Me and my girlfriend are discussing if we should try anal sex. Although we are both satisfied with our normal intercourse activity but we would like to know if this can increase happiness. We do not use condom for normal sex so if we decide to try this should I wear a condom? If we try this will it hurt her anal? Any possible side effects?
2007-02-09 15:27:32 · 8 answers · asked by G Y 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
A nice non hysterical answer, something that you don't get too often with questions concerning anal, is that if you both want to do it then why not just do it. Anal isn't for everyone but if you don't try then you will never know.
If you don't wear a condom for vaginal sex then you really don't need one for anal sex either. If she can learn to relax her rectal muscles and you use lube it can be a very satisfying and erotic experience for a woman. Some women never enjoy it and others love it. I'm in that second group but I recognize that some women try it and don't like it. The ones I don't understand are the ones who never try anal and then spend all their time telling others not to try what they themselves know nothing about!
If you take your time and are able to get into it then it can be a lot of fun but only if both parties find that it is something that they want to do. So long as she is relaxed and lubed she won't be hurt at all. If it's done right anal doesn't hurt, it feels really good. Anal sex isn't wrong or unhealthy for a woman and if she doesn't want it then that is her right but there isn't anything wrong with those of us who enjoy it and the stories about loss of rectal control are nothing other then old wives tales. Enjoy each other and have fun.
2007-02-09 19:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He may have been offended by the Way you said it or maybe he thought you were implying that he would take another guy up his butt. Either way, a quick apology is in order. Some girls love anal, some don't, some won't even try it. Hopefully he'll respect your choice of not wanting it and stop pressuring you any more. I had an ex g/f who was always drunk and trying to put her finger in my area there, I said NO! more times than I can count. She was very disrespectful of my wishes. I think that her ex-hubby liked it from what she said and she was just doing what came automatically for her... Either way, I was very firm about saying Stop It and she wasn't respectful of my wishes... That's one reason that she's an Ex...
2016-05-24 20:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal can be good and pleasurable. But like many things, it is not for everyone. But if she is willing! Your issues of concern need to be panic, tearing and cleanliness
- For the first time (at least, and anytime after, for pleasure) lubricate, use your hands, insert your fingers, tongue, what ever pleases you both. But remember relaxation and lubrication are musts all the time.
- Never go from anal to vaginal or oral with out cleaning. That is risking infection. Condom use is your choice. If you plan on having a long play session, well you could use a condom for anal and not have to worry about cleanliness if you plan to switch over to oral or vaginal. Just pop the condom off and you are ready to go.
You may find that it takes a few times for her to be comfortable and relaxed enough for you to enter her. So take your time, have fun and it should be well worth while!!
Have fun
2007-02-10 06:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by White Raven 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I never thought I would try but I think it is good to try new things otherwise you never know. Anal is very painful for me because I have endometriosis down by my rectum, but before this problem increased, sometimes anal was semi pleasurable. I think it is good only because my husband really likes it and that pleases me. I have to stimulate my clitoris during to take my mind off the pain. Use a lube most definately a good one not a cheapie! As gross as this sounds, it is best to have no urge to go poop because it seems that it hurts worse if I have to go and then I am backed up esp. if he ejaculates inside. Good luck
OH! and be gentle and let her pick the pace
2007-02-09 23:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
anal sex is safer provided you are both clean. You can come inside her and get tremendous relief and she will probably like this, and appreciate the fact that you are not going to get her pregnant.
If you do get her pregnant it means you have super sperm, so you'll have a really good baby.
2007-02-11 01:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by firefly062001 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! If you are going to play that game for god's sake wear protection. There are things in feces that you don't encounter with normal vaginal sex. When in doubt, protect yourself. Keep in mind that it is also something that can be quite painful and for sure there can be adverse side effects. It is an "out door" not a swinging door! That being said, if you are thinking of doing it to increase happiness, you might want to reassess why you might be not so happy first.
2007-02-09 18:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by jaided_icemaiden 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
i am the one who loves it my husband doesent and its hard to get him to do it to me but when he does omg its great good luck and go slow
2007-02-10 01:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a disgusting and immoral behavior that is contrary to nature and degrading to women. No decent woman would ever consult to something this sick and no decent man would ever desire it. It is unhealthy and can destroy a woman physically. It leads to terrible diseases and is a filthy practice that is only done by perverts who demean and disrespect women. You should never allow it, ever!
2007-02-11 16:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 10⤋