ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR A YEAR. I LOST MY VIRGINITY TO HIM, AND TWO MONTHS AFTER I GOT PREGNANT. I AM 15 YEARS OLD, AND I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT A WEEK AGO. HE WON'T TALK TO ME, HE JUST TOLD ME HE WAS TOO YOUNG TO HAVE A BABY. IF I TELL MY PARENTS I'M PREGNANT, THEY'LL KICK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE. WHAT SHOULD I DO??? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-02-09 13:38:36 · 41 answers · asked by I Thought U Were The One 4 Me!!! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The first thing is to try not to have a serious grudge against him....yes, he's wrong for not talking to you. But he's probably just as scared as you are. I found myself in the same situation, and he might come around eventually.
But in the meantime, you have to worry about yourself. And you will have to tell your parents. If not them, find another trusted adult. You have to makre sure that you get proper health care so that the baby won't suffer...you want to be as healthy as possible. If you have a counselor, or someone in the community or in your family that you can confide in, definately do so. Remember, abortion isn't the only option here. Talk it over with that trusted adult. And last of all....pray...everything will be alright.
Oh, and if you need any encouragement, feel free to message me.
2007-02-09 13:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by lilsedalemami 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Okay so there would be a number of reasons. He could be competent for a little one as he is of that age where he's mature (or maturer). He would be scared to lose you so feels having a little one may just maintain you together. He could be lonely, scared and determined for some steadiness and safety in his existence. All i can say is do not rush in to some thing if you are now not capable. Do not believe pressurised by him to have a baby or transfer in etc.....Take your time. If he are not able to take delivery of that then he's not correct for you. A child is for existence, it can be rough work. He is also very naive and would bail on you when you're pregnant like so many men. Consider about what you want. Excellent success x
2016-08-10 15:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by husted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be completely honest with you dont worry your self about him not wanting to talk to you hell evenually come around to feeling comfortable with talking to you.I guess you both are really young and I've seen that happen alot in young pregnacies. On the other hand if he doesnt come around then thats when you need to worry about the walfare of your unborn child; I've had one miscarrige due to too much stress & thats not something that is easy to deal with. One being because you'll always feel as though it was your fault afterwards and you too will say he's to blame just as well; so you dont want to stress about that. I know you maybe afarid to tell your parents so was I and that made things worse for me cause I couldnt gain up enough courage to tell my dad to take me to a doctor & I didnt want to go alone. What you try to hide from your parents they end up just knowing anyways & when they start noticing the changes in your body theres no turning back. They maybe mad but if they love you they'll do everything they can to HELP regardless if the daddies there are not. So reconsider the fact about telling your parents; the bigger your belly grows as your pregncacy progresses the happier you'll be knowing that at least your parents are there for you! I am 33 weeks pregnant right now & I dont want to have anything to do with my little girls father but from what I have been told throughout my pregnacy is that we wont get along until the babys born. I really hope I helped answer your question. Remember be STRESS FREE right now its really important!!!
Roshanda G age 21
2007-02-09 14:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Bug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I doubt your parents will kick you out of the house. They WILL be upset with you, but the first thing you need is help, so they're probably the best choice. They're going to find out eventually anyway.
Once you get that taken care of, you can have one of 2 options--adoption or abortion. They may both sound bad, but a 15 year old is not the best person to be a full time mother.
Whatever happens, be strong. You may have messed up, but you'll live on and hopefully make better choices in the future.
2007-02-09 15:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by I am soooo splendiferous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was pregnant at 15. i had the baby even when the daddy left and never came back. i finished high school and am in college now. i lost some sleep and some friends but i also found out who my true friends truly were. my aunt had an abortion 24 years ago and still feels bad about it today. abortion is something that most people regret for the rest of their lives.all of your dreams are still reachable. its just another part of life. take parenting classes to help you out. tell your parents. what ever they do it will be OK. after telling your parents tell your boyfriends parents. they may be the push he needs to be a man about things.
2007-02-10 03:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Charlee S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can answer this question is YOU. You have to decide the best thing for YOU. Secondly, forget your boyfriend. He is just a sperm donor. If he is refusing to talk to you in a situation like this, don't ever have anything else to do with him EVER! There are places you can turn that will not judge you. If you have a family member that you trust, that is who I would turn to first. If not, you can call a local pregnancy crisis center - they will be in the yellow pages of the phone book. They will provide a free pregnancy test, counseling, and explain all your options to you. If you have a friend or family member you trust, take them with you for support but only you can decide the best thing for you. It is going to be difficult and not pleasant, but hold your head high and stick to what you think is best. Chances are, if all else fails, your parents will not kick you out of the house so don't worry about that. It may be better for you to tell them rather than them finding out from someone else. Good luck and feel free to send me a message if you want to talk. Don't be scared. It is not the end of the world (even though it feels like it) and you will figure out the best thing to do.
2007-02-09 13:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by becca311 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my sister was 15 also your parents will be mad but your there daughter and 15 you need to tell them . as for your boyfriend its a little to late for him to say that now give him a liile time i've been ,married 5 years when i told my husband he was so upset(i was late getting my depo)he would talk to me and kept saying some pretty mean stuff through out my whole preg.all the way unitll 2 days before i had her and i had a scheduled c section. our daughter is 4 weeks and couldnt be more of a daddys girl .already needless to say he apologizes every day. give it time also dont listen to the other that tell you to have an abortion young single moms make just as good of parents as ne one else i think you should take responsibility for your actions and raise this child as if you were 25 years old.
2007-02-09 13:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by katie b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, please calm down. You need to get help. Even though you'll be embarrassed or asamed, it's the smartest thing to do for you and your baby. If you don't want to tell your parents tell an adult which you're really close to (Your friend's mom? A friendly teacher? An older cousin?). Your parents are going to find out one way or another so you might as well tell them very soon after. As stressed as you'll be still try to stay atop` of your grades. After birth, hire a tutor to help to finish highschool. Your boyfriend was a coward and I'm sorry.
Also, DO NOT get an abortion. Abortion is horrible. If you don't want to have the baby give him or her up for adoption.
2007-02-09 13:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have a responsibility like this. Your bf is a coward for leaving you alone with this dilemna. As terrifying this might be , try to tell your parents about this. Try to seek adult supervision since you need help. Abortion is not the only option. Don't do something that you will haunt you in the future. There are groups in the communities that can help you. Leave your bf alone . Karma will get him! Be strong !
2007-02-09 13:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK my name is baby spice i am a girl i too got pregnant at 15yrs. and the father left me to fen for my self my mother is a single parent yo she beat me and i was hospitalize for a week cut a long story short my son is now six years old and i am still on my own but i am never better so i think that u should write Ur mom a letter but go to a friends house
2007-02-09 13:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by alethea b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋