A lot of crimes in the world because of these words : " I don't love you any more ! " . but why why man or woman don't accept the truth ? How can you live with someone who doesn't love you ??
2007-02-09 18:58:55 · 16 answers · asked by citizen high 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well there are many answers to this and first one I would think is maybe that person dont love themself? or dont really know what love is in a healthy relationship and this is a learned behaviour "nuture". Rejection is hard for many from childhood abandonment / neglect situations that carried over into adulthood and sometimes attract similar relations so they would get mixed messages from a controlling type / emotional-psycological abuser and have learned still stay for many reasons but useually its love and in hopes the nice person will come back but, useually they dont it seems to always get worse including ur self respect and self esteem "kinda like a downward spiral that could go on for years. read up on Stockholm Syndrome an Misogynist " online to better define
If the other person is already moved on though and the other person is in denial I would call that a obsession (Obsessive Love) they believe they could someway win there love back??
a great book for this is "Obsessive Love...when it hurts too much to let go" by Dr. Susan Andrews.
another area is abnormal psycology and geesh thats a whole other chapter so look up abnorm psych / behaviour/ mood disorders and possibly there too are answers to your question,
there is no one answer to this question just like there is no two brains alike.
good luck to you,
worry more so on what YOU can control or change and how to handle the situations in life the best way possible with the ones u cannot change or control to better suit your needs and happiness.
2007-02-09 20:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by NatureOrNurture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do but at the same time, though I've never been put into that situation, if I were with my boyfriend who I love with all my heart, I'm sure I would probably feel so hurt that I would just want to die, but not hurt them. It's hard to accept the fact that someone doesn't love you, everyone wants to be loved and wanted. But sometimes it is crazy to believe that there are actually people in the world who don't care if the person loves them or not. If you tell me you don't want me, all you have to do is tell me once and I'm gone, but sometimes it takes a little more to get rid of people especially if they're in denial.
2007-02-10 03:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if the woman you loved, one day just told you 'i don't love you anymore' it's human nature to ask why. You instantly would have a million questions running through your head like 'what did i do, did you meet someone else?' it's more complicated than that
and a lot of the crimes in the world are not because people break up, but because of drugs. do you realize if someone has a drug addiction, they need to keep buying the drugs to keep them happy, and the more they do the drug, the more drug they need to take, therefore the more money they need, and the more dependant of the drug they become. But then they run out of money, start stealing from family, or friends, or people the don't know...they steal...they have to feed their addiction.
Broken hearts hurt, but they are easier fixed then those with drug addictions.
2007-02-10 03:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They cannot accept it because they stilll love here. Look around in this section.. Most of the things you see is is broken hearts. Thats the other side of the story that your hearing.
2007-02-10 03:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right...we can't. But that's just too big of a shock. Hard to understand. If the person doesn't like you anymore, you start wondering about the reason why he used to like you. And these thoughts never leave our mind. Sad.
2007-02-10 03:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bliss. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have to work at staying in love. I believe it's possible to fall out of love, and also to work at falling back in love with that same person, if you really want to make it work.
I think what happens is that if one person falls out of love, and the other person is still in love with them, they can't understand, and believe that they can regain what they once had.
Marriage counselors are there for those times.
2007-02-10 03:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love makes some people crazy and when they lose it they can't accept the rejection.
2007-02-15 02:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i certainly dont want someone who doesnt want me.There are other fish in the sea i'd move on.unless you are obsessed with the other person dont stay. Things can get very bad in that situation.Not worth all the pain,just move on.
2007-02-13 15:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT worrie i wont live with some one who dont love me.
2007-02-10 03:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't want me. I think people are afraid of being alone.
2007-02-10 03:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋