We have been together for 5 1/2 years. He is 23 and I'll be 23 this year. We both have great jobs, but still live at home to save money. I am anxious about a proposal because we've been together so long and I know that we're going to get married some day. Should I be so anxious?
2007-02-09 20:49:57 · 12 answers · asked by K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got married at 23 after knowing my husband for a total of 8 months! Very short time, I know, but we are absolutely right for each other and we were meant to be together. Needless to say, it didn't take us long to know that we were ready and that we wanted to spend our life together.
You need to have open, honest communication with him. Talk about marriage, ask him what he thinks about it, ask him what he sees in your future, but for heaven's sake, don't pressure the man!
I also suggest before you marry that you live together!
2007-02-09 21:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if I rememer my math: 23 minus 5.5 yrs = 17.5. Good Lord, y'all were but mere children--oh, excuse me, teenagers when you first were "together." Why did you commit yourself to one person rather than exploring your possibilities--not a smart move on your part. Well, you're not "over the hill," yet. Get out there and discover your options--you should have never limited yourself to begin with.
Sweetheart, looking at these other posts--you don't want a guy that you have to pursue-you want a man that adores the ground you walk on and can't think of a moment in his life that you are not in and will pursue you to the ends of the earth. Hold out for him--he's just around the next corner.
2007-02-09 21:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is mean but, my grandmother taught me that if it takes a man more then 5 years to ask then he does not want to marry you. Although there are exceptions. #1 your in collage and he wants to wait untill you both can affort a wedding. #2 he is anxious himself and doesnt know how to word it. #3 he as OTHER THINGS ON HIS MIND. hint hint. you are both young and if you have been together that long and only with you. perhaps he may want to ya know (play the field).
On the other hand you two are so deeply in love he wants to wait untill just the right moment for he does not scare you. Perhaps you can slightly hint at marrage.
Go look at the engagement rings at the jewlrey counter and find out your ring size and make sure he is looking for he can also know what size you are. Just say you are thinking about getting a ring for a family member for there birthday.(hint without him realizeing it)Note: try on a engagment ring to find you size comment on how pritty the ring is then put it back.
2007-02-09 21:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by goddessjessie2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? You will not be the same person at 30 that you are at 23. Don't get caught up in the fairy tale of a ring, and a wedding, and the bragging with friends. You still live at home, don't base your relationship on expectations..you'll only set yourself up to be disappointed often. Think about it.
2007-02-10 01:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dunno, i think sometimes the longer youre together or living together, it becomes routine and comfortable and it seems to just end rather than get married kind of like a divorce, you still split everything you bought together, etc.. but since you live at home, i think you should wonder why you are not married yet. 51/2 yrs is a long time, its great, but being together for so long and not moving forward at all would kinda make me wonder...
2007-02-09 21:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horrid I know - but you are both very young. It sounds as though he is in love with you. Enjoy each other and the future will take care of itself. Or you could always propose, on Valentines day lol.
2007-02-09 20:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he feels that your the one the propasal sould be near... you souldnt feel so anxious... marrige is a big step but the time before the marrige is the best ... you should go out and spend time with him and take credit for all the time you have...
2007-02-09 20:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by sorayaengland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't count on it until it happens. However, I would have been outta there after three years... no time to waste....
2007-02-09 23:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even at your age, if he ain't ask, after 5 years, he probely won't.
2007-02-09 21:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't be anious . I wish I would, I could hear from my love.....
2007-02-09 23:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋