Hi!
I'm 26 now. I know your problem well, hence had similar experience.
Well to say honestly premature ejaculation isn't lepra disease, it is curable, and mostly by love if you love of course.. When you are with a person you love, there is no panic to do something so you take it easy. Especially sex. Play with it, give it good amount of time and it will sort itself out. To be more particular, there's a website I'm developing now on this topic www.holisticdreams.com/pe
there's a good explanation to the problem and list of solutions. Basically if you have more than two weeks left before marriage you have all the time to cure it! And no need to say anything to your woman apart from " Honey I enjoyed last night sex, the 7 th orgasm was incredible" ;)
B Cool, and even if it happened again, as someone said man "has got 11 penises", not counting the tongue!
In my opinion premature ejaculation isn't a dis'ease at all it is an opportunity given to you to learn your sexuality deeper!
Take care
2007-02-10 10:36:53
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answered by soulvagabond 1
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You have been masturbating for almost 24 years and still feel guilty about it? Very strange! Masturbation is a healthy sign of your gonads & male hormones functioning properly. It would have been a problem – HAD YOU NOT BEEN MASTURBATING as an alternative to active sex.
It is not unusual to get a feeling of premature ejaculation while masturbating because one has already reached the mental orgasm beforethe act.
Anyway, your query does not state if you have had sex before. If yes, did you face this problem? How do you know you have premature ejaculation? You should have experienced sex a number of times before coming to this conclusion .
If so, you must identify the cause for it – a psychological block or any medical condition.. If it is a medical condition, you should seek proper advice. Mostly it will be a mental block and by all indications you will have a normal sex life.
Since finally you are joining the bandwagon of marriage, the best thing would be to check for any physical abnormality, not just for premature ejaculation, but also for other likely medical conditions at this age. I would in fact suggest a complete Medical Check up including Lipid tests, Cardio test etc. You should talk to your would-be wife only if you have a Medical consition.
If all is OK, you have nothing to worry about and you do not presume any premature ejaculation. This conclusion itself is premature.
You can of course learn some Yogasanas / exercises that will prolong the time but it is all really in the mind! One always learns on the job! So go ahead & cross the bridge when it comes. It is a matter of practice and patience. As they say about sex, the more you play with it, the harder it gets! And trust me that will be good.
What is premature anyway? It all depends on your partner. What are her expectations, how supportive she is and if & when the problem occurs, how can she help in resolving the problem. About satisfying a woman, it is not just the duration but a holistic effect of where you start and where you end. At times a two minute intense love making will far outweigh a boring & prolonged mechanical pumping. Remember the first encounter usually is a premature affair but you will never again get the intensity and the exhilaration of that moment.
Good Luck & Happy Marriage
2007-02-09 18:17:44
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answered by shivshakti 2
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You may be having the feeling that your ejaculation is premature in the beginning days. Later on as you have regular sex the duration will continue to grow to certain limit.
Masturbating has no relation to early ejaculation. After marriage if you enjoy at least 3 times a day and still if you feel unsatisfied on this behalf pl consult Spl. doctor and don't go to any unauthorised road - doctor. They will not only extract huge money but also create 1001 misleading information to your mind.
There is absolutely no reason to divulge this matter to your wife. Its total private, its not at all shameful matter. Scientifically it has been proved that a person who is regularly masturbating does
not go for rape/attempt to do crime for sex. Dont worry and remove this mistake from your mind.
If you feel that you have a early ejaculation follow the following things.
1. Do not take hot milk before sleeping.
2. Do not over eat .
3. Take a piece of Gudd in your mouth or use some good quality of chocolate while having intercourse. Do not crush it just keep in your mouth.
Bye Bye
2007-02-09 17:42:09
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answered by Anonymous
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Masterbation is not a crime and please do not think bad of it. It is only a way to realese your sex urge.Who said you will not be able to satisfy a woman.If you can mastrubate you will be able to have normal sex with a woman and therefor i dont think you need be worried.You need not discuss anything with any body unless you find that there is a problem with your sex life.Your are imagining things and do not be over anxious .You can definately lead a happy married life.If you had failure in sex before it is probably due to fear and tension.Do not worry and wishing you a happy married life.
2007-02-09 16:54:48
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answered by Anonymous
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master bating is not a problem. But your age is a factor tobe considered. Your nourishment is healthier then it is o.k. Premature ejaculation can be tackled with the cooperation of your spouse. Best of luck. No need to discuss with the future bride but have a general consultation with a Physician
2007-02-12 17:41:50
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answered by vijayakumar n 2
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Had you never made love to a girl? How do you know that your ejaculation is premature? You only have a mental blockade about masturbation. Go ahead man, first have sex with a girl and then, if required, consult a doctor. However I feel that you wont find any problem.
2007-02-09 18:05:39
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answered by Babul D 2
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Is masterbation you only draw back? if so, then you dont hv to worry. its common and natural and safe. No side effects and you will be ok in bed.............. sex is mostly in the mind and you must banish these thots and go ahead with ur marriage plans. If you have any other problems, i suggest you consul;t a qualified doctor b4 ur marriage and then if found so, talk to your wife to be. It is not advisible to put her on her guards, without you being very sure that you have a problem. do not worry.
2007-02-09 16:36:13
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answered by bhatrax 3
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No, bringing it up beforehand will make it an awkward situation. Go with the flow, when it happens, move on to where she needs your help with your mouth... as long as you don't disrupt the whole scene with "oops and blah, blah"... she should be fine. If you get along well, you will be able to talk about it. Learn some tricks to satisfy her IN OTHER WAYS....
no problem, Honey. you can do this
2007-02-09 16:19:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Why you say you can satisfy a women sexually did you tray heaving sex with her that the only why you would know if you can .
The past thing you should do is talk to her because if you what to married her she have the right to know OK
Good luck?
2007-02-10 09:36:29
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answered by Sweetlove 2
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you should only tell your "future" wife about premature ejaculation. not about the masterbating, as this is really none of her business. what is done in private stays in private. if you cant satisfy her with sex, you may have to spend more time on foreplay, including oral sex. DO NOT take pills without a doctors checkup first. ppl who tell you to take pills are idiots. go see a doctor you may have another cause for this.......
2007-02-09 17:04:07
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answered by Tracey S 2
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