i've been hanging around with this guy for some time now. he helps me a lot (school stuff and all), people have been teasing us, saying we look good together but i easily dismiss them because i never really thought we could be together, well, because the first time i met him, i knew he isn't straight. i don't know if i'm just being judgmental or what but i couldn't bear to share my guy with somebody else, especially gays/guys. Lately he's been sending messages implying that he has a thing for me or am i just misinterpreting them as his wanting to not just be friends with me? I've nothing against gays, bis, etc. in fact, i extremely enjoy being around them but i'm not sure if i can endure worrying about whether the next cute guy we meet would attract only me or him also. =(
2007-02-09 22:30:51 · 4 answers · asked by no-namer 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey......... the only way to be sure about something like this is to ask the guy. Dont waste ure time thinking of what he thinks or what orientation he is, just ask him. Try to ask him if he has any feelings for you, and if he says no then leave it as that, tell him what you thought his messages meant and that you dont want this affecting your friendship at all. In life the only way to clear things is to ask it out straight, but obviuosly not in an offending way. Dont waste time, coz who knows you guys could be spending more time together loving eachother rather than thinking about what life would have had been with that person. Hope I helped :)
2007-02-09 22:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by R P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be upfront and ask him about his sexuality, and if he is coy about it, or doesn't want to disclose this to you, then preface your question by saying that you were only asking because you thought that there could be something between you.
if he is shocked by your question / answer, then you can tell him about the suggestive text messages, and that you thought he was gay, but no matter what happens you treasure his friendship more than anything else.
this covers all bases.
i think you should be transparent with your friends, as friendhip isn't supposed to be this difficult. in answer to your question... is it going to be worth your time? you never know if you don't try...
good luck
x
2007-02-10 06:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is just a friend then that is not a problem to be with him, and you dont need to worry about the next cute guy you may meet.....even if he gets attracted to him too, if the new guys is not a gay, then why worry about it...
2007-02-10 07:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you simply ask him if he is gay or straight and that should solve your problem.
2007-02-10 09:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋