hAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 6 YEARS AND HAVE 2 KIDS TO HIM, ALL TOUGH I LOVE HIM EVERYTIME WE HAVE A FIGHT HE DOSENT TALK TO ME FOR DAYS EVEN WEEKS, I HAVE TRIED TO OPEN UP THE LINE OF COMUNICATION BUT IT DOSENT SEEM TO WORK. HE JUST KEEPS SHUTTING OFF TILL HE'S READY TO TALK AND THAN HE ACTS AS THOUGH IT NEVER HAPPEND WITH OUT FIXING THE PROBLEM AT ALL, I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE, IS THIS NORMAL BEHAVOIR FOR A COUPLE?
2007-02-09 20:36:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey...this actually falls under 'emotional abuse'. When someone pulls away and completely withdraws, doesn't talk to you for days, weeks etc...that is hurtful to you in many ways...not to mention incredibly immature and horrible for your children to witness.
For whatever reason he does this...until he seeks some sort of help for this issue....nothing you do will probably make a difference.
Abuse is abuse. Please call a local Woman's Center (they are everywhere)...and talk to them about it. They can make suggestions as to how you should proceed.
Do you really want to live like this? Love is not about pain darlin. I suffered for years in an emotionally abusive marriage. It almost killed me. I lost my soul. As unbelievably hard as it was...I finally left him.
Do you know that I soon found love after that and finally came to understand that love is not about this type of turmoil and pain.
You only have the power to change yourself. The one question I asked myself, which helped to move on was...if he never changed at all...would I still want to be with him?
He is not showing you real love and you deserve the real thing. Think about that.
Please get some type of help. This is not normal and not acceptable.
Take care.
2007-02-09 20:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by kallie m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will never last unless you keep taking that childish behavior from him but it dosent sound like he wants to make it work it takes two and as much as you love him you have to decide does he really truly love you enough to make things work out it sounds like you've taken this for along time, I'm sure you've expressed it to him but you still allow it I say draw the line you shouldn't be afraid to tell you re partner how you feel and then be punished for expressing you views
2007-02-09 21:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-09 21:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It don't looks OK for me. Normally if couples fight, it just takes days for both of them to talk and communicate so that they can resolve the problem. You need to talk to him over this matter
2007-02-10 18:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say if its normal behavior for a male when faced with conflict or a request to participate in an activity he isn't interested in... to withdraw, be in denial, and fail to resolve or solve problems...for some yes, for some no...does it work in a relationship?, well no, you already know that...for you and yours it is status quo... but no, it isn't healthy... but you can't force him to participate if he doesn't want to or hasn't been... you can however, break up, move on, find someone who will treat you with respect and communicate with you, and go through the courts to insure he pays child support...you don't have to do this anymore, it isn't good for you or the children...best of luck...
2007-02-09 20:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you have described sounds an awful lot like a narcissistic personality. Do a google on the personality disorder and then leave him.
2007-02-09 21:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanine G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you, IF YOU HAVE 2 KIDS AND ITS AFTER 5 YEARS, HE AIN'T GONNA MARRY YOU. oh stop shouting. but yes it is normal for a guy not to want to talk and then act like nothing happen.
2007-02-09 21:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better not marry him if you can't get along
2007-02-13 10:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋