I fell in love w/him but didn't tell him. we go to lunch once a week. He told me how unhappy he was, he's in it for his kid and every week it was a different story. it's over, they are going to work it out, etc. Then one day he told me he had feelings for me. I told him nothing can happen since he was unavailable. Months later, he told me it was over for good, she cheated. I tried to avoid him so that he can deal with his situation, but eventually gave in and we started our lunch dates again. Now, out of the blue he told me our company is relocating "them". I was caught off guard, especially after our last conversation. I pretended that I didn't care, but my heart is broken. We never had sex and I can't believe how hard I've fallen for this man. I wanted to believe what he said. i'm so upset, thing is, I am still accepting his invitations to lunch. He said he wanted me "close". I know I shouldn't go, but i'm weak. He's leaving, but I can't help wonder what he's up to. does he care
2007-02-09 16:57:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
one more thing, the transfer contract is that he'll work at our site once a week for the next two yrs. So, he will still be around for a while..
2007-02-09 17:05:28 · update #1
I have got to be honest with you...
His story sounds like every story that I have heard from three of my girls that are going through separation/divorce right now...
I think that he may have taken a class with those other guys...because they told their girlfriends the same things....(they all discovered after confronting the mistresses at some point...)
I hate to say this...but, put on your sexiest pair of high heels...and start walking..and show that man that you are nobody's fool....
And the thing is...you don't really...really...know what the truth is...and you are going out with this man..and his wife is probably thinking everything is o.k. with them...
Each day he gets up he has to live a lie...based on his relationship with you...
Not that you are the bad guy...you are the victim...but, she doesn't know that....
So...let it go....
2007-02-09 17:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is setting you up dear. He may have family problems and he may not. I mean I knew a guy that told everyone how miserable he and his wife were ( mainly worked with pretty women) and I just happened to be out with one of my coworkers he flirted with a lot and we saw him with his family, you would wouldn't believe how inlove he and his wife looked and they were touching hands and kissing and laughing, the man turned out to be a liar, he was happily married and trying to play on the side. His wife was very pretty as well so none of us could understand it.
2007-02-10 06:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to close one door efore he opens another one. And good for you for not sleeping with him or going any farther with this. Remember the way you get him is the way you will loose him. How can he be upset at his wife for cheating when in all reality so is he with you and the lunch dates and having feelings for you. Remember if he will do it to hr so as he will to you.
2007-02-10 01:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure he cares on some level, but your wasting time on a married man, u can't believe what he is saying about her, i am sure he asked for the transfer. your putting your faith in a married man, let him deal with his life and marriage problems, sometimes men start affairs to disconnect from their wives, he is just using u for emotional support, just distance yourself from him, concentrate on finding someone who can give u what u need in a relationship.can't build a relationship on someone Else's misery and pain. he is feeding u a line of crap.
2007-02-10 07:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it lady. Be proud that you didn't give away your special lady parts so easily.
Oh, I almost forgot, wemen are sexually liberated so it would have been totally cool if you would have let him do you hard and often. Now how are you supposed to have pleasant memories about this event?
2007-02-10 01:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try harder to avoid him. It's trouble. Tell him that you really like him but you can't continue your relationship with him unless he's single. And tell him it's for the kids. It sounds like to me though, he's full o **** Don't be with some one who intends on being single. You don't want to be the "other girl" do you? Drop him. He might just be playing you too.
2007-02-10 01:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was casting his net all this time but you never took the full bite. Good for you.
You should be happy that the only loss you have suffered is feelings.
2007-02-10 01:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think nothing good can come from this situation. Let him go. Leave him alone and move on with your life.
2007-02-10 01:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Hey you! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he was looking for a friend and that the way it should
stay, he is married so you need to let it go. but since he leaving
then you need to just move on.
2007-02-10 01:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋