do you think americans look down on mothers?

Question

what do you think we can do to improve things for the american mother? i have always felt like people look down on mothers in our culture. sometimes i wonder if thats why people get abortions and dont want to be moms. mothers are not revered. people always assume young mothers want welfare and to eat potatoe chips all day. on the television, i feel they are portrayed as haggard and fat and like their lives are passing by and they long to do other things than to be trapped into being a mother. i have never felt mothers were are respected as i see them being respected in other cultures. however i am happy that a lot of actresses are having babies and still maintaining their careers. thats a positive. what do you think? what do you think we can do to improve things for the american mother?

what makes me ask this question? many things. i have always felt since i was little that people secretly hate mothers. i have heard a lot of vitriol about women loving welfare and wanting to bleed the life out of men. i also feel this is the primary reason women defend abortion. they feel they wont get support and the society wont be supportive of them. i guess im not comfortable with it. im a woman without children if you are curious.

Answer 1

They look down on the problems of mothers because a mother's problems are almost insurmountable.
In my part of the world some humanists suggest new mothers be paid their full salary for 3 years after a child is born which is not practicable, not because the economy cannot wear it but because employers would cease to employ child bearing aged women.
I know because my boss told me this is exactly what he would do if legislators voted in favour of such a law.

Answer 2

A negative side effect of the women's movement is that not only are women expected to be mothers, they are expected to have a career, and keep the house tidy as well, and you can barely get by on one income these days. Quite a load, don't you think? The problem has become so severe here in Australia, that nobody is having kids. The government is paying each mother $4,000 just to have a baby, and the figure is due to rise to $5,000. All I can say is, I am glad employers in this country are flexible enough to accommodate working mothers. A note for you, princess Istntfnd, some pregnancies are unplanned, so it's not like every woman with a child made a choice, as you assert. Having a sick day to look after an ill child is not a privilege, Istnfnd, it's a right. Assuming you are American, Istnfnd, and if you represent the majorty of America's opinions, the asker is right by saying America looks down on mothers. What a terrible shame. I love Australia.

Answer 3

Q- Are you an african american buddhist? A- No. Q- Does anyone know any african american buddhists? A- Tiger Woods, Tina Turner, Jan Willis and Charles R. Johnson.. Q- Fear of not being accepted by other african americans. A- This is your life and you do what is best for you. I am confident that you choose the right path even though Buddhists are in the minority of the world population. Don't be discouraged by few obstacles. Please continue studying and practicing and you will reach the point that you are no longer wavering. Please make certain that you really know 1) Four Noble Truths (Ariya-Sacca), 2) Satipatthana (=Vipassana = Insight Meditation), and 3) Three Marks of Existence (Three Characteristics of Nature, Ti-lakkhana). These concepts are very deep and very difficult to understand. Q- Fear of being looked down upon at the Buddhist temple. A- A real Buddhist will be happy to see you there and no one will laugh at you. We believe that our Body and Mind are borrowed from the Earth. We don't own them. We also suffer from aging, sickness, death, and mental illnesses including greed, anger and ignorant of the true nature of reality. The so-called country, religion, race, sex, land, etc are all man-made. We temporary own this body, land, or house and we will eventually give them back to the Earth. If we are all realized about this fact, there should not be any racism, fight or any unnecessary activities.

Answer 4

Benji brings up a good point. Fathers in general in my opinion are highly overlooked. Today there are more and more single fathers. For some reason or another they have decided to single handedly take on the responsiblility of raising there children. There is very little out there to help them, ppl often think there men so they should have all the answers, have great jobs, and everything should come easy. But it doesn't. I have a friend that took custody of his child, even after finding out she was not bilogically his.


In my opinion, respect is earned. Just because your a mother, even a hard working mother overcomming lots of obstacles does NOT automatically mean you deserve respect. Often when ppl crave respect, they are doing something in there life that causes ppl not to look highly on them.

Ppl are too consumed trying to prove there worth. Were all trying to prove were better, more deserving, harder working, or go through more then the next person. Why can't we all just work together?


Also, what about the woman who decide for whatever reason not to become a mother? What about the ppl that feel they just couldn't give a child what they deserve? Is that less deserving of respect then a mother? What about the mothers that mistreat there kids? Or have them for there own gain? Even ppl who become mothers just to be respected? Is that really something we should as a society look up to?


What does it matter what other ppl think? If you are a mom, isn't the most important thing your children? As long as you love your kids, give them the things they need, nuture them and help them becme succesful human beings, isn't thats whats important? Who cares what others think. As long as your raising your children to the best of your abilities, and you love them, thats all that really matters. Your kids don't really care who respects you, or what other ppl think of you. They just care what you think of them.

Finally, many of the other countries that think higly of motherhood, don't treat there woman very well. Some woman are simply walking wombs, and there soul job is to have babies, raise them, and be slaves to there husbands. Where is the true respect in that?


Sure mothers are great, fathers are too. So are all the ppl that raise children. What about the older retired grandparents that have to take in there grandkids? They have raised there kids, they did there job, yet take it on again.

Nothing in life is black and white, there are many colors and sides to everything. Like I said before, just love your kids, treat them right, and do the best you can. Even if the world doesn't respect you in the way you crave, your kids will. And isn't that the point of motherhood?

Answer 5

I'm a single father and you don't know what your talking about. Americans worship mothers and hate fathers. I don't even want to comment anymore because your ignorance on this topic infuriates me.

Check out Mens-rights.net if you want to actually learn something about this topic.

To reply to some of your additional comments: Most of these welfare/support things are not even available to single fathers. These systems are soley designed with women in mind. A father is kept out of the loop of all of it.

When I take my son to a doctors appointment, to a court signing or anything of that nature the first thing I hear is "where is his mother?" Then when I tell them I am his primary care giver they don't seem to want to speak to me.

God, I'm going to start to rant now...

In the restrooms at the local conveinence store where I work there is a baby changing table in the women's room. It's this little fold out apparatus. The first time I saw it I was amazed. I remembered all the times I had to sit with my baby son on my knee in the men's stall to change his diaper. Not knowing this whole time that the women's bathroom had this baby changing thing. You know what the men's room's have in the same place the women's rooms have the baby changing thing? Condom dispensers.

I can give you fifty more examples if you want.

Answer 6

Yes, American's hate mothers. Not only do American's hate mothers, but they hate babies. And women. America is destined to be a fully homosexually male culture within 50 years.

Answer 7

I think if mothers would stop asking for special privileges such as taking sick days to stay home with their kids is a start. Stop whining that they need special treatment just because they CHOSE to have a kid. I mean seriously, when you CHOSE to have a kid why should you be granted special privileges such as extra sick days, days off of work. If you didn't want to treated differently you should not have your kid. you want respect? Then you have to be expected to follow the work rules just like every body else. If not...don't have kids.

Answer 8

What makes you ask this question? And your statement is neither here nor there.