You are married and thought that no matter what, your spouse will always be there for you, that you'll never have to cry alone, that he will be the one wipe your tears away, and care for you.
But now you realised that there're countless times you cried and YOU were always the one wiping your own tears away.
If this means he doesn't care, what should you do to toughen up, to cheer yourself up?
I know life is good, and if I am strong enough from the inside I would be ok even if my spouse doesn't care for me anymore. But it just seems too hard right now to feel any better.
2007-02-09 13:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by Ann M. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're too emotional and men don't want to deal with this. Don't you think he has his own problems? Toughen up and learn a thing or two from the men around you, who don't go crying and whining when they break a finger nail.
Edit: Hey Bert, pushing religion on the weak and vulnerable is not a cool thing to do. Keep your fictional Son of Gawd away from these boards.
2007-02-09 13:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Im with Buckeye Chick, Im in the same boat too. Life is too short to waste anymore time on guys that dont give a c.r.a.p about you. It will get better, at some stage. And you have been there for you - so you know you can rely on you! So being single for a while isnt so scarey, when you know you have someone to count on - YOU. Cheer up and take some time for yourself, find things you enjoy doing, you are already tough enough babe, we are all stronger than we think. I wish you all the best and send you my love!
2007-02-09 14:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was your spouse always the same way, or it seems that he stop caring suddenly?
Some people care but don't know how to show affection. Others
-specially some men - feel award to see a woman cry, they don't know how to react.
Talk to your husband, tell him exactly how you feel, what you expect from him. If both of you love each other, compromise and start working in your relationship as if you just met..
2007-02-09 13:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel. i am in the beginning stages of divorce after over 20 years of marriage-its really scary, but what scares me even more is the idea of wasting the remainder of my life with someone who doesnt make me happy. its not fair to him and its not fair to me either. in our case we got married way too young and we have totally grown apart. he is not there for me emotionally at all - which is what it sounds like you are going through. i say leaving him would probably be the best thing you can do-everyone deserves to be happy and there actrually are good guys out there who will wipe away the tears - instead of causing them. put yourself first for once. things will work out for you - be strong and don't waste half of your life in a dead end relationship like I have-move on and enjoy your life - you only live once.
2007-02-09 13:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by buckeye chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your spouse know on how you feel and how it is the "we" that makes things right in a marriage/relationship. Avoid the offensive usage of "why cant you..." or "you dont..." when you speak with him.
If it cannot be resolved, seek a marriage counselor.
One shouldnt learn or change to compensate for the other's shortcoming. It needs to work and grow together.
2007-02-09 13:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI life is not bed of roses....
yes our spouses forget abt us to care to wipe tears.....but that doesnt mean that we gonna loose our brains and do the same....
Try to b there yourself for your spouse....that will b worth it....
2007-02-09 13:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by DON 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce them.. dont look back .. life is too short to put up with the BS..
2007-02-09 14:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like to me you've been watching too many bolywood movies.
2007-02-09 14:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our life needs a foundation to work, our life begins with finding out who we are, to know love and to love others we must first be loved......Jesus loves us so much that He died on the cross for our sins, He came to give us life, and life more abundently,our life begins at the cross and ends at the cross.... all He wants is our hearts.....Jesus loves you....God bless ya
2007-02-09 13:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
people change and things happen, you can't experience intimacy when the feelings are gone
2007-02-09 13:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by crazy4u0223 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋