Ok so my grandma just died. And im of course mourning over this. So today i go to the funeral and my friend knows this. But tonight she starts freaking out and asking for my help. Now, im really upset and not in a state to help her with her problems when im still solving mine. She knows this (or she says she does) and yet she is still asking for advice and yelling at me for saying things i already know. I cant take this. What should i do
2007-02-09 16:14:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well my friend basically has a problem with another friend. This other friend HATES her and it is really putting her down. idk if that helps
2007-02-09 16:19:58 · update #1
She probably does not know the feeling. So it may not be fair yo yourself, but cut her some slack. Remember back when you didnt know the feeling wither?? Well, i bet you did, so I think you should just sit down with her one day, and get all your feelings out(Crying is OK!) She will then understand what you feel. She will understand that you are in no condition to help her with her needs, too. But if she cannot understand what you feel after that, so you need to kick her to the curb, because if she is your REAL friend she would be on your side. Remeber, its about you right now, not her. Good Luck and Happy Valentines Day!!♥
2007-02-09 19:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my grandfather died, my insensitive friend asked me how much money I got in the inheritance. It was an awful thing for her to say.
Just be honest with her and tell her as gently as possible that you are still dealing with your grandma's death and you find it difficult to think about much else and you really need time to yourself. If your friend is truly your friend, she'll realize she's been pushing you and will back off. If she doesn't, however, then you should really consider if she's a true friend or not. Best wishes and sorry about your grandmother!
2007-02-09 16:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People don't understand the pain your in, until they have to face it themselves. Hard as it may be calmly just tell her, could she give you sometime to grieve, and explain to her you need her right now to understand and she needs to put her problems on the back burner. If she really is a friend she will understand. And if not then you don't need friends like that, because true friends are there for you when you need them.
2007-02-09 16:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you are in no condition to help and that your kinda surprise that she can't see that herself. When my father died, I had a friend who did the same thing... I just kinda backed away for awhile so I could have time for myself. Explain to her that you need time to mourn... time to yourself... and that you can't help her with her problem at this point in time. Apologize to her, and tell her that you hope she understands, but that you are not emotionally equipped to be helping anybody with problems because of your loss and the recent funeral...
2007-02-09 16:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the question? Your grandmother passed away, you went to the funeral, and you feel bad. Your friend is apparently intruding on your sadness and you are ticked off. So, tell your friend you will speak with her in a few days AFTER you have had time to come to terms with the passing of your grandmother. If your friend cannot grapsp this or refuses you your time alone, then she isn't much of a friend. At that point dump her. Easy.
2007-02-09 16:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if she is truely your friend she will understand that you are dealing with the lost of your grandma. some people don't care what you go through in life, but they will still bug you to make their self feel good about their own problem. just tell your friend i need sometime to get myself together and if she don't understand find a new friend
2007-02-09 16:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by sassy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a couple of street girls to go to his place and ask for the money he promised the other night. Or just put your foot where the sun don't shine. If I had him here I'd shove a baseball bat up his you know what and make him look like a popsicle. take care and get a new boyfriend dave
2016-05-24 20:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you cannot deal with her problem now and if she does not understand she is selfish. You can help after you are go through the process of mourning Grandmom.
2007-02-09 16:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is so self-involved that she is unable to appreciate that you are mourning the death of your grandmother. She has no right to demand your help under these circumstances, let alone yell at you. Feel free to hang up on her if she persists.
2007-02-09 16:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up that your grandma just died and that you don't feel like talking if she doesn't understand then shes not very much of a friend
2007-02-09 16:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by amber j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋