Is it possible to find love after a painful abusive relationship of 10 years?

Answer 1

yes it is possible but u have been in a really bad relationship and may because of it have a low self worth, having a low self worth sometimes opens the door for these abusive men to gain entrance into our lives, we don't feel good enough about ourselves, we don't think we can make decisions so we attract controller types, they pick us cause we are weak. the key to it is to get some self worth, know that u deserve better, reach out for better, don't settle for this type of man again. if one enters your life u have to be strong enough to end it before it ever begins. we sometimes get desperate for a relationship, and don't bother to first get to know him, and what he is all about, so we do settle for less, and we allow alot of junk to go on just because we think we need that person. it all hinges on our own self esteem.

Answer 2

Ten years in love with someone else it will be very hard to love someone else right away. Abusive relationship have their weights of love and carries pain into the next relationship with feeling and all and love just not possible until you are truly over the other person.

Answer 3

I understand your question completely and wonder the same thing myself. Mine was 12 years, and it's been over a year since we separated. I haven't been in a new relationship and I haven't been in any hurry to get involved in one. Haven't looked, haven't even tried. Right now I am focused on my baby and me. I went back to school to continue with my career goals (which he would never allow me to do). It sure would be a nice change, though, to actually have someone treat me with respect and dignity. I still have feelings for him, but I've learned that the feelings have more to do with the dream of living "happily ever after" than with him. (or maybe it's just the fact that our anniversary is next week) Because he sure as hell didn't treat me the way I deserved.

Answer 4

Yes it is, just dont rush into anything, really take the time to get to know the person first. Youve already learned from your past relationship what you dont want so use that to find the right person.

Answer 5

i had one for 23 years and well im not sure but maybe you can.. its hard to ever trust anyone and not think of the person you are with as not being or doing the same thing the first one was but yes maybe there is a chance just be careful and think before you act.

Answer 6

Yes there is, unfortunately u have to give it as much time you will need. Do not rush into things to fast, have faith in god and trust him. My situation is not the same as yours, but i was married for 10 years and we divorced because of to much family involvement, i worked for her parents and they always came first. I waited a year and i should of waited til now, there was still to much baggage and pain in me and it did not work. I would wait to date. I have kids, so youi think about them also..

Answer 7

Yes, but rare. You are facing two big walls. One is built by the Chinese guy. It's so big, but traditional that you will feel very hard to overcome. Another one is built by the European. It's good, new and more challenge. But you have to try very hard to tell to yourself that the European is better than the Chinese. Unfortunately, for other persons the case is so obvious.

Answer 8

Mine was 7 years. I still have negitive feelings.
I reley on the fact that it'll happen again, However I'm not looking. I'll have to be found. I can't even hold a desent conversation anymore. BUT it'll happen. be patient.

Answer 9

Take some time for yourself and let yourself heal, so that you don't attract the same type of man. Of course you can find love. Good luck

Answer 10

yes yes yes yes i have and i was abused for 12 yrs.. just take your time and get to know the new man in your life and let him know you will not go back to that way of life ever again and he will respect that. god be with you always..