my own parents dont know about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-09 15:38:58 · 18 answers · asked by Breanna M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
talk to someone, anyone that you trust (AN ADULT). a counselor at school, a teacher, parents, family friend, pastor???
You need to talk to someone soon. Do not keep it inside.
2007-02-09 15:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there sweetie, I was mollested by my own father when I was 3. then mollested by my grandfather which my family til this day don't believe me and I am 26 years old. I was also mollested by my stepfather and they didn't believe me, then I was mollested by a 34 year old guy, friend of the family who was babysitting me.I was only 10 then. I never told anyone anymore because my family is shitty to me anyways. But they did however know about my own father. Just tell your parents so they could put the guy away. You will feel alot better at least to tell them and hopefully they will do something about it. You will feel better and they can help you cope with it. NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOU IF YOU DON'T WANT IT!!!!!! You need to tell them so this guy doesn't do it to other kids. He is nasty in the head. He has problems. And this is not your fault. You will not get into trouble if you tell your parents. Don't be scared sweetie. Take care okay and good luck
2007-02-09 15:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Doris M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though it has been thirty years, it can still affect you. I was raped twenty five years ago. It still affects me. I never told my parents either. I told my mom after the birth of my first child. I was age 21 at the time. That was eight years later. I never told my dad. People say you need to tell someone to deal with it. Sometimes it helps sometimes it dont. The best way to deal with it is to know that it was not your fault. You did nothing wrong. The person who violated you did. Not all guys are like that either. That was the hardest realization for me. I have an good husband now. But, let me say the rape affected my marriage. I did not trust any man and the act sex was hard for me. I overcame it but not with out problems. At least for the first five years I thought my husband was going to run around on me. I also had trouble being intimate. I just did it with no emotion other than emotional pain. After years with an understanding husband, although at times he was not. We fought tooth and nail. I eventually had a healthy and happy sex life. I have never forgot the rape but I definately have healed. The biggest thing is to forgive yourself and go on. I myself thought it was my fault because I was drunk and high and knew I should not have been doing that stuff. But, you know what it was not my fault. It would not have mattered if I was naked walking around it dont give anyone reason to violate you. So remember it is not your fault. Good luck and god bless.
2007-02-09 15:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you are not alone. This, unfortunately, happens to many young women. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Don't worry about what will happen to him. You need to take care of your self.
You need to tell someone. Find someone that you are comfortable with - a teacher, a clergy member, a friend, a co-worker, a counselor.
Remember, your parents love you and are your first choice for support and solace.
I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-09 15:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by colorado.dreamer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police immediately. You will be saving another from the same violence. I am assuming that you are a younger person, contact your school councilor they can help you in ways you may not know about. But above all do not remain silent, to do so is to give the impression that nothing is wrong.
2007-02-09 15:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by despairbear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your desire to keep it hidden, because you feel so ashamed at first. Please know that you've done nothing wrong, and by telling someone else, you can help to prevent him from abusing someone else in the future. He is counting on your silence, that's how abusers continuing to perpetrate. If you are uncomfortable talking to your parents, talk to a counselor, or contact a rape crisis agency. Try to deal with this now, so that you can begin to heal and lead a normal life in the future. I wish you success and you're in my prayers
2007-02-09 15:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by C. J. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is very bad. This is not your fault AT ALL! This jerk deserves to be in jail for what he did to you! Tell your parents... they love you and they will also know that it is in no way your fault. You deserve justice. Don't let this guy go free and hurt even more kids. Make him pay for what he did!
2007-02-09 17:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to tell your parents if you do not he will do it again to someone else. Do you want to be responsible for that? No. Next you need to talk to a therapist. If you keep this inside it will eat you up. I would not answer this unless i knew what i was talking about.
2007-02-09 15:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and report this guy. Do you want him to do to another person what he did to you? Telling your parents may be hard but they should be outraged at what has happened and support you in pressing charges.
2007-02-09 15:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell or it will happen to someone else and this creep needs help to because he knows he is doing wrong but can't help him self. if he gets caught then healing can be done.
2007-02-09 16:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by kneelingwolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋