we have a relationship for about a year and 3 months now. i love him with all my heart. he used to live by himself but becuase of his situation he had to move back home, so now since he has a curfew and all that he has to live with his parents rule, well we dont see each other as much. i miss him soo much. its kind of stupid since i see him like every 2 or 3 days, but i used to see him everyday for almost most of the day. now it feels different. its just thing feeling that we are not ment to be. but waht really hurts me is that i love him so much, we struggled to be together alot, we stuggled to stay together and i just love him soo much. now it feels like if hes a different person, but hes not, he still acts the same and everything. thsi feeling i got was after a fight we had wich he didnt come to see me for about 3 days, i kind of felt it after that. i trust him so im not even asking u guys to tell me if hes cheating or not. just help me out and give me some advice please.
2007-02-09 15:47:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by the way, we fight like in every other relationship.
2007-02-09 15:54:11 · update #1
sorry to hear about the curfew thing. But let me tell you this, guys don't count the days between calls. Their minds just don't operate that way. Take some time to chill w/o him. We women just seem to obsess over men. If you truly trust him in your heart, then don't worry. You CAN trust him. You have women's intuition. Listen to it and ignore the other stupid responses here who just want to get 2 pts and say BS like he's cheating.
Love him, yes. Just don't loose sight of loving YOURSELF and your family. That's where I'm at now, and it's hard to get back.
Hold on loosely hon, but don't let go! :)
Good luck, and maybe try another form of communication. Some guys don't do well on the phone. Try e-mail or IM.
*HUGS!*
2007-02-09 15:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man. I'm like that almost haha. I see my boyfriend everyday except on Sundays. I see him for a few hours everyday and then talk to him for the remaining part of the day. Buttt, it's been going on a little longer than you haha. 2 years and 2 months. It's pretty good, and there are times wher eI dont' get to see him very much. It pretty much sucks. I say just stick with it. And what the first person said was pretty much right too. IF you're getting doubts after one fight, then it almost gives off the impression that you might be kinda... shallow. Sorry for the bluntness. But if it's compounded by the fact that your time together is dramatically limited, then it makes sense. But personally, I dont' think you should be doubting it. If you love him, you'll be there with him. If you love him, you'll endure it together. If you think it's meant to be, then the two of you should work at it together and it will work out.
2007-02-09 23:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by kpmajesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that love grows stronger as people are apart for time and then when they get back they are stronger in their love. I have felt this too. I know it works, but it is not easy.
I would say since you were with each other everyday, you miss that everyday routine. You both need to talk calmly and see what you really want. That is the best way to see what direction you need. After all that time, LOVE should be the strongest tie, and if you are old enough I would say marriage could be a topic.
2007-02-09 23:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by e_bear_68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change when certain situations are thrown at them. If your heart is telling you that you guys are not meant to be, then believe it. You are always gonna feel crappy after a fight. If you didnt, then that means there is no love there and you dont care for him. I stayed in a relationship longer than I had to and it was a waste of time. I found myself making excuses for his hang ups, and all he did was take advantage of me. People change on their own, not because you try to force them to or ask them.
Ask him what he wants with you from here on out and go from there. You guys are in a relationship together, info from both parties is needed to see where the future lies for the both of you. Dont be afraid to voice your feelings and ask for what you want! Guys are horrible at guessing and the more you wait and say things will get better, the more you'll see that they won't.
Good luck and I wish you the best!
2007-02-09 23:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your question, I can see that you sound pretty confused about your feelings. You feel like things are different, but you still love him... you can feel shifts, but it's not apparent.
Why don't you just play things by ear? Give yourself more time to adjust to the change and situation... and it may become clearer what you should do. Then, if you are unhappy with the situation, let go. If you're okay, and think that hanging in there will bring you what you truly want, then hang in there.
2007-02-09 23:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by ms_lain_iwakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making time for each other shouldn't be a struggle ... love shouldn't be a struggle. Respect the fact that he is living at home and abiding by the rules of his parents. You sound a little inmature and selfish. If it's meant to be it will be. It sounds with the other facts you've stated that it's time to move on.
2007-02-09 23:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you know how your feel. things have changed since he
at home with his parents, so that a big adjustment that both
of you have to deal with. but if you really want this to work
out then both of you need to be honest with each other about
how you feel about what going on riight now.
2007-02-10 01:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like it's not meant to be then chances are it's not. but you should give it a chance. maybe it's just because you are not seeing him as often. things happen for a reason. it will work out in the end.
2007-02-09 23:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is what needs to take place here. Talk to him, ask him if he still feels the same way about you. If the feeling is not mutual, move on.
2007-02-09 23:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by kristy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're both very young and unable to handle an adult relationship. Maybe you should give yourself a bit more growing-up time.
2007-02-09 23:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋