She asked me a ridiculous question and I guess I hurt her feelings by my answer. It was because of this Anna Nicole thing and the Howard guy being controlling and my mom thinks he killed her. My sister is in a situation 3,000 miles away with a guy that is unbelievably controlling and my sister has no backbone and is emotionally ill so she gives in and does what he wants. My mom is constantly saying that she's scared my sister is going to end up dead like Anna Nicole. She keeps bringing it up and asked me if I thought my sister's boyfriend was going to kill her. I told her I don't know, how am I supposed to know that?! She got upset and said I was rude and that she didn't deserve that and I asked how she couldn't understand how a question like that would be bothersome. I asked her how she'd feel if I asked her something like that and she didn't answer. Now she's upset and won't talk to me. Oh crap. I tried to talk it out, that's not working. Now what do I do?
2007-02-09 14:47:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Oh yeah, I also said that even if I were to say no, then she wouldn't believe me.
2007-02-09 14:51:26 · update #1
Give her time to cool off, but I don't think you did anything wrong. You just answer her honestly. Give her awhile to come around and let her be the first one to take to you. No one is going to kill your sister, so tell your mom to put her mind at ease.
2007-02-09 14:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom myself, your mom probably took your answer to mean that you don't care about your sister, which I'm sure is not true. She is obviously worried about your sis and in asking you that question she was looking for some kind of comfort. You simply thought the question was ridiculous. Your mom knows that there is no way for you to know that. I think if you approached your mom starting off with "mom, I'm just as worried about----- as you are...... so I think we should call her...." something like that. If your sister is in a bad situation and your mom has done everything in her power to help then it's up to your sis to do something about it. My sister is in a similiar situation but there is only so much another person can do. Hope this helps.
2007-02-09 14:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by jellybean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably more upset over her thoughts of your sister and her boyfriend than she is your response.
Give her some time to get her thoughts and fears together and manageable. If she tries to talk about it again, try to not get upset but still be truthful in that you don't know that answer.
She was hoping you could calm her fears...... since she is the one creating the fear and anxiety, she is going to have to be the one to calm them. She just doesn't know how, so she worries.
I don't think she is as upset with you as you think. You may try to apologize for the way you responded, but also tell her that there is no way you could know the answer to her question.
2007-02-09 14:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. well you should understand also that you're sister means alot to your mum. And that your mum is extremly worried for her. Still, your mum should also understand that you wont know the answer and that there's no point in asking you over and over again. But just put up with her. Thats what daughters always have to do . lol. Hope its ok for you!
2007-02-09 14:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your mom alone for a while and then approach her again and say you're sorry. tell her you understand that she's worried about your sister and you never meant to hurt her feelings. if she wants to talk, just listen. i hope your sister really is okay - you & your mom will be.
2007-02-09 15:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Meg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...give her a little while
she is really upset with your sister situation..and you're just getting a piece of that frustration.
she will be okay...she will talk to you again...don't sweat it.
you can write her a little not and say you are sorry if that will make her feel better.
2007-02-09 14:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will all blow over in a day or two , your mama is just worried about her daughter and wanted some support, give her a hug and tell her everything will be fine, then give her the phone so she can call your sister and confirm that she is ok
2007-02-09 14:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time so both of you can calm down. Then try talking about it with her. Don't worry; it will work out. My mom and I fight all the time, but we get over it eventually.
2007-02-09 14:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by predawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're sorry and that you responded the way you did because the question was unexpected and you just don't think your sister will end up that way.
2007-02-09 14:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by soulsogood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom needs to stop comparing your sisters situation with anna nicoles smith. she was famous and im sure your sister isnt.
2007-02-09 14:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋