please somebody help me, I am 5 months pregnant, my boyfriend doesn't have money and is not working yet, my family and friends have rejected me because of the shame of unwanted pregnancy. I love my baby and I don't want anything to happen to it. I have not been going to Antenatal and I don't feed well either. I just don't want to give up for i am a strong girl and I don't want anything bad to happen to either me or the baby. Please, somebody tell me what to do, I am very confused. I need help. fast before something goes wrong. Also, I am still in the University..
2007-02-09 13:11:53 · 20 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go to your health dept. get signed up for some insurance for pregnant women who can afford health care so u can get doc visits and have your lil one in a hospital, also get yourself some tanif, its emergency money for people like you who are in a tight spot, also get some wic vouchers and see if they can set u up on some food stamps so u can eat healthy too. Dont be ashemed this is the reason that the system is set, for women to get the help they need during rough times. Im glad your in school, get your education and dont worry bout your fam. Once they see that beautiful baby, they'll come around! Also the health dept can help your b/f find a good job! Keep your head up sweetie, you seem very strong!!
2007-02-09 13:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by marinewife 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, word to the wise no one ever makes enough money to have child, you love your baby and it will all work out in the end. The shame of "unwanted" pregnancy goes away when the baby is born your family should come around when the little one arrives. Now are for your boyfriend, there is no reason why he shouldn't have a job, he needs to swallow his ego (if he has one) and get a job where ever he can. As for you there are a lot of women's resource centres that are there to help you. Also if you are in Canada there is a program called Healthy Start that will give you money to buy good food while you are pregnant. Don't worry there are a lot of resources out there for you, obviously you have a computer utilize it and start looking up government sites in your area.
2007-02-09 21:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by erin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you for being such a strong person and having to deal with your family and your friends must be hard. It' amazing that till this day there are still so many people who are so close minded about this issue!
"Unwanted pregnancy"??? Who are they to say this pregnancy is unwanted? I know that the support from family and friends is great, however.... if they can't show their support at a time like this... than it sounds like you are better off leaving them out of it!
If you feel like keeping your baby is the right decision for you - you REALLY should go see a doctor.... your health and the baby's should be your priority. Forget what the neighbors will say or how "society" will see you.... you have better things to worry about.... YOUR NEW BABY.... there should be no time to think about people talking.... besides... with or without the baby... they will always talk! - if not the baby... they'll find something else to gossip about! that's the sad reality....
Trust me.... there are plenty of women out there who are single mothers and still finish their university - you might have to take a semester or two off.... but you can do it.... there's a lot of help out there! you just have to turn to those who are willing to help.
what country or state or city do you live in?
2007-02-09 21:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by gabster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound very young my best advice would actually be to give the baby to a loving childless couple. If you can't even feed yourself while your pregnant you can't expect to be healthy enough to breastfed a baby if you plan to bottle feed you are not going to be able to afford it with no job and a jobless baby's father no family support. You need to think of what's the very best for the baby and if you deeply do love this baby would would not allow a baby to suffer due to your current life. If you can't do a adoption get your buttt TOGETHER now get a job get some support kick the job-less sperm donor out of your life unless he gets work SOON. you can make it work you have to put effort into it you have to eat well you have to find a way to make money if you can't do that you need to let someone adopt the baby who can provide.
2007-02-09 21:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact t he Sisters of Life. They will take you in for your entire pregnancy and let you stay for 6 months after. Plus you can spend time with other pregnant women who are in the same predicament. I know so many of them and they are so great. I am not this super good girl either but they are still so good to me and I feel so loved by them. Email me and I can send you some #'s. In the meantime go this website and scroll to the bottom of the page. They will help you and you will be fine just like every other girl that has gone into their care.
http://sistersoflife.org/vm.htm
Don't hesitate to contact me. Your family will eventually come around
2007-02-09 21:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by radiation b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breathe. Relax, tension is bad for the baby. The University you are at likely has a health clinic, go there for a check up and to get some help for you and the child. If you are at all a believer find a place of your faith and head there. To talk and to pray. Talk with your BF and make some plans both long term and short term. Most of all just calm down and try and take it easy, things are rarely as bad as they look.
2007-02-09 21:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE DOCTOR! Tell your doctor what is going on in your life, and they will be able to counsel you, or direct you to someone else who can properly counsel you. If you are still with your boyfriend, you need to encourage him to find a job quickly, because raising a baby is not free or even cheap. He needs to man up, and take care of the responsibility. If you are not still with him, then you need to get yourself together. If you are feeling like you can't make it, then you can not take care of a baby. Your baby needs you now, and forever. There are sources for financial and medical help for you and your baby, but you have to pull yourself together and go ask for it. Do not be too proud, or ashamed to ask for help. Everyone needs help from time to time. I am not trying to come down on you or make you feel badly in any way, but you have to be strong in every way for the sake of yours and your baby's health. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-09 21:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by sfb_wolfpack_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that your parents do not want to help you...the same thing happened to me but i went to live with my mom and thank god she helped me..i did not know anything about raising a baby...i wander if you have any family that does not feel like your parents does....i really do not know what to say...maybe you can get some public assistance and get a place to live and i know there is wic that helps pregnant girls...you have to check things out there where you live...i am sorry i do not know more to say...i am glad you love your baby enough to want to keep it...your life is going to change big time though and you will have some difficult decisions to make...if the dad of the baby cares about you maybe his parents will help...he should stand beside you i hope anyway but that did not happen with me...i wish you the best...i do think your parents are wrong though..my dad was a baptist minister but i had to leave kansas but my mom and dad were divorced because i had a sister die at 14 and my mom could not live a preachers wife at that time...so it worked out for me and i pray it does for you..............
2007-02-09 21:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your man to get job and you should get a parttime job as well. If your being judged by your family members then gather up all the energy and prove them wrong. Don't let your boyfriend off the hook he should of been working if your 5months pregnant. That shows a little bit of his charector and what your going to deal with if he never gets a job. Good luck.
2007-02-09 21:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by missingNYC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would check into some state or federal programs. There are plenty out there that will help you. Don't be too proud to get help. Did you see The persuit of happyness? You should. It truly gives you the perspective that you need as a new/struggling parent.
Please get help and make him get a job. You and your baby need medical care!!!! If you don't feel well, there could be something really wrong.
2007-02-09 21:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋