He takes my breath away when he touches me .I feel the he gives but my mulscles tighten up and i can,t relax.Help.
2007-02-09 15:57:06 · 4 answers · asked by thelma_shane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow In am going to spend a while with you. this is due to the fact that he turns you on so much but... there is that one someone back in the back of your brain that you feel you are cheating by giving yourself freely to this man who is touching your heart in every way a man can. do this, know that in all you do that nothing is more important than now.... not yesterday not tomorrow that the living revel in today for tomorrow might never come and if there be no tomorrow there might not ever be another chance to experience this love that is being offered to you. You have to want his love need his love and tell him you have needed him and that he holds the key to your happiness and to not give up on you adding that there is very few men who actually care to give more pleasure than they receive so in that light relax and let his touch , kisses, and manliness take you to the heightened plateau you never before knew existed.
2007-02-09 16:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that you are possibly a bit insecure because of your past relationship...
And I just say that because you know your b/f enough that you should be willing to not be tense around him...
So, I would suggest that you ask where the tension is coming from and deal with those feelings...
I also think that you should make sure that you feel comfortable being touched...you may not be ready to go into that area of the relationship yet...
Not that his touch isn't o.k. or innocent...but, maybe you aren't ready to be intimate like that yet...
You may want to maintain a more basic relationship...and wait a little while before you take a closer relationship...
No one can tell you how long it should take you to deal with your past relationship...so, that may be something you need closure on as well...and that may open up your comfort in the relationship some
2007-02-10 00:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have some deep down fears that you haven't realized. If possible, get some counseling. It's great - you'll be surprised at how much you discover about yourself. If that's not possible, try to figure it out on your own.
Think very hard about what your fears could be - maybe:
1. you don't feel you deserve this nice guy.
2. you're afraid you'll be a disappointment to him in the bedroom.
3. you've still got feelings for your ex.
4. you're afraid you might get pregnant.
Practice relaxing your muscles by laying on the bed and letting your muscles completely relax, let your arms go first, then your stomach, then your legs. You might try a muscle relaxation instruction CD. Or take a class on relaxation.
Good Luck!
2007-02-10 02:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to massage your leg.
2007-02-10 00:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by CurlySue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋