you want your family blessing for when you both decide to take that step but you're family is'nt having that, but you dont want to let him go because you'll never find another like him.should you leave him for your family or go againdt them and follow your heart.
2007-02-09 14:45:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has never hurt me or disrespected me they just dont like him because they re not ready to give up their little girl,but im growing up and im focused and they have other children behind me.He likes them but they cant stand him just because he is my boyfriend.now who do i choose to be with?
2007-02-09 14:55:49 · update #1
Your family isn't marrying him - you are. Go with your heart. Over time, he will either win your family over or not. Your family will still love you and they will love him if he treats you well and makes you happy. If you leave him, you will feel bitter toward your family and lose the love of your life. Try to make your family understand but follow your heart.
2007-02-09 14:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why they don't like him. If it is because he treats you badly well you know that answer then it wouldn't make very much since to dump your family for some one who treats you bad. your family will never like any one who shows you disrespect or hurts you all the time.
If he is good to you and treats you with respect and it is just that the family doesn't feel he measures up well then follow your heart. your family will come around eventually.
You really need to think about the reasons behind the way your family feels. Are you telling them all the good things about him or just ranting and raving about what he does wrong that in its self can cause bad feelings.
No one but you can answer this question we don't know your situation. Just make sure you take a real hard look at the reasons behind the way your family feels usually they are right.
2007-02-09 14:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are thinking about getting married or thinking about it you are supposed to watch for what are called RED FLAGS, one of those red flags is how friends and family feel about this person , no offense but you are looking at this person with blinders on because you are in a state of euphoria in a new relationship and don't make the judgments you would normally and when the people in your life that love you show doubt that is usually a GREAT BIG RED FLAG, I suggest not rushing into marriage . If you are really meant for each other take the time to prove it .
2007-02-09 14:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rock Star Outlaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends... if your parents don't like them.. you have a chance and you can help build bridges by helping them find things in common that they may like. You can try a dinner party by breaking the ice with some friendly games or something.
On the other hand, if you are a parent, and your children dislike your new beau, then I'd suggest you focus on your children, because a man isnt worth coming between you and your children. It's not that a man is worth coming between you and your parents or a sibling, but when you get a certain age and you are not responsible for any one else, you have to do what you have to do in order to be happy.
2007-02-09 14:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind your family may have a more objective view on him as they are not in a personal relationship with him. Unless he's controlling or abusive there is no real reason they shouldn't allow you to live your life and give you their blessing even if they don't agree with you. My sister married on her lunch break to a guy we all told her was a louse. He ended up leaving her with a one month old and if now living with another chick he has difficulties with already. Examine his past history in dating and see if there is something maybe your family sees that you have looked past. Regardless of what your family says, if you love him stay with him and just express to your family the pressure they are putting you under by not accepting your life choices.
2007-02-09 14:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and I have been in your shoes. I have been with my bf for almost 4 years and it has been a rollercoaster of ups and downs with my entire family not liking him. I do see myself marrying him someday so the first thing I had to realize was that I don't need my family's approval any more. Secondly, I have read plenty of self help and dating books to make sure my relationship is really healthy and is worth fighting for and believe me I have fought tooth and nail to stay happy with my boyfriend. My bf and I were starting to fight as the stress from my family was effecting our relationship. Sadly enough, it took a small break in our relationship for me to really fight for what I wanted and to convince my family I was happy. I am not saying cut your family off by but spending less time with them and making them come to you and call you will make them afraid of losing you and they will gradually become more accepting of how you choose to live and who you want to be with. Good luck and I hope this helps. Follow your heart!
2007-02-09 14:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're the only one who can answer that, but if you honestly feel this is the man for you, then your loyalty has to be to him for your relationship with him to work out, so you should NOT choose him over your family. He will become your family. Hopefully your family will come around, is there any particular reason why they don't like him? Best of luck to you!
2007-02-09 14:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always go with your heart, however you have to make sure that you are not following lust or rebellion. It can be hard to distinguish between the two, also look at why they don't like him/her, maybe they are trying to look out for your best interest or maybe they are jealous. It is hard for me to say because i do not know this person for whom you speak of. Hope that helps however i think your mind is already made up and you are just looking for confirmation on what you have decided :-]
2007-02-09 14:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if ur in love fight for what you want, ur right u will never find another man like him. Family will always be there, just try to show them the good pionts that ur guy have,.... and let them hang out a bit. If that don't work just live and deal with the situation GOD will work it out.
2007-02-09 14:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Weequahic high 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋