Okay me and this guy.?
okay me and this guy been on and off for like 3 years we met when i was 13 years old.but the reason why we was on and off was because he was cheating and yes i keep on forgiving him over and over again because i loved him.but just like 3months ago we broke up again because of what he was cheating exactly.okay.well how about this fool going to call me out of the blue tuesday and was like im a change man and i love you and i want to be with you and im for real this time and all that kind of stuff.But i'm just curious should i give him another chance or leave him.like we went out like 13 times.But one point i want to forgive him than again i dont.because i been hurt too many times by him.you know.soo whatcha think i shall do in this situation.
2007-02-09 15:00:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't fall for the lies again....history repeats itself apparently with this guy; so ditch him before he hurts you again.
2007-02-09 15:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Powered by Rice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely and unequivocally NO
excuse me? you were 13 when you met and you've been "on and off" for 3 years..... let's see that would make you 16?
Honey you are not in love and neither is he. And *newsflash* he's not a "changed man" he's not even a man because trust me, if he were - he would be several years older and far more mature and no REAL man would treat a woman the way he is treating you.
You need some self respect girl. Forget about boys for awhile and just concentrate on school and having fun with friends. Believe me - real life will hit hard soon enough and you don't need to be dragging around this kind of baggage when it hits.....
best wishes - You deserve BETTER than that.
2007-02-09 23:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like to be hurt then yeah go do it again . One fool with another fool. Once a cheater always a cheater .You need to grow up ! Stop being a moroon who gets hurt by the bad guys ; then treats the good guys like dirt , because you like the bad ones.
Don't ask just keep messing up and going through the same thing. Then when your 30 and have 5 kids and all the loser guys who made you pregnant split You may wish you had given a better guy the time of day !!!! Yet it will be to late and you will be welfare trash !!!! Thats life. Make your choice as if it is a choice duh !!!!!
2007-02-09 23:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by conan999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. u mite have been in love and he may be in love with u, but if ur only 16 or w/e u r way to young for love. This guy is an idiot for breaking ur heart over and over again. He may say "hes a changed man" but dont fall for that. Before u know it he'll be breaking ur heart again. U r very young and u have plenty of time to find a new man who will care for u and not cheat on u like that fool keeps doing.
2007-02-09 23:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he`s done it once it will happen again. Ive been there done that! Beside you were too young for him to be faithful. Guys must play out there hormones and discover what they like and dont. If you really do decide to be with how would you really if you saw him looking at every girl. It would remind you that hes a cheater and your miserable. Get a good guy and that will make him grow up. Then tell him to get lost when he says hes sorry. Change takes time remember that. Move on that will teach you to watch out for others guys who did the same thing. Sorrry
2007-02-10 10:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing you have been doing. Only I was 18 when we 1st got together and after 5 years of him dumping me and me going back to him it was ME that finally realised he was not for me and I got to break up with him and telling him I was not in love with him anymore. I didn't want to hurt him, but he needed to know! I am not 100% certain if he cheated on me all those times, but I know of one time he did!
DO NOT take him back this time. He knows he can get you back everytime so this time tell him NO MORE! He has hurt you too many times now. There are so many other guys out there so forget about him and move on girlfriend! I did and at 30 I ended up marrying the next guy after that x. We now have a child and are happy. I am 33.
Good luck....DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM. HE WILL ONLY CONTINUE HURTING YOU MORE AND MORE!!!!
2007-02-09 23:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jassie's mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious, you know yourself the answer to this question. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He has had too many chances & after everything that he has done to you...you think you might want him back!!! What for???? You deserve better, move on with you life. Forget about him, he will never change. He thinks that your a easy target, that he can walk all over...and you keep on letting him do this...You need to walk away...your still young, you will fall in love many times before you meet the right one...Good luck
2007-02-09 23:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by NADIA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luv, you already know what you should do. Your question really is how should or can you let go. The truth is we will all tell you to move on. You will give him another chance anyway. I'm sure you have great friends that have told you to let go. Still you stay. Let me tell you this. My best friend was off and on with her ex for years. They went on like this until 2003 when she died of AIDS which she got from him. Before she died she lost two children to AIDS. Now her son is left with a father that is living with AIDS and still goes around having babies with other women. I'm not saying this will happen to you but, It's only a matter of time before things start to fall apart in you life because of him. Don't you believe you're worth more than being someones last resort. Aren't you sick of being his go to girl. He will always come back to you because you will always let him. He can't change because you won't let him. What's to change? Things are working out great for him. Why would he change for you? You allow him to cheat. Yes I said it. YOU ALLOW IT! Every time he cheats and you take him back you're saying I don't mind. If you take a good look at your relationship I bet you even know what time of year he cheats. I bet you know the signs. Like I said we can tell you to go but you have to want to. By asking the question it means YOU DON'T!
2007-02-09 23:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you deserve better than that. Cheaters who cheat repeatedly don't do it because they aren't happy with the person they are with. They do it because they have something else going on inside that makes them unable to be faithful to anyone they are with. The fact that you have taken him back many times and he keeps cheating on you tells me that he will likely do it again. Cheaters are famous for saying "I've changed...I won't do it again". They do that because they know you will take them back and they will have you to fall back on until they are ready to cheat again. Don't believe this guy. You deserve WAAAAAYYY better than that. You are what, 16? You are young. You have so much wonderful life ahead of you. Please, don't waste it on a guy who doesn't appreciate what a good thing he has with you. If you do take him back, then you are getting in the habit of letting guys disrespect you. Define your boundaries now, with what kind of treatment you will accept. Get in the habit of demanding to be treated with basic respect. This way, when some guy sweeps you off your feet, you will be able to distinguish between the guys who will treat you like dirt and the ones who will cherish the gift they have with you. There are LOTS of guys who would give you the respect you deserve. Remember that when this guy cheats on you, he is treating you with extreme lack of respect. When he asks you to forgive and forget, he is saying to you that you are not worth him working for and earning back your trust. C'mon - find another guy. You deserve better. Really!
2007-02-09 23:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!!! I've been through this many many times before, and like you, I kept taking him back. We'd go a few months, he'd come crawling back. Every single time he'd do it again. Plus, you will never ever have any trust in him. Do you want to continously worry about what he's doing or who he's with? Cuz you will... people don't change in 3 months. After awhile, you'll forget about him and meet someone even better and you'll wonder why the hell you were with him in the first place!
2007-02-09 23:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by blazinkitty731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that you deserve someone who wants to only be with you and no one else. You've given this guy too many chances already. Stop letting yourself get hurt by this loser. There are a lot of nice guys out there - give one of them a chance! This guy will never change if girls keep taking him back. You need trust in a relationship and he is NOT trustworthy.
2007-02-09 23:09:58 · answer #11 · answered by junebug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋