Hi everyone, I need a little advice. I made a resolution this year that I'm trying to fulfil. I am a 23 year old female who is a chat room junkie. My problem is not so much that I am addicted to the internet, but that the internet is pretty much my only link to the outside world, and without it I might go days or weeks without actually having a conversation with anyone. I am extreamly shy and have a real fear of rejection and find it dificult to trust others. I don't like, trying new things, being in unfamiliar areas, in public or crowded places and have never gone to a party, club, bar or even the movies in my life. Perhaps this could be the result of having been kept isolated from the world until I was about 16. (I never went to school, I was thought at home) I want this to be the year I have a "real" freind for the first time. Thank you for any advice you can give, I don't want to live like this forever.
2007-02-09 20:52:46 · 7 answers · asked by Sabrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have something called "social phobia" or "social anxiety disorder". In order to deal with this...you need to talk to your doctor. Tell him what is going on. You should be recommended to a psychiatrist...(don't panic!)..because he is the best one suited to get you on the correct medication.You don't have to go to him for counseling..just get on the right meds.
Your doctor should put you in touch with someone for additional counseling on a short-term basis.
I suffer from this myself...and this is how I understand.
Look up social phobia and social anxiety disorder on the internet. There are tons of sites that will say the same thing.
You definitely need some help...and while it may sound serious...it is when it effects your life so much. The medication will help relieve the strong anxiety...so you feel more balanced and the therapy will help you learn some new skills. It doesn't mean you are nuts...just have a disorder that isn't your fault.
Please give yourself a hug for reaching out. You don't have to live like this and your goal and desire for a happier life will lead the way.
Take care!!!
2007-02-09 21:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by kallie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is feeling comfortable and confident within yourself and liking youself otherwise nobody else will. Perhaps this could be in the form of a makeover or fulfilling one of your goals. Go shopping and buy a new outfit which would boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
Join a club. This could be a social club or even joining a course at a community college where you could get to know people with similar interests. Make new friends that share your interests and when you are comfortable with them, socialise outside of the club environment. Dont make your aims too high, however. You'll need to ease yourself into it otherwise you might find yourself disappointed.
2007-02-09 21:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you start going to the park, or walking about the streets and kind of study people ... see how they act and stuff you know so you get in the outside way of life. and when you feel prepared start talking to people or going to a coffee shop, going shopping, try to be nice to people saying good morning or a simple thank you I think that will help you alot... and who knows you might find a friend..
Take baby steps untill you reach you goal...
you said you didnt trust people ... and your right some people cant be trust so be careful... but any way you cant let some people not let you live your life so good luck and the best to you!!!
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if you ever need my help email me....
2007-02-09 21:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by sorayaengland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is acceptable yet purely in a controlled concern and with help. do it in small steps and by making use of a therapist that's schooled in Cognitive Behavioral medical care. maximum phobias could be triumph over while we discover ways to handle our fears.
2016-10-01 21:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad about your predicament. Aside from consulting a professional mental therapist, you can meet people in organizations and clubs that are centered around your interests and hobbies. For instance, if you love animals you can volunteer at your local humane society.
2007-02-09 21:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by kirbyguy44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey you have to just get out there and give it your all.....try going out. With a cousiin or a friend of the families someone who you know. You can talk to me anytime you want, I'll be a real and true friend. I wish you lived near. Just IM we'll talk, I know how you feel.
2007-02-09 21:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a cb,then go to church make new friends,then go shopping meet more friends then flea market ,then resturante,friends are everywhere excpt at insurance office theres none there
2007-02-09 20:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by game boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋