2007-02-09 15:43:45 · 20 answers · asked by ariel s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, if someone breaks a marriage vow, the marriage is OVER.
You can't. You'll have resentment towards her, and most likely end up cheating on her to seek revenge. What kind of marriage is that?
I mean you could find the root of the problem as to why this person felt the need to cheat in the first place. Things happen for a reason. But when something that serious happens in a marriage, i personally don't think it's worth holding on to.
2007-02-09 15:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If this question is about cheating, I definitely think you can work this out if you both truly want to. I honestly think that a person that's been unfaithful can still love there spouse. They are human and made a very wrong decision. In order for you to trust your spouse you will both have to do alot of communicating (not yelling... talking and listening) to each other. Find out why your spouse may have been unfaithful; maybe low self esteem, need for adventure, etc.. Be honest with each other. It won't be easy, but things worth having never are. I wish the best for you both.
2007-02-09 15:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is hard to regain, weather it is cheating, lying, whatever the reason for the mistrust, once its lost its really hard to regain that trust back to the level it once was
it also depends on what type of person you are, and how forgiving to your situation, you want to be, and if you want to have this person in your life
opening the lines of communication and talking about the situation no matter how hard it will be is a biggest key towards regaining back what may be lost, and the sooner the lines of calmly talking to each other is open the better it will be.
staying with the person shows that you want to make it work, also some people suggest that after the big talk and if you decide to move forward, that starting all over again,dating, etc. help rekindled what was once lost, while still living together or apart
if you do start to be on the road to re-trusting your partner one key thing to remember is to never bring up the issue after the fact. if it was already brought out into the opened and discussed, or it will be truly difficult to move forward
i wish you luck with what must be a very difficult decision for you
2007-02-09 15:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly2dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deal with the feelings. Learn to recognize your part in it. Meaning that if the relationship was really that great, it wouldn't have happened. So be honest about what is wrong in your relationship and decide if you want to fix it or not. Once you decide to fix it, you quit nagging and bring up the issue that made you lose trust. You deal with it internally or with the help of a counselor. Then you live day to day. At first there will be more bad days than good ones, then over time there will be more good days than bad ones.
2007-02-09 15:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a quality to be worked on, but noone has the right to tell you you must. Sometimes time will show a lot, but we don't al have the time. If it's a spouse, they do have some idea you'd be obligated--but a new vow of loyalty, trust, and telling them you'll be watching more is also in order.
2007-02-09 15:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by rara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once trust is gone from a relationship, I don't know that there is much of a chance for it to survive. There will always be that nagging thought at the back of your mind.
2007-02-09 15:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to forgive your spouse, then you will learn to trust...but it will take some time and effort from the both of you.
I would consider on reading, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
2007-02-09 15:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
wait. time heals all wounds, if they prove that they have changed.
you also have to want to trust them again. if you don't try to it will never happen.
you can't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust. cliche but true. i'm sure you can see what i mean right now. but if you want it to work out, you need to take time. it doesn't happen overnight.
2007-02-09 15:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! Thats easy....YES! I can trust my spouse again 'cause he is my best friend in the whole world and I trust him because he trusts ME and we are so in love and like....My faith in my husband comes more easily than my faith in God.
2007-02-09 15:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple i learned a long time ago that you cant trust anyone accept yourself when push comes to shove i only trust as far as i can see.. My mother always said.. fearing to sound like forrest gump here..dont believe anything you hear and only half of what you see and you will never be disappointed .she was 1000 percent correct and im old and have always felt this way so well worked for me..I say nope dont trust him or no one else only yourself ..you are your best friend protector and best friend.. love yourself and leave the rest as fantasy
2007-02-09 15:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋