I just can't stop thinking about her. She's a friend of mine,and I love spending time with her. She has a boyfriend that treats her like crap,but she still loves him. She doesn't know that I am bi though(not many people do),and if she did,I don't know if she'd talk to me again(she's one of those people....I know...)if I told her that I liked her.
Its just so painful for me though. I want to tell her how I feel so badly.I wish that she could feel the same way about me.
How can I ease the pain?
2007-02-09 13:41:40 · 7 answers · asked by Myaloo 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Not all straight girls are as straight as they seem. I've had sex with plenty of women who claimed they were straight - before and afterwards.
Honestly, if she wouldn't talk to you if she knew you were bi, she's not worth your time. You seem young - you're going to lose a few friends in the coming out process, but I can guarantee you'll get some better ones down the road.
2007-02-12 18:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Salek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one to answer. I've got a huge crush on a girl that is Bi. I'm staright in her and everyone else's opinion. I only realized I could be bi- because I got to know her and have feelings also. It's really complicated because I'm married. She and I had a big fight that I still don't know what happened. We haven't talked in months. My advise is keep being there for her. Have some drinks and talk openly and honestly. Don't expect gone with the wind right away. It may take, days, weeks, months before she figures it out. It took me months to figure it out. Once I did, she decided she didn't want to be friends anymore. Make sure it's just not the thrill of making a staright girl Bi. It's really love. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-09 13:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by confused 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I am in the exact same situation. She's straight, has a total jerk of a boyfriend, doesn't know how I feel, etc. So I know exactly how you feel. What I have done is just distance myself. I can't quite convince myself to just stay away from her because I like her company so much, but I also know that she is not and will probably never be interested in me. If the girl you like isn't even open to other peoples orientation it would probably be really risky to tell her how you feel. You don't want to completely lose the friendship. It sucks seeing someone you care about, and someone you would treat so well, with a dirt bag. Just keep in mind that you'll meet someone down the road who shares your feelings. Good luck.
2007-02-09 20:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no happy or easy way out of this. She is straight and you are her friend. Be her friend. You can tell her that her boyfriend is crap. She probably won't listen though. They never do until its over. You need more friends that are like you. Some gay or bi grrls to hang with. good luck
2007-02-09 13:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lorien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is she is straight, just be a good friend to her and tell her that she shouldn't be with someone that treats her like crap.
2007-02-09 13:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to get her to dump her boyfriend, first off. a guy who treats a girl like crap just does not deserve a girl. i don't care how much she loves him. if she loved cocaine, would that be an excuse? no. the same brain chemicals are involved in love and in drug addiction. she needs to leave him
as for your problem, i question why you would even hang out with someone who doesn't respect herself enough to dump her crappy boyfriend and is so intolerant that she wouldn't talk to you if you came out, much less have a crush. maybe you should come out to her so you can see first hand how unworthy she is of you and move on...
2007-02-09 13:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by scruffy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go straight or let her be.
2007-02-09 13:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋