well ive known my boyfriend for 4 years and i really know hes my "one." me andhim have went through some tuff times together...& we're still together.
and i really want to spend the rest of my life with him, my parents met him and ive met his mom already, hes dad past away when he was little (R.I.P PETER)
well next year hes going to be turning 18 and i'll be turning only 16, but i know we are both ready he is going to get an apartment and he has a job...
but the problem is my parents! i dont know if they will go with the "idea."
basically what im asking is if i should or shouldnt get married, because he has already asked me and he said when he turns 18 he'll be ready economically...so yea...should i?
2007-02-09 14:17:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not yet. give it some more time and allow yourself to grow up a little more. you seem a lot more matured than most girls your age, but you still need to wait a little. give it 2 or 3 years and if you are still with him go for it
2007-02-09 14:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're 16, still a baby, enjoy your life. Don't be in such a rush to grow up. We can give you our opinions, but you'll still do as you please. That's a very big decision to make, don't let us be the deciding factor. You've got soooooo much ahead of you. I dont know you, but you've got your entire life ahead of you. Trust me..don't do it. He'll be ready economically?? at 18? Wow.. Obviously any parent in their right mind would totally disagree with their child being married at 16. Enjoy your life, trust me, you'll look back and wonder where all the years went, especially when you see all your friends having fun and enjoying their youth.. Are you ready for all the responsibilities that come with a marriage? Rent? Bills? Children? The grass is not always greener on the other side- Remember that. Enjoy your life, go to college and make something of your life. There are sooooooo many guys out there, don't just settle for the first guy that comes around. And trust me, knowing someone and living with them are totally different. What if he just leaves his dirty clothes just laying around? or what if he's messy and slobby? and you're the exact oppposite.. Can you deal with that? Think of it like buying a car, would you just go into the dealership and buy the first car you see because everything appears to be nice? No, you shop around and keep shopping.. notice I said shop around, not sleep around.. You'll do whatever you please anyway, so if you do decide to get married, I can only wish you the best of luck.. you'll need it..
2007-02-09 14:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by ƒ®îgg Üþ ©hî¢ ®™ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages that early don't usually last long.
Sixteen is too young to marry. You are still a child.
Wait until you're 20. If it's meant to be, the two of you will still be together. My grandparents were high school sweethearts. They got married when my grandmother was 20.
I know many young-marrieds who divorced who thought the same as you. They wished they had waited.
2007-02-09 16:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. He wants to get married, but I am waiting until I am done with school. I am now 26 and although we have had a nice life together so far, there are times when I wish I would have been single for a while longer. You may regret your decision to get married 10 years from now. If it's meant to be, he'll still be there waiting for you.
2007-02-09 14:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sam G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not get married at 16 . I got married at sixteen the first time and one day I woke up and realized that I had grown up and had different priorities than when I was 16 . I had two babies by the time I was 18. You should not even consider getting married at your age and I hope and pray that your parents will not consider letting you.
2007-02-09 14:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stats coach that girls folk replace what they pick the main between the a protracted time of 18 and 24. it is not a solid thought to get married formerly your early 20s, and in some cases, no longer till after 24. you're no longer waiting for that, and neither are your associates. No, i do no longer understand any of you, yet i understand you're no longer waiting. i'm 21 and not everywhere close to waiting.
2016-12-17 13:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds so cliche but you have your entire life to get married...your young and there are so many opportunities in your future...if you marry you will probably have a baby soon after and then the baby is your life. I suggest you live a little before committing to a serious relationship or just continue to date. Your life hasn't even begun really. Experience life, if it is meant to be then it will happen later.
2007-02-09 14:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by dekota1997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ay 16 you are still a child and legally can not get married without the consent of your parents. Marriage is hard and you will have regrets if you do. I am a grandmom and that is what I would tell my daughter if she wasn't of age.
2007-02-09 14:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get married to the first guy you ever got attached to,especially in your teen years. thats when your most vulnerable. TIME WILL TELL. and i''m not talking about 4 teen years i'm talking about atleast two years in adult years.
do you really want to be tied down with him forever
and if your already thinking
we could always get a divorce girl you really aint ready
2007-02-09 14:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, wait 16 more years before getting married. Marriage is very hard job and if you are smart, you will wait...
2007-02-09 14:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋