Our divorce is in process and we are seperated. I found out today that hes dating a women now. For a moment I was feeling Jealous. Then I felt rather releived. Then I got to thinking He is probably there because he needs a sexual relationship and not necessarly a commited one. I on the other hand I do not want a sexual relationship or a commited one yet. I really am enjoying my single life just finding my Identity again. I work and go out with freinds for lunch, movies, museums, family parties and just hanging out. I want to wait and take my time to start another relationship Is this O.K.?
2007-02-09 16:06:01 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is okay. I wish I was as put together as you. I am just now trying to do what you are doing but still have things to work out. You sound like you know what you want in life and I am happy for you. When you are ready, go do your thing girl. But as for him. you are right about that too. That's his insecurity that won't let him be alone and needs to have a woman to fill his empty void. I'm going through the same thing myself. So don't worry about him, he will get what's coming to him sooner or later.
Just keep having fun and enjoying life now.
2007-02-09 16:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going thru the same thing. I doubt that there is love involved in his relationship. Chances are that's why you split too. No real love. And I don't mean sexually. You were probably just being used all this while. Go out and have some fun. I hope to. And good luck with the divorce.
2007-02-09 16:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is o.k. It is what you want to do right now and so you should do it. It sounds like you are doing the right thing for you at the moment. Finding yourself and hanging out with friends and family are all good things to be doing, don't force yourself into doing other things because you think that's what you are supposed to do. You seem pretty comfortable and happy with things as they are right now so that's a sign you are doing the right thing.
2007-02-09 16:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by buzzbomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the right thing to do you don't want to start a new relationship with old issues, you need time really to sit down and figure out what you want out of a new relationship, and what you wont put up with.People need time to get all the thing's out of their system because the next last thing that new person that comes into your life wants is to consistently hear about is their ex!
2007-02-09 16:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by MLove69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Hopefully kids are not involved here, otherwise you should stay home and raise them or do what it takes to raise them without the dating.
No need to date yet, you just gotten over the drama part....time to heal and a time to move on in life.
It is too bad that you two can't reconcile and fix your problems, rather than looking for the easy way out. (smile)
2007-02-09 16:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay wait, in fact it is best to wait until you feel ready then to get into a relationship now and have to dissapoint that other person if you're not ready yet. Anyways, its a great thing that you're handling this so well, i don't think i would have deal it as well as you. I would probadly be crying for months, even if he's the jerk and ruined our marrage. Well, i wish you only the best in your future relationships.
2007-02-09 16:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joyfully 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a real smart head on your shoulders! Jumping into another realtionship too soon does not give you enough time to get rid of the baggage from the last one. If you are content with where you are in life and having fun with your friends, that is all that counts. YOU GO GIRL!!!!
2007-02-09 16:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Katykins 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely it's OK. After my divorce I stayed single for 2 years and loved every mintue of it. Now looking back those were probably the best 2 years of my entire life. Have fun and good luck!
2007-02-09 16:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to pick yourself up again after being hurt. Defiantly give yourself time to enjoy single life. Get out there and do things just for you. Put yourself first! When the time is right and the right person comes along you'll be much better off having taken the time to get to know yourself again.
2007-02-09 16:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal that you feel Jealous when u get him with other girl even you both are preparing divorced papers. Well, it is ok and dont think too much about all tghis. And rest of all what you wrote, all are okay. Have your own life . Take Care. If you feel, may write me : imtiaz7circle at yahoo.com
2007-02-09 16:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by imtiaz7circle c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋