When he is drunk he always say things to hurt me. Complaining through the night which I cannot sleep yet I have to work the next day. I think he is a troubled man. When he is sober he said he forgot what he said. Please tell me what to do
2007-02-09 17:28:08 · 15 answers · asked by hignome 2 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Malaysia
Call 991.. report to the police..
it is no use staying with him..
2007-02-12 01:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by azayi1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about this because i am not qualified to advise...
1. it is near IMPOSSIBLE to get an alcoholic to admit he/she is an alcoholic; which means....
2. the person will NEVER seek help of any kind from anyone; this means...
3. he WILL continue his current verbal assault/abuse against you.
You need to find time to talk to him (when he's sober) and find out what exactly is troubling the man to make him drink so much everyday. Unless there are immediate solutions to the problem(s) he will continue his drink-drunk habit.
The only thing you can do is to force the situation. Tell him you intend to leave him to stay elsewhere (on your own, family's house). Act on it soon as you are able to.
2007-02-10 02:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I totally understand what you have been going thru. I do come across with alcoholics, drug addicts and other psychiatry disorders. Alcoholism is a psychiatry disorder. It’s beyond your capability to handle him. He will also encounter withdrawal symptoms if he were to ask stop consuming alcohol immediately. Therefore, I suggest you to seek for a psychiatrist’s help. You can get a referral letter from any GPs. If he is not willing to co operative with you, make a police report. The police officers will drag him to a psychiatrist.
2007-02-10 08:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL HUNEY IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE IN A BAD SITUATION. UNLESS YOU TALK HIM INTO GETTING HELP FAST THE DRINKING WILL ONLY GET WORSE. IF HE REFUSES TO GET HELP THRETIN HIM WHEN HE IS SOBER THAT IF HE DONT THEN YOU WILL PACK UP AND LEAVE. SEE WHAT HE SAIS. IF HE STILL REFUSE THEN THINK TO YOUR SELF THAT HE WOULD NOT CHANGE FOR YOUR LOVE. SORRY IT IS JUST A COLD HARD FACT. IF YOU DONT DO SOME THING NOW IT MIGHT TURN INTO A WORSE SITUATION LIKE HIM BEATING YOU.
2007-02-10 01:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When Alcohol takes hold, one of it's first tasks is to isolate it's host, and it does this by pushing away all those who care and love the victim. Drinking is only the most visable of it's presense, but it's the way it manipulates a person's mind that is the real tragiic outcome. At first it only does this when the person is drunk, by soon, it will happen even when he's not injesting his enslaver. Alcohol is a demon that has troubled my mind many years ago, but I have now been without it's influence for over 20 years. Your husband is still inside there, behind those evil alcoholic eyes, don't ever confuse him with the monster who is controling him. This is a very tricky and difficult fight for you, but you must always remember that no-one but him can successfully evict this hell. He needs to be aware of what is happening to him, but never discuss this when he is drinking, it will only work against you. Educate and love him when the demon is at it's weakest so that when it returns, your husband will have more inside him to have a reason to fight. Remember, your husband is sharing his mind with an evil presense and you must distinguish between the two. He needs to know that you hate the demon, but love him. He must not be blamed for Alcohols destruction. I hope you find insight in the following which I have written;
As my feet slap down against the cold wet pavement, and my face drips rain from the storm, an unrelenting need to drink pushes me further. Exact final destination appears unknown , but it's inevitable that the evil inside will again return me to the source of my nightmare. No control, no will of my own, no power had I found that might evict this hell that had infected my body and mind. Self-identity, and all that was once me, had been buried under countless layers of drunkenness, so deep, that any calls for help were merely an echo inside my head.
This living liquid curse, cunning and without conscience, had been absorbed into a body which at one time eagerly welcomed it's unyielding influence. But now, as the onslaught of alcohol turned viciously against the world around me, it was only I being held responsible for it's drunken destruction carried out during my imprisonment.
Those intense fear ridden mornings, when I awoke to find yet another nightmare of alcohol's creation, devilishly constructed from it's own personality the night before. Whether it was the sight of dried blood crusted over both hands, or the unfamiliar surroundings of a place where I shouldn't have been, alcohol knew how to render me frozen with crippling insecurity. Too frightened to reason out a healthy answer as to what was happening to me, a deliberate terror of conscience always reached out and tightly gripped my soul. This devil, disguised and hidden behind my own recently drunken face, knew exactly where I'd run to for help. This was much more then an accident through drink. Alcohol's intent was to survive at all costs, to live and breath it's own existence using me as it's host of choice.
But, now, unaware of this developing transformation, all I wanted to do was calm the terror inside my head. There would be only one place, one exit, one chance to escape into a feeling of normality. Alcohol left nothing to chance, and as it waited patiently for me to return a bottle to my lips, I could almost hear a deep sullen laughter quicken my mobility. I desperately needed to lock myself away into the only security I knew, and to experience that precious freedom, I once again had to ingest my enslaver.
If you find this interesting,you can contact me @ http://www.associatedcontent.com/..........
Steve Procto
I have alot more that I have written
2007-02-10 13:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Steve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him when he is sober. Let him know how much he hurts you. If he's not willing to change, I'm sorry to say, it's time to pack and leave him. He doesn't love you if he knows he's hurting you and still is not willing to change.
Good luck.
2007-02-10 03:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by deverag 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
having been there I can tell you it's a problem - if he won't admit that he has a problem and won't get help from AA or the like - then all I can say is get out. You can't help him if he does not want any assistance.
Better [like I did] you get out with your sanity and peace of mind
Good luck
2007-02-10 04:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Val K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only solution is to leave him, or else he don't realised. You'll will suffer, should you hold on with this relationship. Once a alcoholic, very difficult to change, take care !
2007-02-10 01:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by James Louis 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know, my father is an alcoholic too. All I do to him is let him get his way, let him go to bed, and then just make things as normal the next morning. As long as nothing dangerous or risky is done, then it's okay.
2007-02-10 14:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lacieles 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
what caused him to drink? pressured at work? peer influence..? address the root of the problem honey.
2007-02-11 23:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋