2007-02-09 15:28:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am talking about love in all its transformations and permutations. Not just "I'm so horny" love. Even that gets old after awhile, but real unconditional acceptance love never grows old. We all crave it in one form or another.
2007-02-09 15:38:07 · update #1
Interesting perspective. This is basically just piddling about with words here, but I think total acceptance is the addiction, and love (if you'll excuse the quote from Bryan Ferry) is the drug that feeds it and calms it and makes it alright.
For example, there can be no real love without that ultimate acceptance of who we are. There can be great hot sex, certainly, but even that is based on a momentary meeting of minds and bodies and the shared acceptance of the moment and the need it carries. Essentially, we're all ultimately alone, all ultimately unsure whether or not we're...OK, somehow. When someone accepts us unconditionally, likes us and finds our revealed and inner self attractive, the gratitude, the yearning, and the mutuality that unlocks within us - that's love.
Which is why I say acceptance is what we're really addicted to, what we crave, and love is the name we give to the thing that provides us with it, the drug if you will, and the person that gives it to us is our finest, favourite dealer.
2007-02-10 04:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by mdfalco71 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure; I think we do always want more but not in an addictive way. You mentioned unconditional love...I think the more we receive that kind of love, the more we desire love. But it's not a selfish thing like some of the others have said. The love you described sets us free from ourselves and from our insatiable desire to have the wrong sorts of love (lust, sex addiction, constant attention). Unconditional love enlarges us and changes us. It is always evolving and developing just as we are; it can't be stagnant, but only dynamic. It makes us more loving and the more love we pour out the more we need to have poured back in to keep the cup full. It's not selfish taking or demanding. I think it's the way we are meant to give and receive love.
Interesting question. I had to ponder this one for awhile and I may be wrong as rain, but it was fun to think about.
2007-02-10 14:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that it is love that is an addiction as much as the person that you love.
I've ended relationships only to have someone be right there offering me probably the greatest love that would ever exist. And yet... I would just die as I explained that I was not in a position to be able to ever return his love. So you end up alone....... NOT needing "love".... but still needing that one person.
If love was an addiction...... you could easily just hop from one relationship to another without missing a beat just because the next person might offer you emotional attachment and attention and stimulation. But is that really love? Is it really love if you want MORE?
I can't possibly agree that the more love you get.... the more love you want. I think the more love you get..... the more love you want to give. Therefore..... love is not an addiction. You don't need the love....... you need the love from that one important person.
2007-02-10 09:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why we have to classify everything as a disease today. It seems whenever we react unusually to someone or something, we call it an addiction.
Certainly, the chemicals induced in our brain when we are "in love" changes our perception of things.
Some things you can't live without. Humans just are made up that way that we are at our best when we are in love. So perhaps it is an addiction of sorts. We need love like we need air.
When we get less and less of this, we slowly suffocate.
2007-02-10 10:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i think it is....
i often feel that im addicted to my boyfriend... particularly now that i dont see him as often as i used to...
he graduated already and im still in school for another 3 months... he's also getting into some trouble for stuff that he's done, so hes working more hours to earn more money to pay off fines and such...
so i call him a lot to find out how he and what hes been doing... i have a feeling i would call him a lot less if he would just make an attempt to make plans with me...
2007-02-09 23:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by sillygoose1015 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No love is "CONSTANT" once you have a hold of it you just don't want to let it go. The love only goes up and down. When you feel love going down you do your best to bring it up so you don't loose that special someone. Good Luck Dude!!
2007-02-09 23:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, but from a biological point of view, orgasms are. Weird but true - orgasms release "endorphins" - the body's version of a natural form of morphine - it is "addictive", but a smart person knows when to keep their zipper up! ;)
2007-02-09 23:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That may be true. When my husband was critically ill for over one year, I forgot all about love--as I spent all of my time taking care of him. When he was finally better, and looking for love, I was not even thinking about that.
2007-02-09 23:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is like oxygen.
You get too much, you get to high.
Not enough and you're gonna die.
Love makes you high.
2007-02-09 23:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, it feels that way cause you're young and inexperienced. When you get a little older and more settled, you won't want it as much. good luck.
2007-02-09 23:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋