn't right for you if she is trying to blackmail you. Dump her and I mean DUMP HER NOW!!
Never allow any one to pull that kind of crap on you ever, as I said dump her and move on. After you dump her do not talk with her again no matter what. she is an emotional vampire. Any one who would tell you that they will kill them self if you don't marry them is nuts, they are a french fry short of a happy meal.
Walk away and don't look back, you are not responsible for any thing that some one does to them self. Never allow any one to have that much control over you so that you would be forced into getting married.
No one has the right to try to pull that kind of crap on any one. You need to remember you are only responsible for your self, and any thing that she does to her self is her choice to do.
As I said people like that are emotional vampires they suck the very life out of you, don't let her have the chance.
2007-02-10 07:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i would not marry her if I were you. She seems unstable and this is not good. You would not be marrying her for the right reasons. If she ends her life that is her choice and you would not be to blame for it. Get out of the relationship now or it will only get worse. This woman needs help from a professional therapist and you cannot help her with it. She does not really love you any way she is obsessed about you and that is not good!
2007-02-10 08:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give in to emotional blackmail, EVER, you are not responsible for her choices or her actions. If you have any reason to think she will actually try to end her life you should tell someone that can keep a close eye on her. Since your time won't be taken up with her, perhaps you could buy, and read, a dictionary?
2007-02-10 07:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what?my bf's mum hates me and stresses him to end the relation we have.don't loose love just to make ur parents happy.don't let urself manipulated by them just because u are the only son.nd if u are so what?!!?i hate it when parents interfer.my opinion is that grl loves u a lot and she doesn't know what to say to make u realize she only wants to be with u for the rest of her life.believe me,i know.i'm passing through a similar situation and my bf seems to be like u.still carring abt what his parents think.don't get me wrong:it's ok as long they don't control ur life or decisions.think abt what u wanna do forgetting abt ur parents and abt ur gf's blacmailing,ok?only then u will get the right answer.if u wanna marry her then do so,if u are still addicted to ur parents..god!grow-up!
2007-02-10 12:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by lizutza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry pal. Insist ur parents on marrying her. U being the only son parents would finally give in...
Dont worry for all this stuff .... Thats Life and God's Great
2007-02-10 07:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by SravanKumar Iyer ( Shavi) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear friend u love her and also love your parents.and u have not neglected in it.as for parents u said that without their permission u can not marry her.but did u try to know wheather ur parents really love you or not.u r the only son of ur parents.they should have their foremost duty to respect ur feeling and try to fullfil ur every desire and give u all happiness.if they really love u then they should live with what gives u happiness.here is the matter of right and wrong.here do u think ur parent is right with ruining ur happiness.it is not a nature of ideal parents.on the other hand one is ready to die for u whom u also love.try to make understand ur parents and if they do not agree, create an epitome with becoming a right human beings in society.my dear friend it is really tough still it is not beyond ur ability.best of luck.
2007-02-10 13:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by dipti prakash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky!!
Well, you have been so lucky! She is not the right women to marry, because she is already preasuring you do do what she wants you to do.
If you marry her, you will be her slave for your whole life. You will not notice anything today or tomorrow, but one day you will be 55 years old, with two kids one morgatge and she will step on you. And then there will be nothing to do!
Now you know the truth thanks to the internet. Now is up to you if you want to save your life
2007-02-10 07:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by www.tr-avel.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The end her life statement now makes her someone that you should NOT marry. This is not someone that you want to marry. Back out of this relationship as fast and as carefully as you can. Good Luck.
2007-02-10 09:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
see,you need your parents support till the end,first you can talk
to your parents and try to explain them the situation and try to co
nvience them,after that if they are not coming to an conclusion w
hich is favourable for you,then you have a talk with her and ask h
er to be without tension and all will work out for you,and who kno
ws what will happen to human minds,your parents may also ch
ange.
2007-02-10 07:46:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋