if you're married and it doesn't work? do you get divorced or play around?

Question

Maybei didn't fully explain, i have been slowly bullied by my wife. It is't a good thing to admit. But its true all the same. I feel stuck sometimes. As I know what's she's done to me, but yet she has a kack of making me forgive her. I don't know if i can take much more, but I need a way out.

And i can't lower my intelligence to believe in a God! Religion is a form of control that has brought nothing but cruelty and pointless deaths while there are people who will exploite it. Andfor what? so you have something to dampen the reality that we all got a pretty crappy deal. lifes a *****, then you die!

Answer 1

get a divorce then you can play around all you like without the earache lol

Answer 2

you all ready know the answer . you are having doubts now because you did not man up and be truthful to yourself or her,you did not thoroughly think this thru. marriage is a life long journey.i just wish more people would take more time because once you say I DO you have in GODS EYES. are you sure you have tried everything i mean all ways to make this work?or are you trying to find a easier softer way for your own selfish reasons? like its to hard to work this out so i will take the easier way and run away in my opinion you all ready cheated in your mind cause you would not be asking if you did not want to play around, leave please at least do that for her can you be a man or selfish jerk only careing about yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Get some help to try to save it. if you can't make sure you are not bitter and be there for her/him as much as you can, Ya never know, you might need some-- down the road so don't burn your bridges. Don't jump into any relationships for about a year.
Give her any thing she wants and stay friends, never know you might need one down the road. Stay out of her personal life from that day on. She is now her own. As you are to. It must go both ways.

Answer 4

No to divorce and playing around. How about looking hard at why it doesn't work? There is no problem that does not have a solution. I had a similar problem but never wanted divorce so I tried playing around and got more problems. When I think of divorce, it gives me the shivers so I resolved to think why nothing was working and aha! I discovered I wasn't looking hard enough. You can make it work!!

Answer 5

Neither! Your married. You know, you took VOWS!!! There was once a time, before we became a disposable society that people actually worked on their problems! What would you do if you had a rude incorrigible child? Would you put it in an orphanage or leave it on the street? Neither...you would work it help it. you would put your all in to helping it become whole and healthy again. I get so frustrated because people marry with no idea what marriage is about and take vows they don't take to heart. I would yell and call you names but I want you to try and hear what I am saying. How much actual work have you put into fixing it? have you sought outside help? Don't you know as one settles into a relationship and the rose colored glasses of love come off disappointment always sets in...every time! Then you can really start learning about each other and find the true person inside yourself and the person you love and you build on it. you respect, accept and cherish your differences. they make you both grow..Together, not further apart!!! WORK on it. You do not cheat it cheapens you. It erodes your dignity.

Answer 6

Work at the marriage as hard as you can, try to re-live the reasons that you married in the first place. Spend time as a couple again etc.
But if it really feels like it will never work, then a divorce is the way to go! Playing around is unfullfilling and will only cause more hurt.

Answer 7

i would say be honest with them. tell them why you think its not working especially if there's kids involved. because cheating can hurt someone a lot and you'll Never know how much it hurts till it happens to you. and the truth always comes out in the end. so you might as well be honest from the beginning. if you want divorce then do it if you wanna work it out talk it through

Answer 8

I don't see why you should struggle on if you are unhappy in a relationship, but playing around isn't the answer.

Be strong and end things, rather than hurt others because you are unhappy.

Good Luck in love and life.

Answer 9

Get a divorce, less pain for the other party.

Answer 10

Get divorced.....then you both get the chance to find happiness again.
Try to remember that you loved your partner once, don't hurt them anymore than you have to......if you get caught playing around it will destroy whatever is left of your relationship.