He has two young kids and a kind wife. He doesn't know about anything but he's kinda nervous whenever he sees me. I don't know why is he so. He is always a cool and mature man with others. I want him so much.
2007-02-09 23:05:25 · 17 answers · asked by Deborah T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You may want him but......HE IS TAKEN leave him alone. Why would you want to destroy a family unless you are heartless!!!!
2007-02-09 23:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to wait for him to make that decision. This man is married and has kids and is trying to make a life for himself. I know you have a passion for him but you really need to think about what he wants. You have to make sure that he wants to be with you. Mainly b/c he has a family he must take care of and also put yoursel in the wif's shoes. She is scared out of her wits b/c she doesn't want him to leave her all alone with 2 kids and a child support check and no happiness. Think of the family and know that you might have to move on. Let him make the decision. Also don't get into something with this man if there is not going to be any divorce or something like that b/c you would be tearing a relationship apart sleeping with her man by a legal bindmanship. Just think about what you are doing before acting!
2007-02-09 23:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have so been there done this. Listen to me..I was 20 years old and the guy was my boss. He has a great wife who was a great friend at the time and two kids who adored me and I them...In the long run, this guy and I had a sexual relationship for almost 6 months. It was worth the learning experience and the growing up it caused in me...but it broke my heart in the end..which i knew that it would do this because he had no intentions of leaving his family and i understood that, but that did not stop my heart from wanting that last attachment..if you and he decide to do this..please tread softly..a broken heart of this kind really really hurts..good luck
2007-02-09 23:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by lucy_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are infatuated with mature men. Its ok. But dont delude yourself that a married man with two kids and a kind wife would really leave them for you.
If he is not a decent man, then he would probably have a fling with you, once or twice, before he dump you! If that is ok with you then go ahead!
But consider this. If he can cheat his wife, with whom he has two children, what would prevent him from cheating YOU, who made herself cheap anyway?!!
Find someone else if you want matured person to love.
All the best!
2007-02-09 23:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon you should leave him. It isnt love, it's lust. Could you bare the fact that if you walked into that mans life, you'll destroy his family? Two young kids and a kind wife? Could you bare the guilt that two young children are gonna lose their dad and their role model. If you were his wife with two young kids, would you want someone to step into your family life and destroy everything? Let the man go!
2007-02-09 23:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by little.clown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that you don't understand why he's nervous. He's cheating on his wife and disrespecting his children and their mother, his wife. He is nervous because he knows what he's doing is wrong and he is ashamed of himself deep down inside. Is this really what you want? To know that when he leaves you he's going home to another woman and a family? He will never leave her for you. You are setting yourself up to be hurt badly! Don't degrade yourself by going after another womans husband. Find your own man and make a life for yourself with a single man who can put you first in his life. You will regret what you are doing one day!
2007-02-10 02:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,Deb! I guess from a pragmatic standpoint, why don't you put yourself in his wife's shoes? (Though it's not easy!)
How would you feel if you were her, if someone were secretly going with your husband, (I assume it's secret, and I also am assuming that you are actually having a relationship.) Her feelings are very important in this matter. Would he go out on you if you became his? I'm not saying he WOULD, but such precedents are often the case.
Now the third question, and this is the toughy: would she be willing to accept you and to tolerate you as number three in the relationship. If not, such an intrusion on your part cou ld do a lot of damage, and could do it ANYWAY. (She might accept you but change her mind afterwards. If these three criteria check, ALL OF THEM! then you might consider such a relationship. If not, you're probably lookin' at heartache further on down the road and it's most likely gonna be yours!
One more little bit of advice, and this I learned on my own (bitter) experience. I was in love; totally snowed, the sex was good, she was charming, we had weekends where we got wrapped up in each other for hours, days, in bliss. There was only one little catch; she told me outright, that if someone else came along, she was his, and he did, and she was. Still, I was the obediant slave, and the waggy-tailed doggy. Some aquaintence asked me if it was't only emfatuation to which I quickly replied "Of course not, I was really in love! " And boy WAS I! But this little question sort of ate at me and quiered at me till finally I asked myself, "What IS emfatation Anyway?" and I went to the dictionary and it rudely spoke to me. It said, "A destructive love relationship!" It was painful, like a good spanking, but "It hurt so GOOD!" It was clear to me what was really going on here: this relationship was having a destructive affect on my life, on me, on my surroundings and the fog was lifting from mmy mind. (The truth is, this person, though I was very much I love with her, and she was charming and very sensual, and enjoyable, was VERY shallow. I was wasting my time ! There were areas of conversation, of life which could not be approached.
Did I then have the resolve to jump right out of it? No, sad to say, I was still the doggy with his little tongue hanging out. But it had started. I was on the road to deliverance, THANK GOD!
2007-02-09 23:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sionarra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not love; it's infatuation. Think about Amy Fisher and Joey Buttafucco (?). Find someone available to give your attention to. What makes you think that if he was stupid enough to leave his "kind wife" and two young children for you that he wouldn't do the same thing to you a few years down the road. Leave the guy alone, grow up and find someone who is unattached.
2007-02-09 23:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't want him so much!It's wrong!!Not only because of kids and wife but because of you!At the end he will return happy with his family,and you will be hurt.Rarely married man are leaving their secure with their wives!
2007-02-09 23:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by HPA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just drop it. Find an unmarried man.Do not destroy a family or else you will regret it over time and from his kids.
2007-02-09 23:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Find yourself a single bloke - it's much less heartache all round
2007-02-09 23:08:05 · answer #11 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋