Personally, I think unconditional love is impossible because they have to be conditions in place that enable love in the first place. Many parents say they love their children unconditionally, but children to fulfill the condition of filling your legacy. You wouldn't love a child if you gave them up for adoption and didn't see them until they were 45. People would fall in love with their significant others if their wasn't a phyical and personal attraction in the first place, and they get divorced when the things that attracted them in first place no longer apply. I just don't see how love, or any other emotion, could be unconditional.
But I know that many people do believe in the concept of unconditional love, and I am curious as to why.
2007-02-09 17:30:08 · 6 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it is possible. i believe in unconditional love. i believe in humanity. and u should
2007-02-09 17:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by unravel43 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The belief that you would love a child because he/she fulfills your legacy? That's malarkey. That might be a good reason to like the idea that you had kids, but not to love them.
As for loving another person, well, I've shifted gears in this department. I used to believe, as it seems you do, that love is a feeling you have...which could be described as liking somebody a lot, or liking them more than you like yourself. But that's not it at all. Luckily, I got to understand this around the time I got married.
Love isn't a feeling. It's an action. It's something you do, and sometimes you have to do it deliberately, even (but less often) against your first instinct.
People get divorced for a lot of reasons, including the ones you mentioned, but largely because they don't show or give love to their spouse. As you said, they don't feel the same, or they decide they aren't attracted like they used to be, or there were things said & done without regard for the other that the two of them can't work through.
But any of these reasons wouldn't be enough to separate if the two would just love one another.
2007-02-09 18:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by OldFogey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For love to be present, it MUST be unconditional. If there are any conditions whatsoever, its simply not love.
I personally know a friend who gave her child up for adoption. She did this BECAUSE she loves her child, and wants the best life possible for her child.
Anyone who "falls out of love" or claims to have "stopped loving" someone, never loved them in the first place.
2007-02-09 17:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with u ..... even i also don't believe in unconditional love, even when a mother feeds her new born baby she will see so many dreams in her kid's eyes regarding her, her family etc etc... and thats the most pure relations in the entire world..between a mother and a child...... so if it does not exist in that then in other relations its simply not possible. expectation comes automatically. and then the unconditioned love goes away......
2007-02-09 17:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ishq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never thought about that. That's a really interesting question. I guess I would have to answer your question by asking another question...What is uncondional love? Everybody has their line guidelines for the term.
2007-02-09 17:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe in GOD.Amen!God bless n guide all ....
2007-02-09 17:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋