Named in sexual harrasment case?

Question

The story is as followed: My boss was having an affair with a coworker, when the realationship cooled off, she went to the corporate office and told my boss's bosses. She also filed a claim with EEOC.
My boss was immediately sent to another office, and the women was placed on leave pending an investigation. I know my boss wife, and we usually see each other( she works at the same company different division) I feel so bad for her because everyone is talking about his wife is naive to have not known. To shorten this long story..the women sued the company for sexual harrasment and my boss was named. The company has began questioning evryone my boss supervised, should I lie and say I was unaware of what was going on??{ I couldn't prove it, but I thought something was going on, with the two of them because he was always nice to her} I"m trying to save his wife further embarrasment. Serious answers please

Answer 1

You don't know what you didn't see. Do you know if he was sleeping with her if you didn't see it happen? You only know what you saw, not what you can assume. You only know what you saw, not what you think may have happened.

People can make up stories about you "seeing" the bosses wife, because you just said "we usually see each other". Do you think your coworkers can assume something is going on, even if they don't see it? And hmmm... why are you so concerned about the wife's feelings? I assume you have a thing for her. Just how well do you know her?


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Answer 2

There are such thing as evidence and perception.

Evidence include photos, voice mails or emails, and witness accounts of unwarranted sexual advances. What you have is likely your boss's schedule that showed their appointments, etc. Otherwise, you only have perceptions (you have no real evidence he harrassed her). You don't sound like you were a victim.

Harrassment is unwanted advances. The company will hire a defense lawyer and the plaintiff will hire her lawyer to interview those who might be able to give accounts. A company is willing to settle if several victims come forward with lots of witnesses and evidence. The corp lawyer will say this is consent relationship and the boss will be given reprimand for violating office protocol.

If I were you, I wouldn't talk too much about the interviews either. The grapevine may quote you and this always comes back to bite you

Answer 3

I find something a bit strange with your story, as even if the company questions everyone, they will never get the straight story, and well, something is missing here. Anyway, just state you knew nothing of the affair (you admited you couldn't prove anything anway) and then get on with your life and don't worry about the wife and her further embarassment. It really isn't up to you to save anyone from further embarassment, and now, the less said the better. Let those directly involved deal with it and keep your nose out.

Answer 4

Tell the truth...to do other wise it making it impossible for the other woman, your bosses wife and your boss to get past this and move on. The truth is always the best thing...it's already known, and you don't need to lie...the wife is gonna be embarrassed no matter what goes on, because the rumor mill will make things up, if the story isn't juicy enough.

Answer 5

If you know, it was a consensual affair or if you even have a thought that it wasn't harassment you need to speak up, That isn't even a question. The fact that it was wrong (and it was) don't let her get away with a fraudulent lawsuit. Don't let her get away with this if you know better. I don't care about him, he made his choice(and deserves what happens) but don't let her hide behind a very serious claim if she doesn't deserve it. Yes I am a Man That doesn't change anything,, I am sorry for the wife, But don't let her claim harassment if it isn't true. I wish you the best on this and I am sorry for any embarrasment your friend goes through.

Answer 6

As sad as this situation is, your boss has put himself in a very serious legal situation and he has no one to blame but himself. If you were not personally party to his actions, meaning you were not present when they were a couple together, then you are only assuming they were. Yes, I know that you know they were an item, but it sounds like you do not have specifics or solid facts. Who knows why women choose to look the other way or simply not see. This is not your problem. You hold no facts. Good luck.

Answer 7

She is not going to be spared the embarassment and humiliation whether you lie or not. Why ? Because people talk and you should know office politics by now, she will get wind of this and may get angry with you for not telling her, although it wasn't your place to tell her anyway. Tell the truth she is going to find out anyway especially if the company fires him or if that tramp decides to get cute and tell her.

Answer 8

Just tell the truth & talk about what you KNOW, & don't say a thing about what you only heard.
You aren't the one who is causing embarrasment to his wife. He did that all on his own.

Besides if everyone else in the company goes in, & says that they knew all about it, & you turn out to be the only one saying that you knew nothing, you won't appear very credible.
Look out for yourself here. He made his bed, so let him lie in it it.

Answer 9

I would deny knowing anything. I am so sick of women who try to climb the corporate ladder on their backs. She willingly climbed into this guy's bed and now she is going to whine about it. I would do everything in my power to hinder her case, not help her. Yeah, I would put my hand on a stack of Bibles and say, "She flirted with everyone here including the mailman, but he, as far as I knew, loved his wife."

Answer 10

She probably seduced him because why would you do this **** in the first place unless your a disaster. Lie, lie for your boss and the wife's sake and say the lady harrassed him constantly.