My best friends and i were like inseperable we were always together every chance we got. Now they are both dead. Friends at school were sad but then like 3 days ago they were back to laughing and i am still sad i would think its bad to laugh with out them here. every chance i get i would go out side and look up into the sky and say i love you and i pray everynight for them. i dont get why i feel so bad all the time and no one esle cares. everyone is avoiding me now because they say i am to sad to be with them it hurts alot. How can i be happy again with out feeling guilty and with out wanting to die and be with them?
2007-02-09 13:32:40 · 21 answers · asked by youcantseeme2976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to seek help sweetie, I am sorry for your loss!
2007-02-09 13:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find someone to talk to about this. If you don't want to pay a counsellor, most pastors would love to help you. (Even if you don't go to church, just show up to one and ask the pastor if you can talk to him sometime. Pastors live for that.)
I can't quite imagine the pain that you are going through, but remember that there are plenty of reasons to keep on living, and there are still plenty of people who care about you. I know you miss your friends, but there is no guarantee that if you die you will actually be with them anyway.
Try to find things to channel your feelings. Some people are helped by journals. Perhaps your thing is art. Maybe going for a jog helps you. Everybody is different, but find some way to release your feelings in a non-destructive way.
Finally, remember that these things take time. This is probably the toughest thing you're going to have to go through in your life. If you can get through this, you are going to grow as a person. Don't bottle up your feelings (they'll come out eventually) and don't shut yourself off from other people. You'll make it. You'll always miss your friends, but if they were really your friends (and I'm sure they were) they would want you to live a happy life.
2007-02-09 13:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by cy ko tic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm really sorry to hear that. I have thought of what life would be like if I lost my two best friends. One I've known since we were 5 is in Iraq. And the other is like my soul mate. I just love her more than anything. If I lost her, I'd crash. It's normal to grieve when you lose someone close to you. You need to find someone who is willing to listen to you and understand what you're going through. It may be hard to move on, but your best friends would want you to be happy and live life. Do that.
Find someone who will listen and try to live life.
Oh, and don't go drinking anytime soon.
2007-02-09 14:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by VxOxIxD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think about it: do you really think your friends would want you to be unhappy? You need to celebrate their lives and the fun you had together. Create a memorial, like a painting or a website. Volunteer at a suicide hotline to prevent other kids from doing this. Ask your guidance counselor or favorite teacher(s) if they can do a charity dance in honor of your friends. All kinds of positive things you could be doing instead of moping around.
2007-02-09 13:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Matt P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad I don't know you, sounds like your bad luck, or a drop dead bore! just kidding, you have to just pick yourself up and get through it, as times passes it gets a little easier each and every day! You will always think about them but the pain does go away
2007-02-09 13:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, my prayers go with you. The friendship you Had with them will be with you always, I am sure that there were some funny times that you had with the three of you, remember them and honor them with the good memories, not the sad ones. Yes they are gone, now it is up to you to tell others how great your friendship was and to honor them with a smile and laughter. Never forget.......................................
You can look toward your family and your friends family for support. Share with them some of the good times you all had together, you will know when this time is right.
God Bless...........................
2007-02-09 13:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by kevferg64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that must be real heard to deal with. but look at it like this there in a better place now. you have all right to feel how you do tho cause you lost a part of you too. Just try and be strong don't get yourself down i know its hard to get by when you lose someone that you love , I myself lost my mother at a very young age and i still feel the void left there i think about her every day, but i have to move on so that she can live on in my memories. Just remember that time heals all wounds and you need to live so that they can look over you times are hard now a days and alot of people feel that they need to give up but just know that if you give up now your giving up on them. laugh a little cry a little its all part of life just remember that when it come down to it your life meant something to them now let there death mean something to you. keep your head up and be strong and when times are ruff just look up into the sky and give them a little smile cause you know there looking over you.Feel free to talk to someone about how you feel there are people who will listen be strong.
2007-02-09 13:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by mrfeem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry and it will hurt for awhile. Some people try to forget things quick and in wierd ways. So, just ignore those people and knwo that the feelings you have now are alright.
Remember you are still here on earth and that you are here for a reason. Please continue trying to figure out what that thing is.
Bless you and I am sorry
2007-02-09 13:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by rblewis7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to remember them as they will be watching over you,,ignore what other people tell you,,just remember all the good times you had together,,i know it is hard,,,but eventually you will be ok,,,the other people probably care but trying just to hide it,,my parents passed away the same way so i know were you are coming from,,,just think of all the good and rough times you had with them..you will always think of them as i think of my parents who passes away 30 years ago,,well take care and hope you feel better
2007-02-09 13:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by jerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to someone...you need some counseling...my prayers are with you..I have lost friends in the past and it is very hard to get through but you have to keep faith.
2007-02-09 14:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could say something to make everything better, but in reality its going to take more than anybody on yahoo answers can give you, talk to your family or seek professional help, find someone you can trust and talk to and then talk to them, you'll never be able to find people to replace your best friends, but you will find new friends but in the mean time stay strong....and know that even though i don't know you personally you'll be in my prayers
2007-02-09 13:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by Leannedrufy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋