Do any men out there regret someone they loved dearly once, but had to let them go b/c they weren't ready to get married? Were you in two different places in life? If so, do you think about what you lost? Do you think fondly about her? Do you ever regret your decision? To you wonder "what could have been?" Does it effect your happiness now? If a man truley loves a woman, is it really possible for him to let her go, knowing that she would probably end up with someone else? (Woman can answer, too- if you have insight.)
2007-02-09 14:47:38 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Serious, mature, insightful answers only, please--- I don't need "get over it & enjoy what you have..."
2007-02-09 14:53:16 · update #1
Yeah I think I let go of my high school sweetie. I was getting ready to graduate and I wanted to move to another state to live with my mother. Needless to say I didn't go for bad reasons. But I do sometimes wonder what could have been if I had stayed.
2007-02-09 14:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't use the word regret because I am happy with the one I am with. Now, if I were unhappy then I might regret letting certain women go. I will say that it is natural for men (and honestly even women) to wonder about people they have loved in the past - and to wonder how it could have been. The problems come when you try to bring back those relationships when you are married - or even get in contact with those people (for purposes other than just friendship). You should let go of the relationship but keep all the good memories and the friendship.
2007-02-09 14:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dean D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, marriage kills a relationship. Even talk of marriage turns a relationship from exciting to expired. It isn't easy to understand why you had to leave someone special that wanted to commit themselves to you. After some time you realize exiting the relationship was incredibly savvy. Don't get me wrong, there are fond memories, but at the same time no honestly realistic regrets. Letting go of anyone special is hard, but once you start meeting many new people and couples you are reminded that happiness is ubiquitous and not exclusive.
2007-02-09 15:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ted H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called life. You made the decision at that time based on the circumstances. If there was a lot of love then, the memories will be always great.
2007-02-09 16:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am" the fish that got away". After about 3 years and it seems like two lifetimes, he caught me again.
2007-02-09 15:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of **** happens in life, you need to get over it, learn from it, and be happy with what you have.
well fine then jackhole, i was only trying to help. be dramatic i you want to. loser
2007-02-09 14:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
All you can do is learn and move on.
2007-02-09 14:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋