my heart is broken?

Question

why does it feel so horrible i have not ate in 3 days and ive been with this man for 3 yrs i dont know what single life is like anymore and all i can think about is him. my stomach feels as if its been ripped out. what can i do to make myself not feel so sick. what makes your chest hurt so bad???

Answer 1

It's normal to feel this way...it's very painful. Every day will get better. Treat yourself as well as you can, and surround yourself with true friends who will give you positive advice. We women are strong and can get through very difficult things. When my marriage ended, someone told me "The best revenge is living well." So focus on yourself, and don't waste your time, emotions and health on this guy. This is your time to get stronger and pull yourself together. Even if you don't feel like it, force yourself to take a shower, put on your makeup and a cute outfit, and get out of the house. Take yourself out to lunch, go to the museum, go to the park, go to the gym and exercise...whatever makes you a little happy. Day by day you will feel better and stronger, trust me, but not if you keep wasting your tears on some jerk who doesn't even care how you're feeling.

Answer 2

A broken heart makes your chest hurt. It also makes you cry at the worst times,feel sick to your stomach and depression. Ain't love grand. Can't live with it or with out it. I'm going to tell you hang in there everyday it will get easier but that's a butch of bull so be thankful it was only three yrs and not 7 or 27. That's the bright side. If you can just try to go out with someone else. That's what I've been told its the only way to get over someone. Then where does faithful come into play. I'm going for death do us part so I can move on with out guilt. I work hard and yea work hard the days fly by. Good luck hope this helps you feel better.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry...there is nothing worse than a broken heart. I too have experienced that terrible ache in your chest and lump in your throat. I wish I could say something that would make things better, but the only thing that will help is time. Time truly does help with most of the hurting that you are feeling; however I'm afraid that I truly believe that once you love someone you will continue to love them for a lifetime. He will unfortunately always have a place in your heart, and you will probably think about him from time to time for the rest of your life. But...it is important to remember that not all love's are good and healthy for us, and not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. You will eventually move on and find a love that is healthy for you, and I'd even go as far as to say I bet you will look back on this relationship and realize that you weren't as happy as you once thought you were. Give it some time, and you will be feeling better...As for now, take some time to be alone with your sorrow, but not too long...friends and family who truly love you can make the hurt subside and bring that much needed smile on your face. Tomorrow is another day...you aren't the first to experience this kind of pain, and I guarantee you won't be the last. You'll use this experience to help your girlfriends deal with rejection someday. Take care of yourself, so you'll be ready for Mr. Right when he does come along.

Answer 4

Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes

Answer 5

Go out for a hike alone. Get close to nature, feel the sun, look at the trees from high above. You will realize that you're only a small part of this world which has been there for a long time, and will be there for a long time. Notice how your body feel good in the air. Live in the moment and be happy and grateful that you have a good body that can enjoy these physical pleasures. Spend time talking to yourself and reflect on what you want to do for your next step. Then go home and feel happy that you are now in the security of your own home.

Answer 6

Well sweetie when you stay with someone for that long and you care about them it would be unnatural if you didn't feel this way, hang in there babe things will definitely get better. Until then stuff yourself full of Ben&Jerry and watch a bunch of sappy romance movies. Don't let someone who doesn't want to be with you be the reason why you stop living. Single life can be a lonely life, but living should come first and a relationship should come second. Go out see other people, and just keep reminding yourself that he is not the one for you. That, that one is out there someone. Waiting for you to catch up to him, to free your heart from the chains your previously lover put on you. Good luck sweetie, and if you ever need to talk I am here.

Answer 7

It takes a long time to get over a broken heart I know she left four years ago this mouth I love her for over 6 years i thought she would Bary me when I'm gone! And get my Social Security and just in joy the rest of her life. I still cry once in a while sounds silly but the hole in my heart still hurts from time to time. The reason your chest hurts is all the love that was in your heart has escaped and that leaves a big hole in your chest you haven't eaten in three days because you fell sick and alone I know How you are felling and it will go away in time!!!!

Answer 8

Single life is good. It's easier than being in a couple, and you'll see that once you get past this grieving stuff... provided you don't do something stupid like jumping into a rebound relationship.


Seriously, confidence and self-esteem come from within yourself. There are going to be a lot of flakes telling you to go find somebody else, but in the state you are in right now, that's the worst thing you can do at the moment. And keep in mind, the dating pool is filled with flakes that think that all they need to do is find somebody else and never grow stronger and mature emotionally... like the people that recommend this coarse of action here.


Take your time. Get it out of your system. You'll learn from this and be stronger.

Answer 9

my life has been like this many years .. you and i are the same we let our guard down and then get stepped on.. you will make it just dont be so quick to jump into a relationship and always never give them everything I was married 23 years she did this to me always and now married another 4 years and have felt this alot especially now ..it really hurts so one day guess we both will learn till then just hold your head up love yourself and treat yourself well and go on with your life and do things for yourself you would never do and be happy .. one day the right person will come along i guess but in the meantime just dont get serious about anyone just live and if they have expectations just tell them that you are having issues with commitment and if they cant handle it date someone else really life is too short for this just let it go.. ok. and stop feeling that way go forward and the past is in the past.. so let it rest

Answer 10

I feel your pain . Take time for yourself another will soon come along and you will wonder what you ever seen in the first one .

I was married twice I look at my exes and shake my head and think there's no way i was married to that . I'm not sure what we see when we get married but now that i look back it sure wasn't a pretty picture .

When Mr rite comes along in your life you also will have the opportunity to see what a fool you was with the first one.