Okay, so here it is:
I think my husband's best friend is totally hot! I know I can't go there, but mmmm....
He's really flirtatious with me too! So that makes it twice as hard! I would never cheat on my husband, EVER! Because I believe our vow is sacred.
But, I didn't gouge out my eyes on my wedding day!
We all hang out quite often, so what's a girl to do? I even try throwing all my single girlfriends at him! I try avoiding him, but when he shows up at the house, I can't help but blush.
Does anyone else have similar stories to share so that I don't feel like such a heel? Am I the only one in the world with a problem like that?
Does the addage: "I may be on a diet, but I can still look at the menu" hold true?
Please tell me I'm not alone!
2007-02-09 15:43:57 · 26 answers · asked by MsLongBeach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everyone! I was feeling like the most horrible woman in the world a few minutes ago! Glad to know that this happens to other people too!
2007-02-09 15:57:34 · update #1
No, you aren't alone, you're just honest. We often end up feeling a physical attraction for different people. Mainly because we aren't blind, and there are lots of sexy, good looking folks. Nothing wrong with having the awareness of others. What matters is that you aren't looking for anything, or doing anything stupid. You seem concerned that you might be tempted. I doubt you need to worry. Aware of the urge, but that's it. You seem too aware and intelligent to screw yourself up like that.
2007-02-09 16:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just try to avoid him as well as possible and if you have those wild urges you should drag your hubby into the bedroom and take it out on him. Give him what you think you want to give the friend. He may like it and wake up and be there for you even moreso. The only good thing about the friend looking is that you know that you still have what it takes. Look but don't touch. He's not a very good friend if he would take a good friend's wife. Maybe he will do the same to you. You already know that you and your hubby are happy. You should think about what you have whenever you think you need more.
2007-02-09 16:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you got married, you didn't go blind. I think it is perfectly fine to go goo-goo over some other dude. My wife can't stand it but I will go on about some soccer mom we have become aquainted with o some woman at her work because I am only being flattering. If you see beauty or see qualities worth praising, go ahead and do it. I can't believe, and I always tell the wife, that in this world of political correctness, we can't even compliment someone of the opposite sex without everyone thinking we want to hop in bed with them. And even if it is true, keep it a fantasy and you will at least know you are still alive and have a good imagination.
2007-02-09 15:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my goodness, where to begin. This can only lead to trouble!! Avoid him as much as possible. I wouldn't hang out with him. Even if you wouldn't cheat, your husband is sure to be upset if he finds out you've been hanging out with a guy you have a crush on and he flirts with you. You might try talking to the friend in private, tell him you would like him to lay off because you want to be respectful to your husband. Good Luck!!!! I know how you feel. But it's best to not tempt yourself.
2007-02-09 16:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Athena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happen to men and women around planet earth.But you need to be very careful and do not pay attention to him.Cross the line when two persons feel attraction one another; can happen any time,any moment,be alert about that.If he is really flirtatious with you,be careful.That mean he knows you like him and he like you,so,he is a wolf,a hunter (men who can have sex with any kind of women(singles,married etc.).Do not felt in the trap.He does not respect your husband at all.You can say: I never will cheat my husband,but other thing is to have and felt in a temptation as that you have.Think good,smart and stop to paying attention to that man.Do not do something that will destroy your happy marriage.Many cheating and destroyed married now,started exactly in that way.Good luck.
2007-02-09 16:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone;)...attraction like that is NaTuRaL*... and what's a girl to do?...---a good girl will be faithful*...and enjoy the mystery and excitement of it all...if you would pursue it---it would become a sick mess and you would no longer feel that thrill and exciting sensation SOOO...;) enjoy the thrill...
as for the best friend...men will be men...especially when theyre hot and know how to be flirtatious... It's all a game...enjoy it from a distance and just be the confident, strong woman that you are and be true to the one who really loves you;)...your hubby:)
2007-02-09 15:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Waiting to Scream* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I've seen hot dudes too while in a relationship or marriage. Examine your emotional needs with your husband. Talk to him. See what's up with him. Your husband has to notice the glimmer in your eye about this dude. He could be setting you up!
Bring some dominate good looking babe to the house, and see the look in your husband's eye. That is tell tale!
2007-02-09 16:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you notice-- there's something going on in you. Is it temporary or permanent(unlikely).Nip it in the bud, if you can without resentment or work him into your relationship. Everyone who's not fossilised(read:Republican, military, etc, etc.) does it. How old are you. Noone knows; it all depends-risks do come from the heart, but try not to step on anyone's toes. Discretion is the better part of valor. If it all takes place in one room, I think the air will clear on it's own. Never forget your heart and never divide it. We only have been given one.
2007-02-09 16:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by rara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married, never say never, if you are feeling this way, this is not a good sign, remember the devil will tempt us, always makes it look better than what it really is, next thing you know, you fall for him, and your in the pit, his trap, than your life is ruined.....the good news, pray and ask God to change the desires of your heart to love your husband more deeply.....Jesus loves you
2007-02-09 15:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your a bad person for this at all, but you need to "nip this one in the bud" ASAP!!!...if you don't, you will either do something that you'll regret,or your husband will catch on and probably lose all trust in you!!!....i would consider approaching him(his best friend) and ask the respects your marriage, and go from there....that's probably not the answer that you're looking for though, right???....if you want to stay on your diet,don't open the menu!!!!
2007-02-09 16:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by michael m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋