I'm ugly and poor. How can i get someone to...?

Question

...Love me romantically? Or at least, not be offended when I say I like him?

Imagine this: Everyone hears my thoughts. Everytime I liked someone, he ended up hating me.

What do I do? Do I pitifully hide my feelings, only to let it burst out one day, or just admit to myself I like the person?

What do I do?

Answer 1

Imagine this: Someone loving You for all the things that embody “The Uncompromised You.” Someone who loves you for everything that You are today and forever, and truly accepting You for everything that, at present, you are not.

The moment you compromise your natural being in hopes of winning the affections of another - that is the moment your soul is denied the breath of Life. There is a difference between living, and being Alive. If we are so compelled to change ourselves, then we should first examine what we expect to gain and whether the gain is realistic [given what we know about love and relationships]; especially since the cost of doing business often becomes a metaphorical death of our character.

Unfortunately, we live in an era that shoves corporate marketing so far up our asses, how can we not help but believe that we are truly incomplete. While the messages come to us in many forms, the underlying content is consistent and simple: “I am empty inside because I lack…. I need more of this thing….. unless I have THIS… I will remain LESS desirable, LESS significant, LESS fascinating, LESS loveable.” That in turn, takes our brain into the thinking pattern of “If I am incomplete, then how would anyone want to be with me? To Love me? So I must make all sorts of changes, exceptions, etc. to “ME” if I am ever to receive the kind of love I desire.”

Weather it’s bigger boobs, fuller lips, longer hair, fancier cars, personal trainer at the gym, latest fashion, or a white picket fence around the house……. The external things will transform us into some great human being, who surly will find their perfect mate, and live out a storybook ending.

I think we know that’s just horse crap. But it’s been seared into generations of minds. Is that really honoring our identity? No. It’s mal-adapting ourselves into what we think others want us to be like; resulting in what we think is a loving relationship, only to have reality set in and we are left standing alone wondering why it fell apart...

Sure, money can do many things to improve the outside image. At any given moment, our artificial identities can be stripped of our money, our social status, our material possessions…….and what’s left? A faint and hollow outline of our “material potential…”

This is what I call the Metaphorical Death. Avoid it! Be who you are without exception. If you want to let someone know you find them interesting, then allow your soul to say it! But don’t try to be anything other than You. We aren’t robots. But sometimes I think that’s what we’re becoming. The more you let that go, the more real you will become. The more real you are, the more likely you will find someone who deserves to be with you. Someone who is in it, not for how well you can package yourself, but for all of the authentic You are and will become!

Answer 2

I know this advice may sound cliche but...just be yourself..and tell him how you feel...cuz if you dont, you may end up always wondering what could have been...real love is hard to find...and sometimes...you have to take a few risks...in fact when it comes to love, you always have to take risks...its just kind of how love works. So hey if you think you like this guy and you think that he´s worth the risk..then just go ahead and let him know how you feel. :)

And hey dont say that, i am sure that you are way more pretty than you think you are. Dont be so hard on yourself, dear. And it definitely doesnt matter at all if you´re not rich. Its just money, money plays no part in love at all, ok? :)

Good luck! I really hope everything works out for you. =)

Answer 3

go to the gym and get a awsome body to make up for your face, maybe go to the dentist and get a nicely cut hair cut and new clothes. Keep working and try to get a new job. Thats all I got. It takes lots of work to become good looking or atleast OK looking

Answer 4

Confucius says for a blind person beauty is not in the eye of the beholder.... Now if we can just think of a way to shut that big mouth of yours.....

Answer 5

I can't hear your thoughts, although I found myself nodding at your question. I don't hate you; admit you like the person.

Answer 6

Oh im one in all those human beings and from my own adventure is to make "beautiful" human beings such as you stand out and look greater effective in assessment without gruesome human beings like me, all you "beauties" could merely be typical jackass

Answer 7

You need to change the way of how you perceive these stuff. If they hate you, then it's probably their loss. So why worry?

Answer 8

You just label yourself emo and join the emo masses. You''ll be just fine.

Answer 9

I will never be offended by any such thing ever.
poor?
got plenty
ugly?
beauty is inside
Green face
greetings.

Answer 10

start looking at yourself differently...others will follow suit. how can you expect others to like you if you can't even like yourself?