Why do women blame the other woman for an affair and not the man?

Answer 1

Let's see, I've been in the situation where I was "the other woman" (sadly, not even to my knowledge until after the fact) and his woman found out and pretty much started a war against me, nevermind the fact that he had cheated on her twice before.

I think it's a combination of things. History and sometimes culture still wants women to be the weak ones, and men to be the dominant ones. WELL THAT AIN'T HAPPENING! Also, as it's already been said, a woman might be in shock that someone who loves her could hurt her so badly, so she blames the person who wasn't committed to love and take care of her. Again, there's the thought of having devoted so much time, effort and love to a relationship, it's hard to throw it all away and "blame the partner." Worst case scenario, the woman is not financially stable to get out of a relationship.

That pretty much sums it up.

But all women are different of course, and for those with men who seem to feel that they aren't at fault "because they are men" and dare to blame the woman they cheated on, Beyonce has six words, (notice, they are actually 3 words, but being directed towards men, she needs to repeat it!)...

TO THE LEFT, TO THE LEFT! :D

Answer 2

There are many reasons for this. The first is that in the past women were the blame if their man strayed in the view of society. Rather Than put the blame on themselves woman began to realize that there was enough blame to go around. Women felt that the alliance of Sisterhood should hold other women from breaking up the marriage. The other reason is that it is easier to hate the other woman than her own husband since she doesn't plan to leave him. The marriage therefore is saved I know some logic there right? There is obviously some trouble at home but women who blame the other woman simply shift blame and do not confront the problems.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say all women blame the "other" woman alone however, I will agree that that does happen. In any case I would say there are a lot of emotions that are going through someones head in that situation. I have experienced it first hand. Since it was a long time ago I can rationally analyze my emotions.
1st thought: What does she have that would make the man that I love break my heart, my self esteem and my trust all in this moment? At that moment, I knew both were to blame but HATED her. If you think about It..it is easier to hate someone you don't know or are not on an intimate level with. Ultimately I would think most people eventually come to terms with the reality of the saying "it takes two to tango" but, in the heat of the moment, it is to painful to think rationally.

Answer 4

It's not at all logical, but in a highly emotional situation such as that no one is very logical. It's simple really... the woman loves the man. (She may now hate the man, but once, she loved the man.) The other woman, however, is easier to blame. It is very difficult for anyone to accept that the person they loved didn't love and respect them in return. It is easier to blame the stranger who helped ruin your life than the person you thought you knew. I don't think any "other woman" is blameless unless the man lied to her too and she thinks he's single. So why are women harboring hatred for the other woman while forgiving their man when he is the one they trusted who let them down? The problem is that many women ultimately don't want to walk away after being cheated on, and in their minds they can't both blame the man and then stay with the man. In order to stay, it somehow has to be the other woman's fault so that it is possible to recover and rebuild the relationship. For me, cheating is a deal breaker, no matter how painful it is to walk away...

Answer 5

It depends.....You have some women that know that their significant other has a significant other but they don't care....basically I feel that these women have been used badly so they in turn use others which isn't right but it happens.....Some women blame others because the feel like they know...Some of them are insecure so they always go after the man....Some women automatically think that the man is some kind of whatever and they always see them as not being able to do wrong...I feel like this though...if a man cheats it is his fault...it doesn't matter if there is a woman throwing herself at him...He has the power to say no...it is called resistance......

Answer 6

You are right that is how its always been and did you know if a woman is cheating the man will find out. if the man is cheating it maybe long tiem before she finds out. its always been that way i sorta think that men are stupid and that they feel they are the only ones that can judge but that is not true. if woman would take charge and get going this mess wouldn't happen. the thing is if you should not blame women for it remember it takes two and the man probably instigated it mostly likely there are some women who do liketo hit on married ones cause they are as they say safe. i knew someone who did this not to marry just sex. yepper and that is why i say this.

Answer 7

Some women blame the other woman because they think that if they stayed away from their man then there wouldn't be a problem. They also blame them because the other woman could have refused to do that.

Answer 8

Well being a man, I would blame in the long run blame both But at the immediate time I would go crazy and blame the man. Because he is my competition. It is natural for two males to fight over the female. However, let say for deer any other animal that I can think of, there are no monogamous relationships. I believe humans are the only animals that understand the concept of monogamous relationships. I believe monogamy should be practiced due to STDs, risk of a bastard child, and other problems, but from a biological sense, people blame other people because polygamy if you will are behavior from many animal species, including us. Our brains are not capable of understanding affairs that why people fight, argue, hit, kill (passion murders). We are constantly torn between animal instinct, moral beliefs in my opinion. But Im guessing women blame other women because as in men, they feel it is unfair to be tossed to the side.

Answer 9

I think it is so easy to do.The only reason I would blame another women is if she knew he was married. Then she knows he has made a life long commitment to another. So she is the trash. But he is to blame also. I speak from experience. I caught my ex-husband in a bar all hugged up with another women. He had excuse that it was a old friend. BULL!!. Then in a few days it begin to check cell phone records. I found girls name in his truck . A few days later I was with him in his truck he got a call on his cell. Spoke very low. At the end of the conversation he said "I love you too". I looked at him in amazement. He said OH that was my dad. well as soon as he got out of the truck and out of site . I hit call return of course it was a women. So I just waited. A couple of days later. When he got home from work he opened the door. I cleaned the house out. Left him a couch. And all the things that he brought into the marriage. I was out of there. At the time I blamed him, and still do. That was seven years ago. When I saw you question I just had to tell you that story.

Answer 10

They should just blame their spouse and not worry about the person they were involved with...unless it's their best friend or relative or something. Then you have the right to be upset with both. Even if it's a stranger your spouse was involved with, you will be angered at them but since you don't know that person...they weren't really considering your feelings like a friend or relative should have. It's the spouse doing the cheating that you should confront vs. the mistress or whatever they are.