I hear so many of the negative stories, but I was wondering if there were any of you out there who have any positive ones? I could use some reassurance.
2007-02-09 14:37:16 · 10 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me clarify my question a little. I am speaking from the viewpoint of a "victim" of an affair. Not someone who is involved in one. Sorry I wasn't clear on that.
2007-02-09 14:49:52 · update #1
One year after being with my man he cheated. We've been together 5 1/2 years now and we still struggle. If you really want to work it out you will find a way. But I am here to tell you it is very hard and at times I just want to give up and the truth is I still have trust issues. good luck.
2007-02-09 14:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out a year ago my husband had an affair over 2 years ago. There were a lot of events leading up to me finding out I think his conscience was getting the best of him and he started drinking and staying out. Since he told me about the affair he has made a complete 360 turn around. We also found out yesterday through DNA testing that the baby she had is his. ( I posted a question earlier regarding this). My husband and I seem to be a lot stronger since he told me and I hope that we will continue to grow together. We have two wonderful little boys and I want us to continue to be a family.
2007-02-10 05:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bama Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i do know of a relationship that has endured a cheating spouse. I am that survivor. I wasn't going to go back to someone who disrespected me and my family. I felt great and empowered in my own right while i was living on my own. I have been with this person for a very long time, he was my everything before he cheated. I feel that u have look into your heart and see if you really love this person, not more than yourself, but enough to look past his flaws and wrong doings. If you can, well that's great because it shows that you have grown , but if he does it again he's not worthy of you. But remember he can't make u happy, only u can do that for yourself.Take care.
2007-02-09 14:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Elle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got a divorce. The cheating is what pushed me over the edge and now I am free and happy
2007-02-09 14:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm, well i was the other woman in an affair, my man was married and i didnt know, and i survived breaking things off with that lying waste of air
2007-02-09 14:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you can survive your spouse having one as far as living or loving them again no not sure that ever really works out but yes you can survive believe me i did it was hard but never forgave her 23 years of marriage i divorced her because something in me died when she did that . never got it back
2007-02-09 19:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex had an affair and left me with 4 kids, she had to pay child support, everything she tried against me failed, I gave my life to Jesus, and He has won things for me, Jesus is love, all He wants is our hearts......God bless ya
2007-02-09 14:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend has been in one since 1992 and it is working out good for her he takes her places they go out of town he really takes care of her they eat breakfast together alot and go out to dinner some nights just like a married couple usually does hey she likes it i love it he even took out an insurance policy and left instruction to his brother for her in case something happens to him so he can continue to take care of her
2007-02-09 14:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duhh...I got off a lot....that was a success!
2007-02-09 14:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i do...i got a divorce
2007-02-09 14:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋