i am still very much in love with the this guy.the last month of my pregnancy he left me because i wouldnt marry him before the baby was born. well we had planned to get married after the baby was born. and our plan changed because his sister and mother told him that we had to get married his family was forcing us into marriage while my parents told me it was my life it was up to me.i was mad because he wanted to listen to his family and what they wanted and not what i wanted.so because i wouldnt give in he left me and basically he told all his friends that i had cheated on him and the baby wasnt his. and then he slept with someone else because she was there when he needed someone. when i went into labor i did not call him bc he didnt bother to call the whole month.now he wants us together. he claims that he will change but im not sure if i want to put myself and my son through that. i mean my whole pregnancy i was unhappy and crying the whole time bc of him.should i take him back.
2007-02-09 19:08:28 · 9 answers · asked by enchanted_dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went threw kind of the same thing. There were no cheating, but the family thing and listening to what the family has to say is why i am divorced today.. She should of married her family!!!! Since he has cheated on you, baby i would not go back to someone like that, once a cheater always a cheater. I know it is very hard, just being uncomfortable while pregnant and all that he has done and said. You really need to focus on you and your little baby boy, and keep ya'll selfs safe and out of harms way. If this guy really loves you and cares about you and ya'll son, then he would of have never said the things like the baby was not his, that right there is a good-bye see-ya! Give it time, take care of yourself and your son and keep praying to god and have faith in him, he bring you and your son happiness with someone who will love and take care of the two of ya'll, and who will be there when you need a hand are a shoulder to cry on are just an ear too listen, i don't think the father of your son will be able to that. I will pray for you and good luck........ Oh, and CONGRATS on your new baby boy..
2007-02-09 19:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by take-it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you should take him back or not is ultimately a question only you can answer. The simple fact is that he messed up and the question is basically do you ever see yourself forgetting about all of this at some point in time. You shouldn't take him back because you two have a child together - you can both be involved with raising your child, but that doesn't mean you two have to be together. Fact is I know nothing about the guy and I don't think this is something you want a completely objective opinion on. But, if you think these issues are going to linger for a very long time, you're probably best off trying to work something out between the two of you as it pertains to raising your child, but accept the fact that you both need to move on romantically. Hope this helped.
2007-02-09 19:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by scrubby210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to revisit old mistakes? If you were unhappy the whole pregnancy and this guy was all too ready to listen to his family and then bad mouth you, would you want to take him back. Do you really think he will be the one who is there giving support the next time things get a little tough?
If you must let him back into your life only let him in a little bit with rules. That way if he hasn't changed his spots you can get rid of him a bit easier.
2007-02-09 19:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg what a jerk! i can think of worse things to say but yahoo will not publish it.
wow i'm so sorry what you have gone through. that's a real tough one because i think what he did to you was purely a reaction of resentment and basically just a huge temper tantrum.
did his parents give him whatever he wanted growing up? was he spoiled? it sounds like he got is way, and got what he wanted, and if he didn't, then watch out!
i think that the reason he did what he did, was because you're a strong woman, and didn't give in to his demands. He didn't get what he wanted (or what was expected of him) and freaked out.
I honestly think you two could work this out, but only if he realizes that if he wants a life with you, he needs to comprimise and not be so selfish. But he if can't grow up and act mature, and be a father figure for his son, then you don't need him in your life.
But did you guys only decide to get married because you were pregnant, or were you two ready to get married and spend your life together?
If he understands what he did was wrong, and that he acted out because he didn't get what he and his family wanted, then i would take him back. But if he thinks what he did was right because you refused to marry him when he wanted you to marry him, then he can go screw himself.
2007-02-09 19:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree Scoundrel. you are able to supply a minute or 2 for a poorly wound watch, yet 7 minutes in no longer ideal. And your common sense is ideal on the right music. through the 4th date it is going to ba an hour you'd be waiting searching like the twerp. solid call my pal. I have a tendency to be very stingy at the same time as it is composed of second possibilities. If it grow to be major to her she would were there 10 minutes early, no longer 7 minutes previous due. i does no longer supply this female yet another probability to go away you status there. go away her the position she is.... dumped.
2016-12-03 23:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by korniyenko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he didn't get his way there was no reason to make up lies and sleep with someone else. no u shouldn't take him back unless he grows up a bit, love isn't suppose to hurt u, and make u unhappy. promises and words don't matter the thing to watch is a persons actions, that will show u where a persons heart is.
2007-02-09 22:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he don't really want you but he want the baby more...
Ask him what would he have done if you have left him in a hard situation and went to sleep with another man and came back and want to be with him again. I am sure ' CAT WILL GET HIS TONGUE' when you question him like this.
Do what your mind tells you, not your heart. Its good to use your mind in these king of situations...
Good Luck and be happy with your new born baby !!! =]
2007-02-09 19:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that poor baby...yall are F'd up as a football bat. Let a loving family raise the baby. You're a bunch of Jerry Sringer's...be honest...you are aint ya!
2007-02-09 19:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Bi Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's clearly a jerk. Let him go, you're better off without him.
2007-02-09 19:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋