My friend is going to tell my mom I'm anorexic?

Question

I'm anorexic (at least that's what my friend calls me). I've been starving myself and exercising a lot for a couple months now, and I've only lost 13 pounds. My friend noticed, though, and she told everyone in our class, including my boyfriend. It's not their business. Now all anyone ever does is send me links to sites on anorexia and nutrition. Plus, my friend says she's going to tell my parents. Even though she's telling everyone, it seems like she's not really concerned, she just likes having something to talk about. She grins whenever she tells people. What do you think, and what should I do?

Answer 1

Regardless of what your friend thinks and what her motives are, I think you have to accept the fact that anorexia is a serious illness that need immediate attention.

Starving yourself and over-exercising are classic symptoms of anorexia. At the very least, you still have a severe eating disorder. If you don't get help, you will die.

I recommend reading the book "Hunger Point" by Jillian Medoff.

Answer 2

First, If you care enough about your friend then you'll tell someone. Tell your mom, a nurse, anyone available to talk to her and help her. If you know for a fact that her mom won't care tell someone else that is willing to help. This might be hard to hear, but you might lose a friend. Don't let this fear stop you from telling... she needs help and if she is wasting her time and talent on some boy then herself thats not a good sign of self esteem and odds are she's going to do this over again until she gets help. I'm sorry this had to happen to you, I hope you make the right decision. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Whether if your anorexic or not I wouldn't allow this stupid friend of yours to spread lies. You have your reasons and hope you can talk to your parents or boyfriend about it. Oh boy! Can't people keep something like this PRIVATE! You're right, it's nobody's business. Well, I guess you've figured out she's not your friend. I would delete any emails,text msg anything right away. You don't want to be bothered their opinions/suggesttions. I would also avoid everyone who don't care, act like they don't exist. This so called friend was just collecting information and use it against you. You could deny it or I would first of all cut this backstabbing friend of yours out of your life. Ignore her all the way! Don't give her the satisfaction. Eventually, the truth will come out what goes around comes around. I'm sure if you want to confide with your boyfriend about it or I'm not sure how he's reacting right now. But, if he cares for you he will stand by you. For starters maybe telling this stupid ex friend of yours where to go, grow up IF EVER get a life! and that would apply to anyone who would start saying anything. If she tells your parents I would deal with head on and you can tell them the truth you are their daughter and explain about this ex friend of yours and hopefully they will be there for you 100% no matter what.

Answer 4

I would say that your friend is handling it all wrong. But you should tell your parents your self so you can get some help before you get really bad. Being Anorexic is a very serious disease and should not be put off there are alot of girls that die every year from this. Please do what is best for your health and seek help. Then your friend will have to find someone else to talk about. I will keep you in my prayers and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are right if she is smiling when she tells people and maybe she is a little jealous also if you are losing weight and looking better but if she is right starving yourself is not healthy either because your body needs the vitamins so make sure to take care of yourself and the next time your big mouthed friend opens her mouth tell her to find something else to talk about and quit hating on you cause your looking better than her.

Answer 6

Well, starving yourself was doing the opposite of making you lose weight. Seriously if you really do need to lose weight, (and you probably don't) there are far easier and healthier ways. Though your friend may not have the right intentions to tell your mom, its good for your mom to do. Tell your own mother, and then you can work it out. Ignore what people say, they really don't matter.

Answer 7

To answer your question,I think that your friend is trying to make you stop,and humulitaing you probably is the only way she sees that might stop you.Talk to your feiend about it and see whats going on in her mind.I think that as your friend she does have a right to tell your parents if you don't.And starving yourself and exercising at the same time can cause you to collaspe.

Answer 8

Honestly i think she is doing the right thing. She just cares about your health. And if she just wanted to have something to talk about whay would she tell your parents? Its not like she wants to socialize with your adult parents. So if she wants to tell your parents it definately means she care. Try telling her that you will gradually start to go on a healthy diet and show her that you are changing, that way she wont have to tell your parents anything.

Answer 9

try different methods, healthy methods of losing weight first of all. try using vitamins and cutting down on fats and sweets. exersize is good but you have to eat to make it work. when you stop eating, your bodys metabolisim slows down so anything you eat will stick to you because you body knows youre starving. also when your body is going through starvation, it is typical to lose hair and grow "peach fuzz" on your face. there are many many reasons not to starve yourself, even superficial ones.
please get help and ditch your friend, tell her if she really cared about you she wouldnt tell the whole world your problems
please get help
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Answer 10

ok 13 pounds is ALOT honey you need help i know you think this is probably helping you and you will prettier when you are skinnier that is bullshit have you seen those celebrities being too skinny is ugly get healthy and get help tell your mom yourself and forget that friend