He was set upon by robbers at his place of work was not injured more mentaly scared, which is awful. I have done my best to comfort and help him but some times I wish I could go to the doctor and get a sick note and some tablets which would mean that I can sit about day and night and just eat what is put in front of me and generaly cruise through lifenot worry about making ends meet and the effect it is having on my children. Normaly I would go out and get work but I am so drained by everything. Sound so sorry for myself but I wanderd if anyone else knows what it feels like?
2007-02-09 19:48:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
I think you do need to go to the doctor and take your husband with you when you do, he sounds like he needs some sort of counselling and urgently before he gets to the point were he has a a breakdown, what he went through must have been terrible and the sooner he gets help and sees what effect its having on you and the children the better all round, please talk to him and get help, good luck.
2007-02-10 07:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feeling drained by this situation. I am not sure why the children are being harmed as long as all the bills are paid and there's food on the table.
Admittedly, it must be odd having Dad on layabout, and if a woman, I am not sure how I could handle being pent up all day with a spouse.
Now having said all that, if you want to go to counseling, then by all means do. Then maybe a few times he will go with you.
I do wish you the best, but like it or not your husband is a human being, and though male, still has the right to emotional trauma. Problem is I am not sure how long he might be genuinely troubled, or at what point he may indeed have become a layabout, claiming mental.
Good luck.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-09 22:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine does the best he can. I'm a SAHM and he works 50+ hour weeks. During the week I pretty much have baby duty. I can deal with that though because he brings home the bacon and needs to be well rested for work. On the weekends though he gets up with the baby and lets me get some extra sleep. You need to say something to your hubby. He isn't being fair to you at all. You have every right to be angry and frustrated with him. Do you think he may need to see a doctor? He's either really lazy or dealing with a real depression.
2016-05-24 21:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have every right to be concerned. As a man and a provider, he is the captain of the team. I am not sexist at all, at all. But he should be the one bringing in the bacon and holding down the fort. He should be the rock that is the foundation of your family. He should talk to a therapist or psychiatrist to overcome whatever anxiety it is that he would be feeling. He has a family to look after and he is apparently disregarding his most important responsibilities... also, what type of example is this setting for the young ones.
2007-02-09 19:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he was traumatized by the "robber" experience? If this is the case, he needs psychiatric therapy to get by it. Then again, he could be taking that experience and milking it as any good moocher would do. Either case, he would benefit from some counseling.
2007-02-09 19:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, look, its been six months, it's time for us to seek counseling and move past this. Be sure to have a counselor ready to go. If you need to, get counseling for yourself to help you move on.
2007-02-09 19:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but my husband took a six months leave of absence because he had burn out. It's his job as a husband and father to support his family and it sounds like a cop out to me.
2007-02-09 19:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he needs some psychotherapy (counseling). It would not hurt if you did it with him. He may need some medication to get back to normal again.
2007-02-09 19:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by James C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just got rid of my husband sorry I can't help
2007-02-09 19:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋