I still live with my ex. But since the papers have been filed he has been seperate from me. He went out tonight and will probably be out all night. Our relationship has not been the best. What is the best way to deal with him since we have decided to be seperate (since we still live together). Should I just refuse to speak to him? I am so sick of the chaos. I am looking forward to so peace.
2007-02-09 14:45:11 · 11 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no just be civil and do what you said you would do and try to be adults its over accept it and let him just do whatever and you too.. sometimes you find yourself in this situation just be graceful and it will be over soon..
2007-02-09 19:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to remain cordial as you are yet to hit the rough part. Unless you or he moves out, there will be tension. I'm not sure what drove you to divorce but this isn't a happy time so don't expect anything and you won't feel like you owe him anything. This is a true test of being on your best behavior or things can get real stupid. You have a long haul ahead of you so good luck and remember it's far harder to be nice than to be a idiot. Idiots get nowhere!
2007-02-09 23:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The better question is why have you decided to continue to live together ? What do you expect you filed for divorce did you expect for him to be underneath you and devote his time to you ? You have got to be kidding. You get peace when one of you moves out and starts the healing process of moving on with your lives.........separately.
2007-02-09 22:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
after you guys go on your own,,,you will feel very relieved...
but sadness will come around...so try be preoccupied all the time...job,friends,,,etc.... I think it's for the better.... I was separated for 9months before I got divorced ... It's funny because even though he moved out I still felt like I was living with him until they made the divorce official at the court house. from that day on I felt like I was reborn... but when I am not busy sadness comes around...I feel Like I messed up my life...etc... But I truly believe that it is for the best and better will await me...
Be strong,,, and go for your dreams,,,,and never give up.
2007-02-09 22:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion but it is going to be pretty hard to be separated when you live in the same house.Also in some states it voids the divorce precedings if you spend even one night together.In other words you will not be legally divorced.I think it's considered cohabitation or something like that.
2007-02-09 22:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i say just go back to being friends, marrage does add problems with time so steping away just mite ease things for you both, being friends again give eachother space time but think as friends will be that time away, an open mind and heart allways helps to see that changers can only make things better, with time still care, be friends without all the problems like now, try to think and make things better for you, this would be a great start.
2007-02-09 22:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing I am going through a divorce right now, I would suggest one of you MOVE OUT. My X comes here to see his child, that's hard enough to stand, living with him I'd go insane. Someone has to go......Good luck and hang in there.
2007-02-09 22:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sharky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and then it will not be as hard on you. You will have to at some point. Start now and it will get easier as time goes by.
2007-02-09 22:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for the both of you . but look if you have really tried to make it work then you should not put either one of you through any more pain. but if you can not say that you have truthfully then you need to do what ever it takes to say yes to this. either he needs to step up and go find a place live for your own good please do yourself a favor.
2007-02-09 23:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. The divorce is final basically. You don't have to ever talk to him again.
2007-02-09 22:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋