What Should I Do?

Question

My Husband has left me with 3 kids he is abusive towards me never talks to me like a person he wants to see his children which at first i was fine with i just asked him to stop treating me like that he then said he will treat me anyway he like cause there is no way i can stop him from having his children now my main problem is that since he has moved out he is taking drugs and drinking all weekend (the time he wants with the kids) he works so he told me that he will take me to court and get whatever he wants i am worried about my childrens saftey when they are with him he is very short tempered i have seen this with his other 2 kids which he never does anything with. What should i do ? Can i get a court order for him to be drug tested before he has the kids can i make the visits supervised what rights do i have to protect my children

as in abusive i mean verbally abusive he has never hit me

Answer 1

You should be running to your family court and seeking custody of your children. Yes you can have him tested. Good luck

Answer 2

If he is drinking and taking drugs, don't let the kids go. Explain to them that he is doing some things that are not meant to be around kids and yes take him to court and file for custody. I got a drug test on my ex through the court system and he failed to take it but none the less if u have reason to believe that he is, bring it up and see if the judge will order one. The most important thing u need to think of is your children. It is your job to keep them safe and not let anything happen to them. Do what your gut says and until there is an order in place, dont let the kids see him. Also document everything, time day what happened, that will really help you if u end up in court over a custody battle. But the bottom line is your children and their safety.

Answer 3

First of all I'm sorry about your situation, second I would get a court order that, he must be drug tested before he even sets this eyes on his children or even be alone with them. Supervise visit would be a great idea and I would stong recommend it. You need to protect those children (from a addict) from an abusive person who could harm them or make bad choices that could endanger there lives. I would not let another day go by or let the sun set on another day before I would let have contact with them. Those children should be yours and his main priority. God Bless and Good Luck!

Answer 4

First I would get proof he drinks around he kids and drugs. I know his friends wont say anything in court, but if you can get someone that is a real friend and really cares about the kids, that's what you need. But ,you may also ask for supervised visitation because you think he is under the influence around the kids, and you don't feel safe with him having them. The court may order a dug test, talk to the district Attorney, they will be the one to prosecute, or talk to The welfare dept. to see what they say. I wish you luck!

Answer 5

Take him to court, don't tell him you plan on doing it and request a drug test on the spot from the judge. Most courts will do it if you present them with reason to believe the kids will be around drugs and be in some type of danger. Your best bet is to also have proof that he puts his hands on you...have someone take pictures or report it to the police, I would go to the police. While you may think that is wrong, think what may happen if he is high and one of the children make him mad. I would also look into an emergency restraining order if he puts his hands on you and you report it. Depending on where you live, some places/hospitals/law officials can press charges themselves depending on how bad it is.

Answer 6

Go tomorrow to the court house and seek advise-Their is no judge in the world who will let your husband see those kids with a drug and alcohol problem. If he doesn't have you around to abuse Hell just abuse the kids. Is that what you want? Do something about this now

Answer 7

Get a court order, and yes if he test positive for drugs there is no way he will be granted custody of the kids, be strong and try not to get the children too involved.

Answer 8

you may want to start the paperwork ~ first and foremost you have to protect the children. yes NOT seeing their father will be hard, but seeing him drunk, high, abusive will hurt them even more. i am not 100% positive that the courts will have him tested EACH time he sees the kids, but if you can show some sort of proof that he is unfit to have the kids alone, the courts can order supervised visitations for him. good luck to you.

Answer 9

Most city's have women shelters that could help you. If I was you I would have never mentioned his other two kids as this should have been an indicator what was in store for you..You need to protect your children. This should always be first. If you have to call the police. Good luck the women shelter could help you with every thing because you are not the first to be with a bum

Answer 10

He can't take your kids or anything else, that's a scare tactic. Personally I would file a report and get some help. File for divorce and document everything he does and says to you or the kids, record harassing calls. File for divorce thereis an advantage to filing first you can be granted temporary legal custody of your kids until the court date for your divorce and you may request a restraining order, to prevent him from returning, if he does break the restraining order he will get arrested.

Answer 11

What are you worried about, he is playing right into your hands. His threat to take you to court over the child visitation rights is going to blow up right into his face. When you are in court, make sure you mention the drug and alcohol abuse, the abusive behaviour towards you, the threats....I don't think any judge in the world would hesitate for one minute to see things your way.