if u were really in love..?

Question

if u were really in love, would it make a difference that your wife gained weight?

Answer 1

no...love come from whats inside not outside... why would that stop your love for her...??

Answer 2

Well. Try flippin' it around. Would it matter If your man gained weight? Let's face it. The reasons behind attraction are many and varied. And sometimes obscure and hazy. Hopefully we are attracted by our mate's personality and character. That being said-lets face it- physical attraction is usually part of most successful reltionships. We(at least, men) cannot control what turns us on physically. Sometimes we don't understand what it is about a woman that turns us on. It really is out of our control. A drastic weight change in our mate can take away that important physical attraction. Men are undeniably (perhaps regrettably) visual creatures. Does'nt mean that we do'nt love our mate any more. Just means that the body that initially turned us on is no longer there. Seems a bit unfair to the women. Being more cerebral, they tend not to obsess so much with the physical. Conversely, seems a bit unfair to the man. He feels regret and loss and guilt for something over which he has no control.

Answer 3

I guess you have already conclude that love is sometimes not real? If it is not real, well, it can not be love either.So you can see that there will be a difference if someone wanted a wife who was chick and slim and all of a sudden she gained weight he did not see when his type of love was cast on her.True love that is real will not see the added weight as a difference but as an intrusion that is either desirable or not.

Answer 4

weight shouldn't b a issue unless its killing her which you should take steps to help her loose it . This could be & mean dieting w/ her and working out w/ her. Being healththy is whats important. As you age the looks r going to go away 4 the most part.If you want a trophy Get real!!! You have not understood the real meaning behind loving someone! As people age it is inevitable you will gain weight due to a slow down in life unless you work at it.. Good luck . Get your real issues in order. Is it worth looseing her?

Answer 5

if it is making differences, then i would say that love is not true..... if we are really loving some body (wife) then the weight of the love only should gain what ever happened physically....

Answer 6

I've never been married, but I've been in a very long relationship and I can honestly say that I did not love her any less when she gained weight. I might be concerned if she was gaining weight because she was stressed though.

Answer 7

I love my wife dearly and would never balk at a few more pounds, but lets be honest here, no one wants to be with a 350lb woman.Weight gain is one thing, but you could easily look at your wife in a different light if she was extremely fat.Would that lessen your love for her...no.Would that be a turn off.....yes.I'm just being honest.If your wife went from a size 4 to a size 40...you couldn't help but feel distant.

Answer 8

I think the only time weight should be an issue in a relationship is if it begins to threaten the person's health and/or life. True love is supposed to be unconditional, unfortunately that doesn't mean you lie when you are concerned for that person's safety. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying a husband should say to his wife: "You need to lose weight fat@$$ or you're going to die." Perhaps it should be worded carefully such as: "Honey, maybe we should get ourselves in shape so we can be together longer." I know it sounds corny but I think you'll get my drift.

Answer 9

You would love her nomatter what.... Everyone changes shape and size over time. That should not matter at all.. If he is not happy with your weight gain, oh well that should tell u alot of things. Talk to him about it and see where it goes from there.

Answer 10

Honestly some weight would not matter. If its a 100 pounds or something then, yes, it does matter.
If it takes a level of attraction to fall in love then doesn't attraction matter after you are married?

Answer 11

Your spouse should be worried about whether or not you are healthy. Gaining a couple pounds is normal. We all do as we get older. Just don't deal with it in unhealthy ways.