I told him and he told me to get an abortion or leave. I love him alot and i don't know what I would to without him. but i don't want an abortion . he gets terribly angry when I tell him I want to have the baby.he slapped me and i hit him back then he left and didn't come back for hours. I need help please.
2007-02-09 15:40:48 · 41 answers · asked by missy A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If he's abusing you then you need to pack your stuff and leave him, it won't stop he'll end up killing you and or the baby. If he truly loved you then he'd be happy about the baby and he would never lay a hand on you. Get out while you still can, go to your parents or some place safe.
2007-02-09 15:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like too serious a problem to really be asking answers about. If you dissagree so violently about something this serious in your life, maybe you two shouldn't be together. Of course you want to keep him, but if he can't accept that it wasn't your fault you got pregnant, then there's not much you can do to change his mind. On the other hand, maybe he's just having trouble coming around to the idea and it might get better. That doesn't mean hitting is ever acceptable. My advice is to sit down with him and discuss the matter rationally, no hitting. If that can't be done then it wasn't meant to be.
p.s. my sister had this exact same problem, and she and her boyfriend used to have terrible fights, him screaming at her to get an abortion, but she held fast. Now she's married to him with a beautiful six year old daughter and a happy marriage. It's too trying a time to judge how a person will react in the long run, so try not to act rashly based on the situation.
2007-02-09 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an abortion is a major decision that only you can make. You may love the man and the thought of leaving him may cause you pain, but that is all that it is going to cause. Sounds like having the baby is what you want, and if that is the case...you should. You will be much happier having your baby and being without your husband years from now, than you will be having your husband and living with the torment of having aborted the child you already love. Love between men and women comes and goes....but the love and bonds shared between mothers and their children endure a lifetime.
2007-02-09 15:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's horrible and I'm sorry you're going through that! Did you know that he did not want to have kids before you got married? Doesn't he know that sometimes accidents happen and they always turn out to be worth-while! Although on the other hand maybe YOU should leave him! If he slapped you and is telling you to get an abortion what kinds of OTHER crazyt things is he capable of? I don't call what he is doing to you "love"! Do you have any family or friends nearby where you could stay?
2007-02-09 15:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by greenangel192002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE!!!! Leave him and have the baby by yourself. Don't tell him when you have the baby and don't declare him on the birth certificate. If he hit you, he will hit your child and s/he is the most important person you should be thinking of right now. He does not love you and if he does, then he has serious problems which needs professional help. Either way, he is not safe to be around YOUR baby! You can make it on your own. Don't even let your baby see his "father". Your husband does not deserve to have that privilege. And if you choose to get remarried in the future, (you probably don't want to think about that right now but it is important) him not being on the birth certificate might make it easier for your new husband (and hopefully the most wonderful man in the world who will give you as many babies as you want) to adopt your child. After you leave him, never see him again. It will also help you heal emotionally as well as avoiding compromising situations
2007-02-09 16:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave that situation, consider the life of the child you will be bringing into this world. Obviously this is something you and your husband should of discussed before having unprotected sex or whatever method you became pregnant by. He shouldn't hit you, even if you hit him back I would imagine he would still hit harder. Either contact your local women's shelter or stay with family until you can get your situation settled, but that is no home to raise a baby in.
2007-02-09 15:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by tylw85 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he slapped you he is not good enough for you. If you want to have the baby, have the baby! You don't have to keep it. I've heard of where you find a family that wants the child, but can't have it, so they adopt it, but you can still see it, be a family friend, an aunt, or just a babysitter. If that is what is best for you do that! But don't stay with your guy. Real men don't hurt woman, he is only a guy, not good enough for you! You have your baby, and find a man that can treat you, and your child if you keep it right!
2007-02-09 15:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by kat2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you really want to be in a marriage where your husband SLAPS you... a PREGNANT woman!? You should never have an abortion because someone is forcing you. You will be emotionally scarred and still with that creep. You would probably end up resenting him as well! I am sorry to say this, and I know you wont like it, but you do need to leave him. Hopefully you can afford to raise this precious baby on your own, but if not, there are so many couples who desperately want children. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not murder your baby, just so your creep of a "husband" wont leave you!
2007-02-09 15:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by shugarmagnolia420 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to leave, sorry things worked out that way, but if he hits you, he's bound to hit a baby too - and an abortion is an awful thing to deal with if you do want one, if you want the baby, you may never get over it.
Good luck, your new baby will bring you more love than such a husband ever could.
2007-02-09 15:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl you can find a better man than him I would take him to court and get him for child support because if he's hitting you then chances are he's going to hit your child or hit you while your still pregnant with your unborn child and you just might loose your baby.
Because if he loves you that much then he wouldn't be hitting you like that just because your carrying his baby. And if he didn't want a baby then why doesn't he cover it so you wouldn't get pregnant.
2007-02-09 19:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by T78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋