2007-02-09 13:02:23 · 7 answers · asked by baby jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guys i am not old enough for menopause...totally love men and am not bitter...
2007-02-09 13:09:16 · update #1
menopause
2007-02-09 13:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Robert F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cos you just havent met the right someone to make you lose the fear of intamacy with someone else. It is a very scarey thing, Im abit the same way. Alot of people just cant go and make love or just have sex casually, it has to mean something to them before they can do it. Basicly its having the trust, to not be afraid that the person is not going to laugh, or be offended or that you will be hurt in some way (is that how you feel?). Ive had a heap of offers myself, but just havent been able to take them up on it because I just dont find them that attractive to me, not that they are unattractive - but because there isnt that "SPARK" between us. And thats what I need. I guess its different for everyone, but just take time for yourself and think about what it is that is holding you back, and how you feel about those issues, it may help.
2007-02-09 15:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its normal. The thought of another man touching you the way your mate did is kinda sickening in the same manner if you think of him touching someone the way he touched u. Turns your stomach huh?
It passes with time, but i have been there. Took me about a year. I just had no interest in another man until i was completely healed from my failed relationship.
It emotionally draining when you are trying to recover from a devastating event like that. You dont feel like doing much and often slip into some sort of depression. Sometimes medical attention is needed and sometimes it simply takes a little time to move on.
Dont be in a hurry. It does no good to do it when you are in the state of mind that you are. It only makes it worse. Just keep busy and make sure you arent suffering from depression. If you are, perhaps seeking some medical attention would be an idea. I did it, and it was but a few weeks and I felt alot better. We all have problems at times that our bodies just cant seem to overcome by itself. A little time on meds makes all the difference in recovery time.
Good luck to u hun. I am sorry u are suffering from this. It sucks, but you will be fine in time. Check on those meds though. They do help and its only temporary that you have to take them. It doesnt mean your crazy, but sometimes your brain mixes up chemicals when u are dealing with such an ordeal. It happens to most of us. The meds just sort them all out, and put them back in order so to speak. Think about it. Good luck.
2007-02-09 13:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey Baby Jo, there's nothing wrong with the way you feel. It may change, it may not. Don't worry. When you're ready for another relationship, you'll find one. You might start by learning to really like, love and trust yourself. After all, if you can't love yourself, how can anyone else. So, accept yourself as you are, without judgment. Then, when you can truly love and accept yourself, you will find others will like you and be attracted to you. If you love yourself you will honor yourself by the choices you make in your relationships. Good luck.
2007-02-09 13:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uuggh I know, I'm the same way. I think it's because after being with someone that long you are used to their touch and the way they do things. They learned everything you like, you learned everything they liked...It's really hard to imagine someone else taking that place.
2007-02-09 13:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time heals. Don't jump into another relationship now, but give it some time and when you find the right man for you, touching will feel heavenly, believe me.
2007-02-09 13:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds cool if we were married that long with
devil dirtbag.
but don be one of those men-haters
2007-02-09 13:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋