i wanna b pg again, im 14?

Question

well im 14 and my bf is 15, and i was pg den da baby died while i was pg. and i liked how i felt wen i was pg, i dont no why, but i wanna b pg again, but i 1/2 of me says dont do it and 1/2 of me is sayin GO FOR IT, wat should i do?

and wen i was pg i wasnt depressed and now i am, i no a bay isnt supposed to be cuz im mad, i want a baby cuz i want a baby, i can raise a child ((i rasied my little bro since i was 11 and now he is 3))

umm i dont live with my parents because they were abusive and i ran with my little brother, so now we live in arizona with my grandparents and then my bf came 2 live with us, its a really long and complicated story to get into so just read my old questions to see wat the long story is.

oh and we (( my bf and i))have like 50,000 in the bank, from saving over the years.

the baby died beacuse i was sick

Answer 1

You felt like a mom, a sweet mom but you must be cautious. You can't get pregnant now despite it feels nice. Having a baby is not only "what a beautiful thing", having a baby is having lot of responsabilities.
Now you must think of studing, enjoying your age...if you want to feel babies why don't get a job where you can be close to babies? I can't think now what kind of job but if you get it you'll realize having a baby is not a simple thing.

PART II

Sweetie because of your bad story you can't get a baby for now. You need to heal from it for being a good mom. Think of your baby, for being a good mom you must be completely healthy. Work on your story

Part III

Money is not everything, you need to grow up more and get healed from family story. And your body is too young for having a baby.

Answer 2

Well I can tell you now the money in the bank is a lie, for one a 14 and 15 year old can not have a bak account not to mention by law none under 16 can get a job so where would you get money at?

You sound like you have a screwed up life, is it really fair to bring a baby into that?? Babies are ALOT of responsibility and just because you sorta helped raise your abby bro does not mean your ready for a baby and it is very dangerous to have a baby at 14 because your body is not fully mature enoigh to cary one and that may be why you lost the baby. More then half of teens who get pregnant under like 16 end up losing the baby, going into labor early or having a baby with some kind of disorder or missing body parts.

Just because you want a baby does not mean it is going to be healthy and have all its limbs. What will you do if your baby is born with something the matter with it where ti needs serious medical care for years to come, where are you getting the money?? If you have a mentally retarded child are you ready to take care of that child for life?

You are a child yourself and children should not be raising children and it sounds to me like you have not thought this out all the way and your sistting her lying saying you have all this money when you do not and trust me welfare does not cover having a baby, it helps some but not all. I was 17 when I had a baby, biggest mistake of my life.

Answer 3

You are right, being pregnant IS cool and great, etc.. (if you don't have any complications!) But it is so not worth it if you are not ready. You may think you are ready but 14 is still so young. You will have to make so many sacrifices!!! Just imagine all your friends going out all the time and you can barely ever go with them cause you gotta stay home with your baby.
Also, do you think your bf will stay with you? I have a hard time believing it. He's only 15.
Yes, being pregnant is cool but don't forget that this is only 9 months of pregnancy for a lifetime of a whole lot of work!!!
Please think about it!!

And what if your baby is born with a handicap... could you still be a good mom and take care of it!! If not, then you are not ready to become a parent!!

Answer 4

I think becouse you dont have a mother of your own you have feelings of wanting to be a mother but honey you in no way are reddy to parent a child.Pregnacy ends and thein the work begins.how will you help your child with home work I have trubblt helping my kids becouse education has changed so much sence i was in school I cant amagen how hard it would be if their was only 14 yrs diffrence between me and my child.The cost to rase a child desently is aprox 30,000 a year and 70% of parents are not able to provide their children with that kind of support.Thein theirs the whol natural events of matureing and growing up.You social life ends the min you have a baby.You education will be put on hold for at least 3 to 6 month min possably longer if you dont have the right support.Finding a carrer going to college dateing ect.Gone are the days of little girls who grow up get marred and become house wives and mothers.Staying home with your kids is not an option if you are a teen mom.You will be in the poverty level even if you do work.The best thing you can do is go to school and get good grades get some councling to figuer out who you are and what can make you happy with your self.The moore education you get the better more enjoyable career you will have so yu can enjoy your life open your eyes to the world out side your little life .NO BABBYS TELL YOUR OLDER AND MARRED.

Answer 5

you liked the way you felt when you were pregnant. yeah well, that was before you can hardly stand up because your feet and back hurt so much. before you have heartburn that is so bad that you can't even drink water without getting it. you and your boyfriend have nothing. and i do mean nothing. $50K in the bank isn't crap these days. and i really do not want to hear the you "raised" you little brother. yes, you might have changed diapers and fed him, but that is not raising a child. once you have a stable relationship, a few years under your belt, a job where you can pay your own bills and your own place, then think about having a baby. because i really do not feel like having my taxes raised for another 14 year old, that is eventually going to live off the government, because they "think" they want to have a baby.

Answer 6

Well, what are you planning to do when you do become pregnant? Are you planning on having the baby and giving it up for adoption?
If you are white, you can get thousands in your pocket through adopting out privately.

How would you raise this child, if you did?
I think you are not really comprehending the full scope of the overwhelming responsibility and stress a newborn and a child cause to you. And you are not nearly emotionally mature enough to deal with the responsibility, the stress, the burden and the ups and downs.
Who is your fall back child rearer? Your parents?
You need to get your act together.

Go on some damn birth control and wait until you know what you are doing.

Answer 7

Well first I want to know how a 14 year old girl and a 15 year old guy have 50,000 bucks saved "over the years". Do you have a lemonade stand? Except instead of lemons you are using heroin? Why in the world would you want to pregnant. What intrigues you so much, working two jobs, the night one dancing on a pole so that you can take care of your baby, because you didnt finish high school, so you couldnt go to college.

Answer 8

At 14 you have no way of financially supporting a child and will rely on the taxes of your fellow countrymen and women to raise a child that you should pay for yourself.

I won't be too harsh due to your age but this is very selfish of you to want a baby "cause I jus want one an it felt good". There is so much more to it than that. Wait until you have had only two hours sleep and your baby won't stop SCREAMING, or she is sick and you can't afford to help her, or you are broke and can't afford to feed her, or when your boyfriend leaves you before the baby is even born (which is probably what would happen) and tell me how good it feels.

Babies are meant for mature people who can emotionally and financially take care of them, not little girls like yourself who have silly fantasies of playing "dress ups". Go back to playing with your dollies.

Answer 9

It's natural to want a baby, especially now that your body knows what it feels like to be pregnant. But realistically, at 14, you have no way of supporting a child. Do you want your grandparents to be responsible for paying for the expenses of your baby? It's also very unlikely that your 15 yr old boyfriend wants to be a father or would be able to be one right now. Just be patient and wait until you're grown up and in a stable situation.

Answer 10

hun, it's natural after losing a child to want to be pregnant again. My second son alex died two weeks before his due date because of a blood clot that cut off his oxygen and food supply. It happened in march of 06, and i wanted to be pregnant because i was happy pregnant and now im depressed. You will hurt for a while, and be depressed for a while, and the feelings of loss and emptiness will not go away. You will have to find a way to cope with this, like someone to talk to ect. Getting pregnant to solve your depression is not a reason to be pregnant. Remember you cannot get pregnant after you have a baby every time just to keep from being depressed. Your best choice is to wait a long while till your hormones are regular again and u can fully understand what and why you are feeling the emotions that u have right now. if you would like to talk to me more please e-mail me, i always be willing to help someone get through the same thing that i am experiencings right now.

Answer 11

OMG you are a baby yourself! U are 14 years old. How could u possibly support a baby! U should not even be having sex at your age! Listen to the half of you that says no. Enjoy being a child and wait till you are old enough to be having sex. Maybe your baby died because your body was too young to keep it full term. These things happen for a reason. I do not want to sound nasty. Please do not think I am being cruel. Just enjoy your teenage years.....You have plenty of time when u are older to have a baby