It sounds like you haven't had enough yet. When you do, you will know and just pick up your things and quietly walk out the door without looking back.
2007-02-09 14:04:14
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answered by kny390 6
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You need to realize that maybe marrying your teenage sweetheart isn't such a good idea. People change so much from high school to the working world. They grow, their interests change,the mature and build dreams. In high school, the best you could do was dream because you hadn't earned a paycheck that could buy some of those dreams,don't think money hasn't had an effect on your relationship. It most certainly has. I think your relationship is very dysfunctional and you need to part ways. Thinking you are in love with someone that is abusive is not a good way to live your life. If someone loves you, they do everything they can to make you happy,and to be sure your dreams will come true. If you have abuse, whether it is emotional or physical.........that is not love. That is a very angry person,a person whom feels deprived of something in their life,so they strike out to the ones closest to them because in their mind that person has let them down. That's not love,leave now sir.Move on with your life............it's not hell out there.
2007-02-09 14:11:04
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answered by fisherwoman 6
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Its not easy, but if you are truly unhappy and she is what you say she is, then it sounds like its the best thing to do.
Make sure you have a place to go, money to get by till payday, and plenty of your things to do ya. If she is what you say, i would take all my valuables. lol
Not funny i know, sorry. I truly feel for ya. I was in the same boat. He wasnt my first bf or anything, but he was abusive. Its hard, but after only 4 months, I am doing great! I still have a few down days, but I am doing good.
You can do it too. It will hurt u as much to leave her, as it will hurt her. I know. But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do and follow your heart. Get out before there are children involved and it becomes complicated.
I wish u luck. Sorry again. :(
2007-02-09 14:08:09
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answered by Truth Teller 5
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Have you talked to a therapist ?
If she won't go alone and work out what you want to do for youself and you did not saqy weather you have children or not?
If your wife is really abusive, this also includes children, find another place to live. Put one foot in front of the other take the kids and walk out the door. make arangemnts with a atty to imeadiatly file for custody and site the abuse you can prove.
abuse by either partner is UNACCEPTABLE.
If you can do it wait till she goes oout for awhile and make sure the kids are with you at the time.
good luck.
If necessary sustantiate the abuse and have a cop near or wittnesses to see that you did not take her things, break anything or attack her.
If you can work out your problems fine, but that will take a lot of doing.
2007-02-09 14:07:12
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answered by andreamarie 2
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If you are determined to leave, just do it. (Think hard about it if you have kids, of course.) If you really feel like it's going to be hard to get away, just go to the lawyer and have the papers drawn up. You might want to find some other place to stay for a little while. Around here you can have the papers served for $35 and BOOM, there it is. Chances are, she'll be pretty upset at that point. Anyway, once you declare "game over" it's pretty hard to undo it.
2007-02-09 14:12:35
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answered by cy ko tic 4
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First make up your mind completely to leave.
Second get the money together and set aside.
Third tell her it's over and give her just about everything because it's worth it to be rid of her.
Get your stuff and get out, enjoy the rest of your life never forgetting what you learned.Thank her for everything she gave you on this without her knowing your beeing sarcastic.
You are an experienced man, nevertheless, go forth!!!
Good luck and congratulations taking the first step towards your own well deserved happiness.
Chop, Chop, the clock is ticking!!!
2007-02-09 14:06:58
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answered by Anonymous
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properly I as quickly as dated a guy that i replaced into in entire love with. Then there replaced into this time once I hadn't talked to him for a pair of days which replaced into extraordinary. I %. up the newspaper and what do I see on the front web site, my boyfriend! yet what replaced into undesirable replaced into, he replaced into needed for a homicide! Oh my. So apparently he replaced into in a gang and shot somebody and killed him too. It scared me lots. So i bypass and communicate together with his brother some days later, and he says that he cheated on me! i could no longer have self assurance it! I additionally met his baby which i did no longer be attentive to approximately. I advise i'm purely sixteen for goodness sakes!
2016-11-03 00:59:58
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answered by ? 4
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Pack your **** and leave.... This was my case from 16-20... You need to stick up for yourself ASAP! You need to leave and do your own thing. Life will seem quite akward without her at first but once you realize all the fun you can have on dates with others women even if its not serious relationships. This is something you need to do before you enable her to take this abuse to the next level. Please.... Don't think just do. No one, absolutely no one deserves to be abused.
You can e-mail me@ persephonevt@yahoo.com if you want to hear more about my personal story and event of leaving, that however, is something that I don't feel like I need to dish out here.
Good luck. Please, do the right thing. And e-mail me if you need to!
2007-02-09 14:04:38
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answered by Miss. Persephone 2
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I think you should get some counseling b/c it sounds as though you have co-dependency issues and also you must realize that bad habits are hard to break. She`s all you know and that`s what you`re used to so it seems scary and difficult to have to go out and find something new. But you need to look out for number one which is you and if this relationship is killing your spirit, you should just get out as soon as possible.
2007-02-09 14:05:55
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answered by Anonymous
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You start accepting that you deserve better than to be treated like dirt. If she refuses counseling and refuses to do anything to improve her behaviour.. you walk out the door and don't look back.
You have to see yourself as having some level of worth first, though. You seem to be of the mind that you somehow deserve to be treated this way.
No man, no woman deserves to be abused in any relationship.
2007-02-09 14:04:16
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answered by S. W 4
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talk to friends and family, find someone willing to take you in until you get on your feet. wait until she is out of the house. then pack your personal belongings and go. arrange ahead of time for the friend or relative to pick you up if necessary.
there is nothing worse than living with someone who is abusive. either mentally or physically. i know, I've been there and it wasn't pleasant.
you owe it to yourself to try for a happy life.
2007-02-09 14:19:16
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answered by angel1 5
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