2007-02-09 17:37:10 · 19 answers · asked by kevman0713 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if a partner cheats on u and is remorseful, and it isn't a pattern of behavior yes i would forgive them, if they were mature and willing to own what they did, and if they were willing to maybe seek therapy. would just depend on if it had happened before, if so no i would not listen to anything they had to say. but on the other hand everyone deserves another chance, and if it was their one and only slip up and they were sincere and their actions showed it, yes i think one could get past this and take the offending spouse back. but if they did chose this road, the spouse who cheated would have to know that there wouldn't be any more chances, and if they did it again u would have to be strong enough to leave the marriage, as we do teach people how to treat us, by accepting a way of life, it is our problem is we keep going back to someone who keeps cheating on us. but people do make mistakes and if they repent and want another chance they should be given it.
2007-02-09 22:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kev--sorry but regret is a cop out word spoken with the intent to make all the disrespect go away quickly--are you a person who thrives on this treatment? Your esteem might be low if you allow yourself to be used this way.--relationships are not supposed to be like this. Why would you want that person back??? You will always wonder about their activities---worried everytime they are late or don't call, or say hello to a friend. You know it won't work. Too many others out there with the integrity and respect not to cheat--go look for one. Oh, I think these cheats regret getting caught---not actually regretting the dishonesty---it is a lack of maturity----get going and have a nice life. Cheats can also bring home a disease---do you want a sore on your self--one that never goes away?
2007-02-09 17:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way I was married twice i kept my vows they didn't number 1 left me alone for years while i was married to number 2 now number 1 keeps calling asking me if we can get together now that she knows number 2 is out of the picture number 2 keeps coming over thinking something not sure what in the hell is going on in her head doing the crying thing telling me there is no one like me well guess what no **** what was they doing looking for someone like me or what.
How could I ever trust either one of them again the answer is i cant that's all i would do is fight with them and it sure wouldn't be the same they would soon fined out everything would have to go my way or they can hit the highway what kind of relation is that.
And don't fool yourself they don't regret anything unless the person they where sleeping with was bad in bed or they got used by that person. Plus i really don't have the time or even wont to watch them .
2007-02-09 18:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband cheated on me two years ago, come clean and has made a complete turn around. We are dealing with other repercussions from it, but our marriage is very strong. Some people honestly regret what they do and try and make a mends for it.
If there are truly signs that the person has changed I would say yes. Good Luck.
2007-02-10 04:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bama Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although its the worst thing you can do in a realtionship, there's a slight curve on the cheating thing.
Like, was it ONE TIME, was drinking involved, how FAR did it go, and how terribly do they regret it?
Use those parameters and make an educated decision.
2007-02-09 17:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naah, i would not go back... That's just my opinion, you will always have that thought in the back of your mind and it will always be brought up if there is any arguments. They say to forgive and to forget, when it comes to something like this and this serious, i would say follow your heart and ask god to guide you in the right directions and dicissions.......
2007-02-09 17:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by take-it 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's a woman who cheated, NO, because women are more monogomous and committed than men. If it's a guy, maybe, depending on how sorry he really is. A guy should be excused because men are horny. They have a powerful sexual instinct, much unlike women.
2007-02-09 18:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Psychotic Clown 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes i would but they would have to prove to me that they are sorry and will never stray again. They would have to do some serious a** kissing.
2007-02-09 17:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No,if they can't be honest about the thing they did then who's to say they won't do it again.
2007-02-09 17:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by 17-4serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO FREAKIN WAY..ONCE THEY CHEAT..THEY WILL MORE THAN LIKELY DO IT AGAIN..PLUS THE FACT..THEVE LOST YOUR TRUST...AND YOUR RESPECT...YOU MUST RESPECT YOURSELF...AND NOT HAVE THE OTHER PERSON BACK...OR YOU MAY CATCH HIV OR SOME OTHER DESEASE
2007-02-09 17:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋