like in piano i started learning this song coptine d'une autre ete , and then today she decides she wants to learn it to , and she quit piano years ago , and i kept going and for once i was the one who played piano and now she even wants to have the same teacher , which now makes my lesson 3o mins long instead of an hour , and it feels like shes only doing it to make me mad , and when ever i draw anyting she has to draw sumthing better , and it feels like anything special about me , becomes special about her too !! , an shes always taking me clothes , and she even want to get her haircut like me !!! i kno that its being selfish to keep things to myself , but i want to be special in my own way !! pleez help
2007-02-09 21:26:55 · 7 answers · asked by paperbag<3princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being worshipped isnt as cool as it sounds I guess huh?
You dont say how old she is but eventually she is going to want to be independent. I bet she wouldnt follow you if you said you loved doing things like cleaning the bathroom or kitchen. Start doing things you know she hates and dont talk to her about the things you really do like.
2007-02-09 21:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be doing everything really good, and she wants to follow. Isnt that good ? After all she is your sister, not an outsider...She may not be intentionally making you mad, it may seem like that to you..and then even if it was intentionally, everyone knows that she quit piano years ago, and that you were the one learing it and sticking to your classes as of now...If she draws someting better, and if her intentions are negative, then try praising her for the work, and probably she'll get to wondering why you arent getting irritated with her.
But then look at this way. She can copy learning piano, she draws something better than you may have, and she may even cut her hair they way you do, but what can she do about your identity, as in your character ? Would she be able to copy that too ? I dont think so. No matter what similarities are present, you two are two different individualities...she has her way of dealing with things, and you have yours, which is what matters in terms of your dealing with everyting and everyone..
So enjoy the attention, dont show her that you do get irritated, probably you could sit with her and tell her that you do find it strange that she is doing everything that you may want to do, and you do feel bad, and that you feel she is letting you down, so could she please tell you why all this is happening ? And you are special in your own way, I am sure, there is absolutely no piano classes. drawing or hair cut to prove that. Do you know of all the things that she hates doing ? Probably some of them are things that you love doing, this is mean of me to tell you, but why dont u pick up things you like and she detests, and see for yourself how far it gets.....On the whole, let it pass, how long would she be able to do that, and how much can she continue doing everything you do....time will tell..
good luck
2007-02-10 06:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be angry with her or mad!
We all have our idols and perfect icons to love or to immitate. Your sister appears to have you as her idol. Its flattering!
She might be doing this either as a result of believing that you are the most smart person whom she wants to be, or as a means of annoyance and competition. Neither should annoy you.
If she does this as part of her idolation of you, you have every reason to be proud of yourself and also for being able to assist your sister in becoming a good girl.
If, on the other hand, she does this in order to annoy you, the more you show signs of being annoyed the more she will do it. You will be the looser. If you just ignore it and continue doing YOUR things the way you want, she will eventually get tired and resume her own life. Both of you will be winners!
Competation among siblings is not uncommon, and its not unhealthy. The oldder sisters/brothers can be extreemly helpful to their younger sisters and brothers if they exrecise tolerance and display a sense of maturity.
In conclusion, be proud of yourself and be helpful to your immature sister. After all, she IS your sister! You should never loose her and she should never loose you!
Lead her on!
All the best!
2007-02-10 05:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Copying someone is the highest form of flattery there is. Your sister obviously thinks you have good taste in most things, so instead of getting annoyed just give her suggestions about what you think would look great on her or for her to make her an individual. She would probably think it a good idea as she obviously likes most things you do.
2007-02-10 05:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should realise that by copying everything you do, wear, like and enhance makes you her ideal role model. It is obvious she would like to be like you for the simple reason that she looks up to you with admiration. This is a phase which she will soon outgrow. Until such time, continue to inspire and lead her. It is not easy, but pride yourself with the fact that you are on the right path.
2007-02-10 05:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by MaggieSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are special and unique in your own way, as is everyone. Can you not see her behaviour as flattering? She obviously admires you? Maybe you could speak to your Mom, or find ways to encourage your sister to develop a different style and interests?
2007-02-10 06:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are special! copying ones behavior is the greatest form of flattery she could bestow on you. How she must admire you as the idol she looks up to and wants to be just like you. Please have patience with her. and feel special...you are.
2007-02-10 05:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋